Just walked in on DH having a wank?!?

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Aibu to be pissed off?? Not even sure why I feel slightly pissed off.
Maybe because I'm pregnant and he refused my advances earlier but it was the most awkward thing ever.

How many men do you know that don't?

I don't care how many men wank to porn. All I care about is that it doesn't happen in my marriage.

I am sure I am going to be told that he probably does it behind my back and he is lying to me etc. Because no man can possibly not be into porn or be against it themselves for moral reasons. That debate has been done many times.

Just getting that out of the way before I go out for the night.

The porn issue is partially irrelevant anyway. Some people are fine with ut, some use it together, some are against it. It depends on the relationship.

*He rejected your advances. I think any normal person would be a bit miffed by this

hmm

Just add an 's' to the first word of that sentence and tell me if it still reasonable.*

It’s completely reasonable to feel miffed, male or female doing the rejecting. It’s not reasonable to continue to try and persuade, coerce, or whatever your partner when they’ve said no.

So a man rejecting sexual advances is okay yet in the other thread doing what he wants on his birthday is ultra wrong. What a weird double standard

I must have missed the post where op said she still tried to coerce him or made him feel guilty. I read it as though her feelings are hurt

I think being pissed off is different to having feeings hurt... if it was a man saying the same it would have a different reaction.

Louiselouie0890
She doesn't say she's hurt.
She says she is pissed off at him for wanking because he didn't want sex earlier.

Aka I'm annoyed you didn't the cup of tea i made you 2 hours ago but now you're drinking lemonade so clearly ypu must have been thirsty. I'm so pissed off at you. If you wanted to drink then why didn't you drink tea.

I get feeling a bit meh for a little bit. I get feeling a bit crappy. But pissed off? It's unreasomable.