To be dreading the day ahead?

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DS is off school ill. DD (age 2) is home with us.
DH is out from 7.30am-6.30pm and we are going to be pretty much housebound!
Even if DS feels up to going out a bit later on, the weather is awful and so far not suitable for parks, at best a ten minute walk when it dries up a bit may be possible. We normally go to a support group on Wednesdays but whilst I am very tempted to go (it is not for illnesses) I don't want to make anyone ill.
So far I plan to cook a pie (should take up an hour or so on and off), a short walk if the weather is okay, some painting, a morning bath for them and hopefully they will both have a nap.
That is not going to keep us busy for 11 hours!
I am already resenting DH (he booked onto a course this week to have a change from the office with no thought as to how this would impact on me and the extra work I have to put in alone) and feel like I am going to be snapping by the time he gets home.
The only light is that DS is eating much more than he did yesterday so is hopefully getting better.
Feeling very sorry for myself..

I think folks are being a bit harsh but you can make the best of it. Your little ones won’t be little forever so make the most of opportunities to have fun with them ( if your oldest feels well enough). Google rainy day activities & decide to be silly for a day! I certainly wouldn’t take them to playgroup, especially if what your DS had was a sickness bug ( you didn’t say but I assumed when you mentioned he was eating more today). Get cosy & enjoy yourselves & your DH will be home before you know it 🙂

I think Mumsnet should have a category called "Ok I know this is no big deal in the grand scheme of things but at this immediate point in my life it's getting me down and I just want to get it off my chest and have a bit of virtual encouragement."

It's ok to feel pissed off/irritated/upset about the small stuff now and again and want to share your frustration.

If the category was properly named people who can't be bothered with other people's trivial problems wouldn't have to read.

Hope you have a good day op x

If ds is ill, presumably he's snoozing on the sofa or in bed, or just watching some tv? If he's feeling up to walks and playing then couldn't you ship him off to school? I never minded rainy days when mine were little, we had toys, crafts, films, dress up etc. Sometimes it was easier than taking them out.
The best thing is to take it hour by hour and not clock watch. My dh used to work 12 hour days when I was a SAHM to 2 little ones. I just used to try and break up the day as best I could if we weren't going out.

Sounds rough. Eat nice things. The pie? :)

I think you sound really bored in general

I'd go back to work full time

Perhaps doh should have had the day off instead?

I think some of this is the husbands fault. You don't just book additional, non essential activities that require someone else to pick up your slack and not clear it with that 'someone else' first. Basic manners is it not?

By the sound of it I’d send the 5 yr old back to school!!!!!!

I dunno really. Doesn't seem so bad. Maybe because my DH is never at home when the dcs get up or when they go to bed (except at weekends) so I'm used to doing everything. It's only bad when you're ill yourself, and have to look after sick dcs on top. If you start the day feeling negative you will have a bad day. It's a self fulfilling prophesy.

Dh, bloody spell check

KInka, DH would find sitting on his arse all day bliss. He would just sit at his computer all day doing bog all and enjoy it. So no, he won’t do any extra, he works more than me and has no idea how hard it is looking after kids.
I love spending time with my kids but I hate being stuck in the house and am in tears at the thought of doing this all day.
You can tell me I am overreacting or should get a grip but mumsnet is supposed to be about support so unless you have some please fuck off as you are making my day worse and I have hours ahead of me to survive.
P.s. the playgroup thing was quite clearly a jibe at the vipers on here.

7.30 to 6.30 is rather less than most people do as a matter of course. If his normal working hours take him out of the house for less you're actually quite lucky.

You're in the UK. You need to be able to cope with a bit of rain.

I’d definitely do a duvet day, popcorn, Disney and then you can crack on with whatever you need to do!
We did this out of choice on Sunday, somedays staying in is lovely!

Nippy the whole weekend was pretty much like this because of the rain and it was hell with the kids playing up because hey were bored.
It’s not nice for me.

Sounds like you're unhappy generally to me OP.
Mumsnet is supportive in many different ways but posters won't just agree with you for the sake of it.

Do you have a garden? Take the toddler out to splash in puddles and draw in chalk on the patio while the ill one watches TV with a duvet on the sofa? You could do that on the front pavement even, if sick child is old enough for you to be out of the room but in view through the window.

Stretch out a wire coat hanger, make a bucket of bubble mix and enjoy making the world's biggest bubbles.

If it is only a course that he has done before then surely he can stay home to help. Hope you manage to have a good day OP and that your DS feels better.

I certainly haven't told you to get a grip. I have told you that if you make an effort to face it with positivity (and if you can't, then pretend) it may not be so bad. Because that is a tactic I use myself that often works

Come on OP. Dry your eyes, splash your face and put some loud upbeat music on and dance like mad with the kids

I wonder if the problem is actually that you have an H who is not pulling his weight in general.
Does he have form for 'work' stuff that is not essential but conveniently gets him out of doing any childcare or domestic work? Does he do his share when he isn't poncing off on unnecessary training courses?

There's a different kind of misery and stress that affects someone with a selfish, lazy partner than the stress of being a single parent. if you know you've got to do it all yourself, that's actually less tormenting than living with another adult who is not only ignoring the amount of necessary work that you have to pick up, but probably making extra work by requiring more complicated meals and a higher standard of tidiness/leaving cups, plates and dirty pants all over the place.

My kids are both off school. As they are too ill for school they are too ill to go to the park or anywhere else which is handy coz it’s pissing down here. So they are watching stuff separately while I Potter around the house getting stuff done and will occasionally join them and dole out calpol and drinks and cuddles. No big deal.

I don’t have a partner to get pissed off with about leaving me on my own to deal with them all day (and the rest of the week) so I suppose in that sense I am luckier than you OP. I just have to get on with it by myself.

So do you look to go out everyday OP?

Nearly being in tears at the thought of spending a day in your own home is just not the usual.

I'm at home with my 9 month old ds, dp works 12 & 14 hr shifts. We've not been out for nearly 5 days due to snow and gale force wind. It can be stressful and I feel it for ds more than myself. We both have cabin fever.

Sorry, it's horrid when they're ill. 7.30-6.30 is quite normal though for a working day no? My DH leaves the house at 7.30 and doesn't get back til 6.30.

Stick on the TV, it won't hurt them for one day.

Messy play with the kids. They all love shaving foam and paint brushes or make some play dough with them. Jugs and pans in the bath. Plant seeds ready to go out in the spring. Wrap them up and go and jump in puddles for half hour. Make some pin windmills for the wind or tie up a bunch of ribbons.

Personally I love a day stuck in because I rarely get them!