Just walked in on DH having a wank?!?

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Aibu to be pissed off?? Not even sure why I feel slightly pissed off.
Maybe because I'm pregnant and he refused my advances earlier but it was the most awkward thing ever.

ybu but i think you know that.

Awkward? Really?

I just can't get worked up about this. Men do masturbate and so do women.

He doesn't have to sleep with you....but he's still allowed to masturbate.

It's his body.

DH didn't want to have sex when I was pregnant. Nothing wrong with that.

I've never caught him wanking but he's caught me a couple of times. I turned down his advances the other night as I couldn't really be bothered. Had a quick wank after he'd fallen asleep as I changed my mind.

His body his rules.

Why didnt you offer to help?

Who cares? Seriously, though - why do you care?

Come on now peeps I'm not daft I know he wanks- I don't give a shit- like I said i think I'm a wee annoyed because he ignored my advanced earlier and I'm heavily pregnant. Hormones??
And maybe because he was watching porn- and when you feel like a massive beech whale it does bother you slightly

Men are a delight aren't they?

Next time you're sexually frustrated, just rub one out noisily and then when he freaks out, remind him of the wank incident.

He got caught? Thought men were meant to have developed super-sensitive hearing from years of teenaged listening out for nearby footsteps.

If you walked in him doing it in full view of the French windows or on the kitchen counter than no, yanbu.

If you walked in on him enjoying private time in an appropriate environment such as the bathroom or bedroom then yes, yabu.

Let him play with his penis. It’s his.

Did you say that you were pissed off?

Nah. Lots of blokes LIKE being caught, and then wank themselves daft over it again later.

Nah. Lots of blokes LIKE being caught, and then wank themselves daft over it again later.

That's a possibility. I was thinking of the old joke "What becomes the most sensitive part of the male anatomy during masturbation? The ears, listening out for mother's footsteps" but if they want to get caught...

Very unlikely to be the case here though. And in all seriousness, if someone is doing it in such a way that they can be easily walked in on by someone who might not want to see it, well, perhaps more discretion is warranted.

Nah. Lots of blokes LIKE being caught, and then wank themselves daft over it again later

Do they? Lots? Fascinating insight!

We can't help what bothers us and makes us feel shitty.
I tried to be the cool wife after my c section. Super horny husband, we live in a one room bedsit type thing, so no privacy at all.
I was in way too much pain to consider any thing sexy. I was like "no, watch some porn, have a wank, don't worry about me". While I just tried to look sexy in the corner.
It was not sexy, it was awkward. And I cried.
These feelings might be ridiculous, but they are still someone's feelings. Especially while pregnant or just had a baby, hormones are shit.

YANBU

it was shit of him to reject you, yes they all wank but he could have waited till you were out the house and couldn't get caught. The porn would annoy me too. It's not just a quick wank coz he's horny, he's engaging with a screen and rejecting you.

That's a pretty shitty thing to do to anyone, especially a pregnant hormonal lady.

My husband wanks regularly, I don't, the very odd time that I do and he knows about it, he cracks up. Thinks that if I'm horny then it should benefit him also. Equality eh

We have a general rule of not wanking if the other's in the house. It's just sort of.. a respect thing. We only have a tiny flat though, if we had a spralling mansion maybe it wouldn't be an issue!

IMO, he was nbu to have a wank but you're nbu to feel a bit hacked off given he rejected you earlier. Yes sometimes it's less hassle than sex but I feel like sex is something that you should put your efforts into because it's a great thing for your relationship.

I agree with his body, his choice, but I’d also be pissed off. Not so much the rejection of my advances, but because he’s watching porn involving women who (presumably) aren’t preggers, can see their toes and move without being in pain. It would highlight some of my many insecurities about my being pregnant, and I’d cry. Probably lots. I’m also heavily pregnant 🙂

My DH really disliked sex when I was heavily pregnant, he said it just felt wrong but couldn't explain why. I was fine with that (quite happy actually) and was happy for him to do his own thing (as such).

Yeah yabu

Its his body and you shouldn't be taking this so personally

Perhaps try knocking on doors ...save you walking in on things you don't like...

Nah. Lots of blokes LIKE being caught, and then wank themselves daft over it again later
This is a thing! It’s called a danger wank, when I was at school, year 11 so 16 the lads would do it upstairs and shout “MUUUM” and try and finish before she got up the stairs. Grim grim grim.

Fatpam- your dh didn't want to have sex with you for 9 months? That's a long time to go without! Chugalug - so now op needs to knock on her own bedroom door?

I get the whole its his body , its natural etc.

But it still hurts/ irritates me if i find him .

Your heavily pregnant - my DH was really freaked out about having sex once baby started to kick and appear real! Lol.
Maybe he's feeling weird about it?

He might have that (daft) worry some men have about harming the baby if he has sex when you're pregnant. Even if it's not directly about harming baby it feels wrong to many people putting their penis in where there's a baby.

Whatever the reason was he probably fancied the idea of sex with you but felt he shouldn't. Still having the desire he had a wank instead.