To think DH should have walked the dog?

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Currently six weeks pregnant following fertility treatment. I'm the first to admit that I'm an irrational, hormonal wreck right now. I'm also coping with epic levels of exhaustion and barely able to drag myself through the working day.

I was that tired yesterday that I couldn't even get out of bed. DH wanted to go watch his football team play with his DF. I said no problem as I'm not very entertaining right now. All I asked was that he walk the dog at some point as I didn't think I'd be able to manage it. He didn't walk her before he left and when I reminded him said he'd do it when he got back. However he came back with his DF and they chatted on the sofa for a couple of hours. I reminded him again when DF left that dog hadn't been walked, but he still didn't take her out.

I was awoken at 5am by DH going to the loo and saw that dog had dirtied on bedroom floor (she sleeps in here with us) Totally not like her and a direct result of her not getting her walk. I therefore had to clean it up and I've been wide awake ever since. I'm a very poor morning sleeper and once I'm properly disturbed that's it.

AIBU to be foaming at DH? I asked him to do one simple thing and now I'm suffering because he couldn't be arsed. I should add he's still sleeping away soundly I should also add that dog does normally get a good walk every day (by me) so this was definitely a one off for her.

Birdsgottafly. Fecking trans species trying to bully your way into dog spaces! 🐶🤣

Many posters on this thread seem to be lacking perspective. There are millions of animals actually being abused out there yet people are quite happy to slate OP because the dog missed one walk - and that was down to arsehole DH repeatedly promising to take her out and failing. If it makes you feel better OP there was one day I didn’t take my dogs out at all because it was horrible outside and I was being lazy. And I’m not even pregnant... 😱

MyPuppyIsADick do your dogs have access to a garden?

Worra yes they do but they only use it for the toilet then run back in (their choice) so not much different from OP’s situation. Presumably the same posters jumping down OP’s throat would agree that despite the fact mine are fed 3x a day, have unlimited access to water, treats and a warm bed, go to agility class etc I should immediately ship them off to a rescue to someone who ‘would really care for them’ for missing ONE walk

More than a little excessive, is it not?

They need walked several times a day for their mental health. They need to be able to smell things

hmm try telling my lazy retriever that! He hibernates in the winter and would cheerfully not go for a walk at all and yes, he can miss an occasional day (or three) and god help,us if it's raining or windy.....he won't even get out of the drive! He does have access to a garden though and can pee and poo whenever. But then, he's been known to hold onto his pee longer than he should because going out would get him wet and cold

Dogs are individuals just as humans are. I've got two other more active ones and have had a selection of other dogs who've needed either miles and miles of walks each day, to a quick 5 minutes round the block.

Your husband was a dick yesterday, op. It happens sometimes. It doesn't mean he's going to be a crap father and doesn't mean either of you are crap dog owners.

MyPuppyIsADick yes, some of the comments are way OTT but that's Mumsnet for you.

However, the fact the OP says the dog only gets one walk per day isn't really ideal for a dog with no garden. I doubt she'd pass a home-check from a rescue place for example, as they wouldn't think that was OK either.

Mind you, that's all separate to what the OP is asking and her DH should have kept his word and walked the dog.

yet people are quite happy to slate OP because the dog missed one walk

But nobody is slating the OP because her dog missed one walk! If it had access to a garden where it could poo, so didn't have the discomfort of trying to hold it in and then pooing on the bedroom floor, nobody would care.

I do have sympathy for the OP (early pregnancy tiredness can be horrendous) but if she was literally incapable of walking outside slowly for 10 minutes, she should have used whatever means were necessary to get her DH to do it - not just reminding him a few times. That doesn't take away from the fact that her DH is a lazy, selfish arse. I just can't get past the fact that two dog owners allowed their dog to suffer completely unnecessarily for the sake of a short walk.

Well there you have it, miss one dog walk and you're up there with the West's, Fritzl, and Manson. Good effort.

I find it really upsetting that there are so many women on MN who suddenly are incapable of dealing with a pet once they have even a sniff of pregnancy hormones. I've had tonsillitis, been half dead but still managed to drag my arse out of bed and walk the dog round a field as frankly it's bloody cruel not to. Poor dog

Did no-one even let the poor dog out into the garden to go to the toilet?

Worra I agree no garden isn’t ideal but I can’t get worked up about a dog that’s obviously loved and cared for. OP has been given a hard time here, I hope she doesn’t listen to the OTT posters.

I find it really upsetting that there are so many women on MN who suddenly are incapable of dealing with a pet once they have even a sniff of pregnancy hormones

I know. The workplace seems just as bad too, it's amazing how many suddenly can't work or do half the tasks like filling up toner in the copier etc once pregnant. Or those that expect their DH to wait on them hand and foot.

The poor dog must have felt awful because neither of them could be bothered.

Congratulations! Early pregnancy can be hideous, hope you feel better soon.
Yanbu to be angry with DH, he should've walked the dog. He should've cleared up the mess.
Did he apologise? Has he made up for it today?

If you are so tired you can barely stand I'd suggest a trip to the Dr op, it's not normal to be that tired. Is it the nausea doing it?

I can understand why you are pissed off with DH - but lots of us have had to cope with early pregnancy and toddlers and work and dogs. Being 6 weeks pregnant and unable to take a dog for a walk is concerning.