To not give neighbor internet password?

[NegansDollFace]

I’ve lived at my current address for 3 years, 4 in November 2018. The house next door is split into two flats, one upstairs and one down. So I’ve never been particularly close to my next door neighbors. We exchange (limited) pleasantries if we see each other and they’ve taken in a parcel for me once and I for them a few times. They work night times and there’s a bit of a language barrier so we legitimately don’t have any relationship beyond polite.

Tonight when I was at our local supermarket when I saw neighbor from the upstairs flat, I smiled an acknowledged him but moved to go to the self checkout. He followed and began a conversation asking how I was, fine, fine but when I ask him how he is he tells me not so good. He goes onto explain that downstairs neighbors have moved out and took their internet with them. I can already see where this is going so he asked if he could have my WiFi password and that he was willing to pay for it. I was put on the spot so I told him I’d speak to him when I’m home.

I’m home now and really am hoping the fact that I haven’t gotten back to him will speak for itself. What would you all say/do? I have incredibly bad social anxiety and I’m very awkward in these situations. Am I BU to just tell him no? And feel like he’s being cheeky? Surely if he shared internet with the flat below they’d have told him they were moving so he’d have time to get a different provider? Also if he’s willing to pay to use mine wouldn’t it just be easier to get his own installed?

Just saw your update...what a horrible woman! If either of them come round again, just a 'like I said yesterday, I'm not comfortable with that. Bye' should do the trick.

How well do you know the landlord? I’d probably drop her a note to say you just want to let her know that they’re annoyed the others moved out and ‘took their wifi’ and that they’re pressuring you to give them your code and you won’t, so now they’re being unpleasant & are trying to blackmail/guilt you into it by saying they used hear your DD if she woke in the night. Just to give her a heads up.

Nothing will happen due to normal child noise. Lots of kids wake screaming from night terrors. I still have the bags under my eyes and she’s 12 now. Pretty much every night, several times a night, for over a year. Our neighbour was lovely about it as she realised that no matter how shit it was for her when she was (thankfully only occasionally) woken by it, it was FAR worse for us.

And don't forget that if they get your password, you have no control over who else they share it with.

If they tried to get you kicked out because of your DDs noise - the Landlord would be in trouble if he tried to do anything. Your DD is disabled, and you are a family.
Families may make more noise but that is normal. If you went to your MP/Council they would be most likely to try to get your Landlord to improve the soundproofing. No one wants families to be evicted, especially with a disabled child.

These are not nice people but users.

Just remember, if you think your anxiety is bad now, what will it be like when you are agonising over what they have been downloading.

I am so cross that she chucked in that reference to your DD, thinking it was some kind of trump card. Fuck her. Nasty bitch.

I suspect they can spot how anxious you are, and are playing you
That is plain creepy.
The fact that they are so creepy would mean you shouldn't let them use your code.
You can ignore it, or if they persist then go to your landlord and say they are pressuring you to handover the password.

Just saying you don't feel comfortable with giving them the password will just make them try to persuade you even more. Just tell them that your provider forbids it and then there is no room for negotiation.

Pick one reason/excuse and stick to it. Don't get into arguments of why you did not talk at the shop, you were taken by surprise!

Do not go into you concerns or fears. Nothing they say can guarantee anything!

Tell them to get their own. They can get Pay as you go if they haven't got a landline. I've got a mobile wifi device that was about £60. I top up as and when I need to. Top ups are £10 for 1G or £15 for 3G. It's an expensive way of paying for data, suits my needs at the moment but obviously wouldn't last long if I wanted to stream anything. Previously had a broadband dongle that cost about £20-£25 I think, topped up in the same way.

I've had issues with anxiety. Would it help to tell them you have pay as you go yourself and use it just for basic internet access, therefore limited data?

Agree with LoniceraJaponica sharing your concerns will just make them insist they will not do XYZ, which is meaningless.

Say no for all the reasons suggested. Suggest he tether his phone if he needs it in an emergency.

We partitioned our internet and shared with our neighbours. DP is very tech savvy so was able to do this easily. Just say no, sorry but no. You don't need to give a reason at all really if you aren't all pally pally. If downstairs hasn't left he wouldn't have even spoken to you so nothing lost!!

OP, my neighbours were good friends of ours and (random, I know) used to lend us their power-washer. They moved to Dubai and are renting their house out as of last year. We are just this evening pricing up power-washers, because we dom’t want the new neighbour (who we are on Christmas card terms with, gave her DD a small present) to think we are cheeky fuckers to ask. Do NOT give this person your password!

Sorry I’ve said in my bed listening for the past few minutes there to make sure I’m not crazy. They’ve sat banging on the wall since my last update. Literally banging away. The wall that they’re using is separating them from my bedroom. This is literally not a fucking coincidence!

PetBear, Dp is not from the UK. English is his second language but GF is from this area.

Our landlord doesn’t exactly care about us. Or at least that’s the gist I get. Most repairs or things that have needed done I’ve needed to do and pay for because going through the agency gets absolutely no where. These people take my concerns and then ignore them. So I’m not sure how confident I’d be if these neighbors did report. It could go either way with the agency brushing things off as normal or not.

Tell them you have contacted your provider and it is not allowed. Advise them that they can buy an Internet dongle and a prepaid sim card and top up as needs be or else give them the name of the local library. Do not be blackmailed.

NegansDollFace Its harassment, start keeping a diary and write it all down in case you need it later on

They must be completely stupid to think this is how you get someone to do you a huge favour. Maybe its why the other neighbour moved (or changed their router).

Record the noise in case it escalates. Likelihood is that they’ll get bored and move on to something else. Otherwise, they’re just handing you ammo for reporting them to the landlord for noise nuisance.

Jeeez they sound nuts.

I would tell the landlord and then the council.

And defo say NO to the wifi usage.

Could you go and ask why the fuck they are banging?

Follow Upstart and Janice advice. Sooner you start the better. If it persists, expect the agency to react and investigate _ or tell them you are bringing police and environmental health in re noise nuisance

They sound like twats.

Oh shit - sorry - they're completely unreasonable.

They are nasty cheeky bastards. I wonder whether your other neighbours actually knew the CFs were using their internet permanently. Is there any way you could get in touch with them now?

What horrible people.
Don't engage with them, keep a note of this kind of behaviour.
They've already proved why sharing your password with them would be a mistake.

What arseholes