To think DH should have walked the dog?

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Currently six weeks pregnant following fertility treatment. I'm the first to admit that I'm an irrational, hormonal wreck right now. I'm also coping with epic levels of exhaustion and barely able to drag myself through the working day.

I was that tired yesterday that I couldn't even get out of bed. DH wanted to go watch his football team play with his DF. I said no problem as I'm not very entertaining right now. All I asked was that he walk the dog at some point as I didn't think I'd be able to manage it. He didn't walk her before he left and when I reminded him said he'd do it when he got back. However he came back with his DF and they chatted on the sofa for a couple of hours. I reminded him again when DF left that dog hadn't been walked, but he still didn't take her out.

I was awoken at 5am by DH going to the loo and saw that dog had dirtied on bedroom floor (she sleeps in here with us) Totally not like her and a direct result of her not getting her walk. I therefore had to clean it up and I've been wide awake ever since. I'm a very poor morning sleeper and once I'm properly disturbed that's it.

AIBU to be foaming at DH? I asked him to do one simple thing and now I'm suffering because he couldn't be arsed. I should add he's still sleeping away soundly I should also add that dog does normally get a good walk every day (by me) so this was definitely a one off for her.

I’d definitely go mad at him. It’s really unfair to not take out the dog when she’s used to it. Why did you clean up? I’d have made DH do it!

She's such a lazy laid back dog that I think DH just thinks it's fine for her to miss the occasional day. It's not fine though as we have no garden!

DH was in bathroom and I just wanted it gone asap.

He's still asleep. I want to murder him right now!

Who's dog is it? We have a dog but I don't particularly like it. Didn't want one but was hounded (no pun intended) for well over a year. Went away for a bit and when I came home there it was.

On the other hand if it is his or a joint pet then yanbu

Christ. I have a garden and a dog door that’s open 24/7, and I still feel horribly guilty if I don’t walk my dog every day.

He was a selfish and unhelpful arse!

You do realise that this is exactly how he's going to be when he a parent to a human?

She might be a lazy laid back dog but she still needs to pee and poo?! If you had a garden and she been let out to go there then fair enough, she'd have coped without a walk.. but jesus she must have been desperate! Where did he expect her to go?

Unacceptable behaviour from DH. He'll be in for a fright when your baby arrives, you can't just leave them when you can't be arsed either.
It's possible he doesn't understand how dreadful you feel? My DH couldn't get his head round how awful I felt.
Try to have a conversation with him about it and make him see how unfair he has been to the dog.

I don’t care whose dog it is. It’s not okay to let an animal living in your house suffer because it’s not technically yours.

Also, the guy’s wife is pregnant and sick. He should be doing everything he can to help her.

She's definitely our dog. He loves her too. Apart from when it comes down to walking her apparently. Then she seems to become very much my dog. He'll never offer to walk her without me asking.

Doesn’t bode well for fatherhood.

Wow, you’ve picked a good un there to have a baby with! Think how fab he’s going to be with night wakings and housework (and the dog) once you’ve got a baby in the mix!

Yep I can see exactly how parenting is going to be unless you get it sorted now

I’d have woken him, it’s just consequences of his actions. You have most of pregnancy to go, it is not a good time to let these things slide.

Doesn't bode well for his parenting contributions. Wake him up and let him have it by all means.

How does she pee then if no one walks her and you have no garden? Surely she wasn't left for 24 hours?
Tbh, pregnancy or not, if you have a dog and a useless dh it's also your responsibility to make sure the poor creature is properly looked after. You must have known she'd not been out.
I think it's fine to be cross with dh if he hadn't bothered but I would also take a little look inwardly. Why should the dog suffer?

As everyone else says he needs to understand right now what responsibility means.

I don’t want to sound over dramatic but I would consider signing the dog over to a sanctuary to be fair to you and the dog. Your days are going to be getting more hectic and if the only way your dh will help is by you nagging, it is going to be a horrible atmosphere. Congratulations on the pregnancy. Hope all goes well.

He does sound lazy and shit, this doesn't bode well for his role as a father.

However, ultimately the dog needed to be walked and instead of walking it you opted to let your husband see the consequences. That's not fair on the dog. Being pregnant is hard but when you've got the baby there'll be days when you feel shit but you still have to change nappies, entertain it etc. You need to face the fact that this dog needs you to look after it if your husband can't be arsed.

Poor dog, could she at least get out for a see on the front?

I know you are tired and your dh should have done it, the blame is totally on him but I couldn't go to bed knowing he hadn't gone.

Simple solution here...make him pay for a regular (as in at least 4x daily) dog walker. Takes the pressure off you feeling rotten & might make it sink into his skull this whole responsibility thing

I think DH just thinks it's fine for her to miss the occasional day. It's not fine though as we have no garden!

Ask him - where did you expect her to piss? Who did you expect to clean up?

Why didn’t you make HIM clean up at 5 a.m.? He must have stepped over it to go to the bathroom.

It’s bloody awful. You need to make more of a fuss on the dog’s behalf.

My dog won’t go in the garden, she needs a walk to relieve herself. It is a bit annoying, but your DH must be seriously hard of thinking if he didn’t join the dots that no walk = pee or poo mess in the house, or extremely selfish.

I’d be RAGING. And fuck being told it’s pregnancy hormones too. Bastard.

Did the poor dog not get let out for a wee or poo all day? That's cruel if so, yes he should of walked her but can you not even step outside the front door so she can relieve herself? Having no garden is not ideal for a dog unless you're going to take it out for several wee breaks and one good walk.

So neither you or your DH took your dog out for even five minutes in a 24 hour period? Have I got that right?

If so, you are both beyond neglectful. I get that you couldn't take it out for a proper walk, but I really cannot believe that, when you realised that your lazy arse of a husband wasn't taking it, you couldn't pull a pair of shoes and a coat on and step foot out of your front door.

Seriously, take that poor dog to a shelter, make a decent donation and allow somebody who can take care of a dog properly take it home.

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You need to read this and make your husband read it too. My dog gets a short walk 3/4 times per day. We also have a garden that she goes out into 3/4 times too.
Dogs need regular toilet trips and exercise. If she seems lazy and is easily ignored then she might be lying there depressed and needing the loo.

I'm not signing my dog over. She's the light of my life and is devoted to me. She goes out the front of the house to wee normally. She'll normally go out there too if needs be, but sometimes needs a walk to get things going iyswim? I had taken her down multiple times, but she didn't want to go. I would have walked her if I was able, but my exhaustion/nausea was overwhelming yesterday.

He's a good DH in many ways, but this has really woken me up. It's going to have to be sorted now. I'm not having this sort of shit when the baby comes!