Leaving baby crying

[harriettehashadenough]

He's 18 mo crying in his cot now, goes down really well every night but wakes up crying looking for attention refuses milk or juice, only thing that stops him is our bed.

AIBU to just be brutal and let him cry it out cold turkey? We do CIO contact every 5 minutes usually.

He knows what he's doing

Ty cutting out wheat. I notice my dc will take several (hundred) times a night if they've eaten anything with wheat?!

Good luck

(And Lots of sympathy! )

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Grr

I refused to co sleep with mine. Our grown up bed was our refuge from the madness of life with small children and I wanted it to stay that way. If they cried in the night they would get cuddled and soothed back to sleep in their own room and own beds. It meant lots of getting up and down some nights but it paid off before too long. They were and still are pretty good sleepers and much-loved and loving kids.

Give gradual retreat a try op, it takes several weeks but it can work well. And if you need to let him cry to give yourself a minute then do so.

That was meant to be 'giving gradual retreat a try, it can take a few weeks'. One friend thought three days!!!!

We did cc and it didn't take long to get them to settle themselves. They always knew we were still there. After night feeds stopped we never offered milk again during the night, only water which they were never interested in anyway!

There are people being 'holier than thou' on both sides of the argument.

Do what you need to do OP.

Good luck tonight op I hope you have a better night. Sounds like you have a good plan and I hope things improve. Lack of sleep is the worst!!!

We used a method by dr jay I think? It was a gentle method to help them sleep independently. I actually used it to remove night feeds from my eldest but once the breast milk was gone, he slept through.

I personally couldn't leave mine to cry it out completely. It would make me want to pull my hair out. Xx

Ignore the xx 😂🙈

What a load of rubbish from alot of judgemental people !!! He's 18 months not 18 weeks !!! Let him cry, Max it will last is 20 mins. It wont damage/hurt him or scar him for life
Jeez - let him cry op and ignore the horrid judgemental posts xxxxxzx

Oh it's tough isn't it? No answers, just reassuring that it won't last forever. My ds2 was a nightmare, but it did pass and he has slept through for years now. And it's not put me off more..So much so that Ds3 is due in May.
This will pass. Ride it out. Be consistent and take any rest you can get, when you can get it.

Another who never ever co-slept. Ever. Any crying after lights out was met with minimal interaction. Leaving their rooms after lights out was never an option and both were then generally good sleepers from 4 or 5 months onwards. I also stopped bf at this time and encouraged reliance on teddies and blankets which worked like a dream.

I agree with everything @nong45 says. Mine rarely wake in the night now and I feel they do it's because of teething/illness etc. Both went through a phase like you've described, DD was especially bad I used to dread midnight onwards. CC worked really well for her and I wish we'd done it sooner. Whatever you decide stick to your plan. Good luck :)

This is my story and I'm sticking to it 🤣🤣

Calpol him to the moon and back to rule out pain. Try adding another layer to whatever bed sleeping in. Then stick a toddler mattress on the floor next to your bed. Explain to him that it's his new lovely bed but he must stay in it. That you are right there next to him. Every time he rands up lie him down with a shush. You're going to need ear plugs and persistence. You won't be abandoning him or scaring him because your right there lying in your bed. I would offer a hand draped over the bed for reassurance.

You treat him with contact every 5 minutes but now you’re letting him cry it out? Do you realise how weird that is?
He knows what he’s doing? What’s that exactly? Wanting to be close to people?

Yeah. Sounds like such an evil shit of a child. You’re being reasonable ignoring him until it’s hammered in that you won’t be there for him

Please comfort your child. He won't need you forever. He's still so small; his world his changing so much and he needs you right now.

Could you consider a little mattress on the floor of your room where you could cuddle baby to sleep and then go back to your own bed?

BigBaboonBum Projection much?

Not sure where OP called her child an evil shit? Can you find where she said that? And your last sentence is such a leap into the insane that it's not even worth dissecting.

Try taking some time to form a fully balanced opinion.

18 months old seems to be an age where this happens alot, i had it with my youngest a coupke of months back. We would always bring him into our bed, if that isn't for you try having his cot in with you or going in with him.

I haven't left any of my three to cry, it goes against all my instincts. It isn't anyone trying to be a percect parent just having differing approaches.

perfect parent* mumsnet needs an edit option!

I apologise as I haven’t read the whole thread but we’ve had similar episodes for the last six months or so. She’s now 22 months are we’re just coming out of 2 months of broken sleep. At the peak of it I have just slept on the floor next to her cot. Once it’s clear that we’re at a point where the teeth/separation anxiety/ colds etc are subsiding then we switch back to the ‘gradual retreat’ method described above. It’s a really brutal age for bad sleep, do what you need to to get through and know it WILL get better