AIBU to think it is irresponsible to eat a meal full of sugar and fats if you are diabetic?

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SIL has type 2 diabetes. In the last 2 years or so it has become very problematic, hard to control, difficult to get accurate sugar levels. She has been really poorly, hospitalized etc. I don't know if this has to do with her age and menopause etc but, for whatever reasons her condition has caused a lot of concern
All of which made me express my surprise of a pic she posted of her breakfast this morning.
A stack of pancakes topped with several crispy rashers of bacon and the whole lot swimming in maple syrup...
I mentioned it to my DH saying I thought it was irresponsible of her to eat like that given the state of her diabetes.
He didn't see the problem
Am I being thick or is he.
If there is somethign I am missing about diabetes management then would someone enlighten me because I can't see anything right about that meal for someone with that condition....

Completely agree with @rebeccaslicker

Diabetes is complex and all consuming. There are times when do you want to have a blow out and have just one meal that is not determined by your diabetes.

If you've never experienced it on a day to day basis you have no right to judge. You can be concerned and wonder (to yourself) if there's anything you can do to help, but chances are there isn't, and you judging from your non-diabetic position is out of order.

I am an active manager of my diabetes, but if on occasion I chose to eat something that isn't "suitable for someone with diabetes" and someone challenged me about this, I'd tell them to fuck off. It's not your circus, not your monkeys, so mind your own business.

Fwiw - she'll probably feel pretty dreadful within an hour of eating that meal as she floods her body with sugar, she'll know that before she eats it, it's her risk to take.

earlier post sums up exactly how relentless and soul destroying it can be to manage diabetes with diet.

Like her I got type 2 after having gestational diabetes. My blood glucose levels didn't go back to normal.

I've had it 4 years and for that time have had levels in the normal range. I'm due mu next text next week and I know it's not going to be great. I fell off the wagon a few months ago and just don't seem to be able to get back on it. I've not eaten sugary things but have been eating more carbs than I should and I haven't been testing. i'm expecting my next hba1c will put my results in the pre-diabetic range. Not the worst by any stretch but not where I want to be.

I'm trying to get my head back in the game but it's bloody hard. I'm only 38 and it feels like such a long journey in front of me.

If you have diabetes having really strict control is fantastic for the body.......but it's bloody tough on the mind.

I'm finding things really hard now because my son is 4 and we're lucky that he loves his food and will eat anything and everything. I realised that I can't take him out to try different cuisines such as Chinese, Thai etc because I can't eat them. Even though I know me not having good control of diabetes will have a negative effect on my son as I may get complications, I also hate knowing me having good control affects him too by restricting what and where we eat together.

That was meant to say rebeccaslicker's earlier post

Op I think you have to accept different people have different bodies.

Different propensities to eat food. Different brains. Different reactions to food. Different bodies.

I have a relative with T2 diabetes. Relative would prefer to live life enjoying food and risk dying on any day than to have to stick rigidly to guidelines. I mean that seriously. Older than your SIL, but still. You will just have to let her get on with her life as she sees fit and quit judging.

There's also LADA diabetes, type 1.5. Diabetes uk says up to 20% of type 2 are misdiagnosed and are actually LADA

Thai is a nightmare. I used to LOVE spring rolls and red veggie curry with mountains of jasmine rice.

Indian isn't much better. Yeah yeah I really want a dry fillet of salmon tikka with no sauce, but maybe a bit of the salad garnish. No no, I am not interested in the hot buttery naan thanks; no, I don't want a crunchy golden bhaji with yoghurt dip; I don't want a real curry in a lovely rich sauce with mushroom rice.

As for Italian without pizza and pasta and ice cream.... what's the point?!

Good luck @Bluechameleon

I get really cross when people say, "you can cure T2 with diet". No no no. SOME people can lower their blood sugar to normal levels and can come off medication etc with diet. But that's not a cure. If they they started eating exactly what they liked, they'd be back at square one. You don't magically grow more beta cells or regenerate the ability to regulate glucose. What you are talking about is strict CONTROL of diabetes.

^^ this (well not really cross but a both like "sigh!)

....a bit like "sigh"