Could you forgive your sister if...

[Ninarina]

She kissed your husband in a state of drunkenness? Am I being unreasonable by not wanting to see her ever again?

I wouldn't forgive either the sister or the husband.

I would feel exactly the same.
i woudlnt want her in my home again.

What was your husbands reaction?

Not sure. Did she grab your husband and kiss him and he shoved her away instantly, or did you catch them kissing (each other)?

No, I would be bloody furious.
Did you husband kiss her back or pull away? Is this totally out of character for her?

Provided that my husband was an unwilling victim and itvthetefore didn't ruin the marriage I could forgive but I couldn't trust her ever again.

Holy moly....need more info.....ie answer questions by pp's.

Yeah, I’d never speak to my sister again if she did that, drunk or not.

It would depend on the context I think. Was it a peck or a snog or a hands everywhere make out session? Was it some kind of juvenile dare or was it motivated by sexual attraction?

I'd be majorly fucked off - is she envious of you? Your marriage, life etc?

If she was drunk I'd tear her a new one but I wouldn't disown her.
If she was sober I would not forgive ever.

So glad to be an only child.

Dump them both.

Impossible to answer if I’m honest without context. If someone did a drunken lunge at the husband I wouldn’t care really, he’s mine. If he and her snuck off for a drunken smog though it would be a different kettle of fish.

nope.

worse from a sister than anyone else, I'd say. And really quite yuk.

it would be the end of the relationship.

as for your H - no words. I assume you don't need to ask about him because he's been chucked out already...??

Context is everything.

I don’t see how anyone can answer with so few details.

Is there a back story?

I'd be flattered that she thought my taste in men was so good.

Joke - more detail needed!

Why are you saying don’t forgive either? Where does op say her dh kissed her back? for all we know the sister got drunk and kissed him, he pushed her off.

The sister making a drunken lunge and being pushed off, I wouldn’t be happy with my sister but I think never seeing her again is going a bit far.

If they both sneaked off for a kiss somewhere then that is a betrayal and I wouldn’t want either

I couldn't forgive, no. Because IMO being drunk only causes people to lose their inhibitions, not to do things they would never ever dream of doing anyway.

But for me the crucial thing would be what your DH did in response - did he back away shocked or reciprocate in some way?

Did she kiss him or did they kiss? That’s the key to my response here! But either way, no, wouldn’t forgive her. Depends on your answer if he’d been dumped too.

So many husband bashers on here already. I assume as you know your DH stopped her straight away and then told you. But PPs are right context is everything. What's happening in her life? Is she normally like this? Did she do this as a cry for help? Is she generally a bitch? Were your DH and her growing close before this? Did he reciprocate? Does he have form? Can she even remember?

So many questions....

Sounds like she is jealous of you and wants your life!

Erm...nope!

no