To be dreading the day ahead?

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DS is off school ill. DD (age 2) is home with us.
DH is out from 7.30am-6.30pm and we are going to be pretty much housebound!
Even if DS feels up to going out a bit later on, the weather is awful and so far not suitable for parks, at best a ten minute walk when it dries up a bit may be possible. We normally go to a support group on Wednesdays but whilst I am very tempted to go (it is not for illnesses) I don't want to make anyone ill.
So far I plan to cook a pie (should take up an hour or so on and off), a short walk if the weather is okay, some painting, a morning bath for them and hopefully they will both have a nap.
That is not going to keep us busy for 11 hours!
I am already resenting DH (he booked onto a course this week to have a change from the office with no thought as to how this would impact on me and the extra work I have to put in alone) and feel like I am going to be snapping by the time he gets home.
The only light is that DS is eating much more than he did yesterday so is hopefully getting better.
Feeling very sorry for myself..

If people can say what they want why can't I question you? If people can say what they want because that is how forums generally work then I am free to say that posting in AIBU doesn't mean you are obliged to be an arsehole and kick somebody when they are down. The OP said she is struggling, lonely and lacking a support network. She didn't say it is the biggest problem ever and nobody else has it worse.

The problem here is OP has posted in AIBU

I think people forget that it's a question... am I being unreasonable? Which will result in 'yes you are' or 'no you're not' answers. Why post in AIBU if you don't think you are and get upset with people that disagree with you.

Perhaps this post would have been better suited to the parenting section.

It used to be that an OP would get a bit of a flaming and then posters might say 'sorry OP, just seen your further posts and it seems you are struggling a bit'. Now they just pile on even more. Because apparently posting in AIBU means a kicking is mandatory.

I have been trapped in my house for six weeks with a broken leg and two dc for four out of six of those weeks. I feel your pain. I could cry from the sheer boredom and the weather isn't helping. Just been told it hasn't healed well so I may be in a cast even longer.
At least it will be just a few days and you should be back to normal.
The key to survival is to timetable the day as you would any other and try and do something you enjoy during the day

7:30-6:30, 11 hours, is far far less than a lot of people are out at work for. DH left at 5:00 this morning and won't be back until 9:30 tonight. Ill 2 year old and newborn. Rain. Was fine!

Fine to disagree with op. Not fine to be nasty with it.

I have not been an arshole or kicked the OP.
I just happen to think that her day is one that millions of woman have every single day of their lives. As did many other posters on this thread.

Bloody hell OP YABU

Don't be snippey at H when he comes home just because you've had a bit of a shit day. Suck it up, I'm sure tomorrow will be better

I think we differ in our view of MN Lilly or at least, what we would like MN to be. A parent feeling sad and lonely and wanting some support in the long hard days of little DC - I think MNers should be kind and supportive if they can. If they think OP is BU, can't they at least say it politely if they have to say it?

A lonely parent who is finding some aspects of parenthood tough going asking for support and being called "a special snowflake" and told to get a grip and stop being so entitled - will they post again asking for support when they need it? I fucking wouldn't. OP has asked for support - she didn't kick her neighbour's kitten or tell her DCs' teacher to fuck off - and has been treated badly.

MN is meant to be for support for parents (or anyone) not filled with dicks who just enjoying putting people down so they can feel superior. I'd rather MN be filled with people having a tough time and admitting it (even if some people think their perspective is wrong) than filled with people who get their kicks being rude and superior. I know who I think has acted like a dick here and it's not the OP.

Ok BigPuddle
So how do you suggest people who disagree with the OP in AIBU do so politely?
What is the correct comment to make do you suggest?

Whilst you're on about 'politeness' you might want to alter your repeated 'dick' comments. Or is it ok for you to be vile?

Blimey I home educated my kids till they were 9 ...I had 3 under 3 ...then a 10 yr gap and another one....my every day looked like yours today...try to enjoy their company ...you never know it might be fun x

A good few years ago when I had my first and struggled I thought I could ask for help or suggestions but as soon as I mentioned Gina Ford I had sharks attaching me from all end! That’s when I realised this is no place for support. A lot of you make the most of having no face to your name to be arrogant and judgemental. As I said before you wouldn’t talk this way to someone if they put the same question on Facebook would you as you are too worried someone will associate your name and your nastiness! It’s just a shame for those who are actually do really need a kind voice or just understanding!

I really must have a very high boredom threshold because I am still baffled as to what the problem is with being cosily at home with two people that you love. How lovely to be able to spend so much uninterrupted time with them !

Oh bore off Mum. You have no idea what I would or would not say to someone in RL.

So you're take is that we all agree with each other now on MN. Good luck with that one.

Mari

You only feel that way if you choose to have a day off with your love ones. It isn't much or cosy dealing with sick children, it is knackering.
Op sounds tired and worn out to me. I hope she knows its nearly time for bedtime and a g&t

much fun

This is my life every day! I have a 15 month old and a 2.8 year old. DP leaves home at 5.30am and gets home at 8.30pm - horrendously long day with shitty long commute and doesn't earn a lot before anyway says he must be earning a fortune.

I hate the winter, it's so hard to fill each day finding places to go/things to do that are cheap when you have to be inside most of the time. My 15 month old and 2.8 year old are incapable of staying in all day without bouncing off the walls and sending me loopy!

What has personality got to do with it?
You're clutching at straws there pet.

No, Mum's not saying we should all agree on mumsnet, GreatDuckCookery. She's objecting to posters calling the OP names like 'special snowflake' and calling her 'entitled'. It's totally clear that the OP is lonely and looking for support here. Why do you have to be nasty in response?

Mumof3 has hardly been supportive to the OP either. Just made it her mission to tell anyone off that dared to disagree with the OP.

Can you pin point where I have been nasty too please?

Interesting that the same posters who have been horrid to a struggling poster are now getting defensive at their nasty posts being criticised. I thought AIBU was apparently the place where anything goes.

Show me where I've been horrid.

My husband does a lot more than those hours every single day as do most people in London. What is it you are dreading so much?