Just walked in on DH having a wank?!?

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Aibu to be pissed off?? Not even sure why I feel slightly pissed off.
Maybe because I'm pregnant and he refused my advances earlier but it was the most awkward thing ever.

Or maybe he didn’t want sex and he’s allowed to say no like women are...

AutumnalTed

Please no!
That’s too disturbing to contemplate 🤔

No..she dosnt NEED to knock on her own bedroom door..but by doing so it will save her delicate eyes from things she dosnt want to see..

I didn’t want to have sex when I was pregnant because I was acutely aware I was carrying a baby and couldn’t switch that off. That was my issue, and dh had to respect that because it really was upsetting for me especially as I got bigger. (This was, I suspect, linked to my shitty childhoood).

So I can understand why he might not want to have sex with the OP, but remain horny and want a wank. And like many men, he used porn.

@Believeitornot I also couldn't have sex when pregnant for the same reasons, it's like because I knew there was a baby in there it seemed so wrong! OP maybe your husband feels this way too?

If my DH preferred his own hand to my body, I’d be pissed off too, OP. I don’t think that’s unreasonable. Whether it’s worth anything more than fleeting annoyance, though, is dependent on how it fits in to your larger relationship.

The masturbating wouldn't bother me regardless but the porn definitely would if he'd recently rejected me. YANBU to be upset.

"lads would do it upstairs and shout “MUUUM” and try and finish before she got up the stairs."

I'm fairly sure that 1) most of them didn't actually do it 2) it's an immature game 3) it wasn't wank fodder for the next go.

"Fatpam- your dh didn't want to have sex with you for 9 months? That's a long time to go without!"

Only once I was really showing. I don't want to have sex with him when he's unshaven. Neither try to coerce the other - that would be wrong.

Wrong thread elena?

Or a bot

it was shit of him to reject you

I wonder how the Twittersphere would react in the current climate if a predominantly male website had comments saying it was shit of her to reject to you

@MrWasheeWashee glad it wasn’t just me!!

Wrong thread elena?

It's spam.

Exactly @FrancinePefko

OP you’re not entitled to sex whenever you want it.

In your shoes id be pissed off too. Particularly about the porn.

After reading the title, I wanted to suggest you should have offered to help, and saw where it goes But after reading your OP, I want to say I'd be annoyed to be turned down by an obviously horny DH.

This is one of the reasons I ended a serious relationship - my exDP preferred banging one out over Razzien to having sex with me. That's not a LTB btw, OP, but I do get why you're upset by this. Doesn't exactly make you feel wanted.

^Razzle - bloody autocorrect!

Yes, YABU to be upset with him. Just as he WBU to be upset with you in the reverse.

Agree with pp @Dippingmytoesin @believeitornot and @FrancinePesko that actually yes he does have the right to say no to sex if he doesn't fancy it!

My former partner was freaked out about sex when I was pregnant in case the baby could "see" I nearly pissed myself laughing killed the mood totally

I think FrancinePefko Twitter world react to "It was shit of her to reject you" on a predominantly male website about as much as it did has to "It was shit of him to reject you" on here.

I'd be annoyed to be turned down by an obviously horny DH

I can't believe I'm reading this. Any person is entirely within their rights to reject a sexual advance.

Why is there such double standards on this site??