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To not give neighbor internet password?

712 replies

NegansDollFace · 29/01/2018 21:21

I’ve lived at my current address for 3 years, 4 in November 2018. The house next door is split into two flats, one upstairs and one down. So I’ve never been particularly close to my next door neighbors. We exchange (limited) pleasantries if we see each other and they’ve taken in a parcel for me once and I for them a few times. They work night times and there’s a bit of a language barrier so we legitimately don’t have any relationship beyond polite.

Tonight when I was at our local supermarket when I saw neighbor from the upstairs flat, I smiled an acknowledged him but moved to go to the self checkout. He followed and began a conversation asking how I was, fine, fine but when I ask him how he is he tells me not so good. He goes onto explain that downstairs neighbors have moved out and took their internet with them. I can already see where this is going so he asked if he could have my WiFi password and that he was willing to pay for it. I was put on the spot so I told him I’d speak to him when I’m home.

I’m home now and really am hoping the fact that I haven’t gotten back to him will speak for itself. What would you all say/do? I have incredibly bad social anxiety and I’m very awkward in these situations. Am I BU to just tell him no? And feel like he’s being cheeky? Surely if he shared internet with the flat below they’d have told him they were moving so he’d have time to get a different provider? Also if he’s willing to pay to use mine wouldn’t it just be easier to get his own installed?

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MichaelBendfaster · 02/02/2018 10:43

In the nicest way, OP, you need to do your best to manage your DD's fears and not let that stop you talking to the police.

These people are not reasonable or behaving proportionately and your household needs support.

Freshme · 02/02/2018 10:46

If the OP changes her password and hides the broadcast of her router at the same time, wouldn't it log all her devices out and leaves her unable to log back in because the network is invisible?Hmm

Deathraystare · 02/02/2018 11:06

Just no. I wouldn't be so cheeky! I do not have internet at home and would not dream of doing this!

PiffIeandWiffle · 02/02/2018 11:17

If the OP changes her password and hides the broadcast of her router at the same time, wouldn't it log all her devices out and leaves her unable to log back in because the network is invisible?

Change the passwords first, once all is logged back in hide broadcast.

zzzzz · 02/02/2018 11:54

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BeardofZeus · 02/02/2018 12:16

You’re handling this incredibly well!!

angstinabaggyjumper · 02/02/2018 12:24

Have you considered they might actually have their own internet connection but want to use yours for ...something else?

Freshme · 02/02/2018 13:14

Piffle
Change the passwords first, once all is logged back in hide broadcast.

I realised that for myself, but no one on the thread who insisted she hides the network warned her she needed to do it as two separate steps, re-connect all her devices with a new password, then log in again to hide the broadcast. I wonder if she did hide it at the same time as changing passwords and now sits at home not knowing how to access her own internet, I hope it hasn't happened.
Also, if you do HIDE the broadcast and say put your phone in airplane mode and things are not set to reconnect automatically(and even if they are, will they spot an invisible connection? - I doubt it), how is she to connect again, if she needs it herself? I understand she could login into router and make it visible again temporarily, but for that she needs to be on the network in the first place?

Passmethecakeplease · 02/02/2018 13:49

🤔 This just doesn't sound right.

Tink2007 · 02/02/2018 14:03

I can’t believe this has all occurred over not giving an internet password. It’s very odd.

MorganKitten · 02/02/2018 14:24

You can show the letting agency the topic here - you have the dates and what was said about the internet, so they can't say you agreed to it.
Call the service provider and mention your neighbours are pressuring you to share your password and you know it breaks your contract, ask if they have an extra safety option in case anyone has stolen the password or tried to hack in. then your provider has it on record too.
Then it’s the police, they have been abusive to you and are now trying to manipulate your child. Which shows they aren’t the most stable of people.
Other than that stay strong and post on here when you need us.

NaiceBiscuits · 02/02/2018 14:25

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blackchina · 02/02/2018 14:32

I am not doubting anything you are saying @negansdollface and I am sorry for your troubles, but how come this neighbour was alone with your 6 year old? How, when, and why did she have LONE access to your daughter, when she allegedly asked her for the wifi password? Confused

MorganKitten · 02/02/2018 14:33

Oh also you could ask if the police can be plain clothed police so not in uniform - so not to worry your child but also so it doesn't tip off the psychos in your building.

Monkeyinshoes · 02/02/2018 14:50

Freshme hiding it just means it won’t automatically show up in lists of WiFi networks in the area. OP will have no trouble connecting because she’s know the name of her WiFi network.

E.g if I look in my phone WiFi settings it shows me all the ones broadcasting their SSID. If I knew the name of another one in the area that is hidden I’d just have to select “Other...” then type in it’s name. So if she changes it’s name and hides it they won’t be able to find it but she will.

BabooshkaBabooshka · 02/02/2018 14:51

blackchina Why don't you read further up the thread where she explains clearly why the neighbour was outside with her daughter!

blackchina · 02/02/2018 14:56

Where about babooshka? What post? What page? what time?

Thank you. Smile

Freshme · 02/02/2018 14:57

Monkey

Thanks, it's good to know! I hope the OP reads this too.

blackchina that's why you RTFT

She did explain. The child ran out into the garden while she was in the hall of the house, the neighbour asked her over the fence. The fence is a picket type fence, very low.

blackchina · 02/02/2018 15:01

I did RTFT I just didn't notice the OP saying

DD said she peaked over the wall when she’d been wandering between our garden and hallway. Our wall’s are tiny. For an adult they’d maybe come up to your waist. (yesterday at half five in the afternoon.)

Sorry OP. Yep it is very disturbing.

You need to contact the police now. I would be fearing for my daughter's safety now.

SandyDenny · 02/02/2018 20:16

Where about babooshka? What post? What page? what time?

Highlight the OP's posts and you'll find it yourself in no time

LexieLulu · 03/02/2018 00:10

Op, when you go to bed at night and when you go to work, unplug your WIFI so they can't even see it as an option xx

RowenasDiadem · 03/02/2018 10:18

I hope the neighbours didn't keep you up last night OP. Everything okay today?

StrangeLookingParasite · 03/02/2018 12:30

NegansDollFace Thu 01-Feb-18 16:44:47
Going out the door this morning we were running behind as DD has misplaced her favorite lunch box and we just couldn’t go without it or with a different one. Cue me running around like a lunatic to find it and transfer lunch into it (it was in the wash basket for some reason! DD blames DS but I wonder ...)

So I come back out and start ushering DD into car just as we’re driving off she tells me that the lady next door wanted to know our internet password as ‘mummy’ had given her it and silly her she’d forgotten it. DD is six. SIX! She doesn’t know the bloody password! I saw red. Was shaking as I left her in this morning.

There you go. Took me about two minutes.

JeezeLouise · 04/02/2018 18:51

OP, scariest CF comment for me is him saying "It can be our secret" - I'd say there's good (bad) reason they can't have their own internet account and would call the coppers. You're handling this really well.

RowenasDiadem · 04/02/2018 22:20

@NegansDollFace how's everything been this weekend?