To think your body is the greatest thing you'll ever own and you should invest in it ?

[tiredpom]

Had an interesting conversation with a friend recently. She is overweight and has been told by her GP to lose weight. She is struggling with this, says she can't afford it and simply doesn't have the time.
I work out 6 times a week (yes I know extreme side of the spectrum) But think you should invest in your body as you'll never get another one. I eat healthily 80% of the time and 20% of the time will treat myself. Meals out, wine at weekends etc. I have been trying to help (from afar, don't live in the uk currently) but she has been really snippy with me saying it's easy for you you have the money, the weather and time. My argument is if she has the money (new car, new clothes, meals, trips out) she could prioritise some of that money for gym classes or do them online for free. (You tube) Working out in the heat is just as challenging as the cold (park run in 38 degrees anyone) and time if you have time to go to the movies, shopping malls and watch Netflix you have time to workout. I'm trying to be supportive and send her links to things I think she'd like, but every time she just blames time and money. AIBU to want to shake her and say, how can you not see you have the time and money your just not investing it in your body !!!! That it's her choice not to get better ?

Thin privilege. Really? Privilege means "private law". The laws of physics are the same for everyone. In particular, the law of conservation of energy means that if you consume more calories than you burn, then you will gain weight. If you consume fewer calories, you will lose weight.
This is inevitable because, once again, it is a law of physics. There is nothing else to be said.

Six days at the gym per week is not necessary to acquire or maintain good health.

Maybe for some people it is

I have previously suffered depression and the endorphins from.exercise improve my mood no end.

So i go at least 5 days a week.

For me it is essential.

She could download the MyFitnessPal app. That will allow her to calculate how many calories she needs to eat in order to lose weight. It takes into account age, gender, height, weight. It has a database of foods with calorie counts and she can track her food and calorie intake on the app.

Same New the gym keeps me sane. If I’m feeling down or angry then the gym always lifts my spirits (and I work out harder). It’s good for the mind.

I exercise regularly and love it, but you sound as if you're quite annoying to your friend and you do sound judgmental, criticising her for 'watching Netflix' and buying new clothes/car when you think she should do otherwise.

If you've never been fat you really won't understand her mindset. It has to come from her, not you, and an exercise mad friend sending her links will most likely send her to the confectionery aisle rather than the gym.

I don't understand the thought, as expressed on here, that "exercise is boring"

That is like saying "movies are boring" or "food is disgusting"... it just means you have not found the right type of exercise!

I fing gyms boring, and running bored me too. Don't like cycling either, or weights...

But I do love badminton, tennis, kayaking, cricket and hockey. So I try to do the things I love. Lots of running around in tennis, without it feeling like running! Always puts a smile on my face, even if I lose. (Said Smuggie mcSmuggerson )

I agree with you OP, I'm into health and fitness and I become frustrated with my overweight friend and her lifestyle.She too has problems with her knees, swollen ankles, breathing problems, yet she continues to smoke, drink and eat junk food. Shes experiencing peri menopause symptoms more harshly than any of our friendship group.Going to the Doctors is a fortnightly thing for her and I wish to God shed wake up and smell the Roses before she puts herself in an early grave.

missEliza My mother's last decade of life wasn't great due to health problems. I saw her mind becoming more and more limited along with her mobility.

Becoming frail and immobile isn't inevitable. There's more to fitness than being thin - being strong is especially important.

OP I loved that post, what a great attitude you have towards your body. But yabu to keep sending links etc to your friend, that's her choice

That's how I feel Just. I always used to go for cardio to burn as many calories as I can so I could be thin. I've come to realise how short term that is and instead focus on my strength when exercising. I actually feel better for it.

OP I think your intentions are good...but I do think you are being very judgemental about your friend. It's great you work out 6 times a week...but I think you are somewhat projecting here. If my friend bombarded me with info on loosing weight and then told me she worked out 6x a week I don't think it would be helpful. There are nearly always deep emotional issues when it comes to weight. I think you could be making her feel worse...listen to her and hear her and for God's sake...Stop shaming her!
I really can't believe that you are actually posting about this?? You do not even live in the same country?? Are you that bored?

Lostmyslippers, ...are you that bored you need to post about a person you have never even met?

We're all bored

That's why MN exists

You are right OP and I think your friend is being rude by saying "it's easy" for you to diet and exercise. It isn't easy for anyone!

Eating to lose weight is cheap. Eat exactly what you already eat, just less of it.

But there's no point trying to convince her because deep down she knows these are excuses. Just change the subject if it comes up again.

BTW I am no smug slim person, I'm fat. No excuses here, I'm just lazy and I love eating.