To be dreading the day ahead?

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DS is off school ill. DD (age 2) is home with us.
DH is out from 7.30am-6.30pm and we are going to be pretty much housebound!
Even if DS feels up to going out a bit later on, the weather is awful and so far not suitable for parks, at best a ten minute walk when it dries up a bit may be possible. We normally go to a support group on Wednesdays but whilst I am very tempted to go (it is not for illnesses) I don't want to make anyone ill.
So far I plan to cook a pie (should take up an hour or so on and off), a short walk if the weather is okay, some painting, a morning bath for them and hopefully they will both have a nap.
That is not going to keep us busy for 11 hours!
I am already resenting DH (he booked onto a course this week to have a change from the office with no thought as to how this would impact on me and the extra work I have to put in alone) and feel like I am going to be snapping by the time he gets home.
The only light is that DS is eating much more than he did yesterday so is hopefully getting better.
Feeling very sorry for myself..

Grammar is your friend, Mum. Seriously.

Meh, you have a husband to at least moan to when the day is done.

It's one day out of what I assume is an otherwise manageable life for you. Suck it up.

This is my life round the clock, but chuck in full time work and no second salary. Everyone is worse off than someone, look for the silver linings.

I also have only posted supportive messages to op.

mumof3 you are being rude and derailing the thread.

I sincerely don't understand what the argument is about.

I don't think anyone does.

I feel your pain,I'm stuck in the house with DD due to terrible weather plus I'm on my 3rd week of daily radiotherapy and feeling shit!

Nobody has bullied anyone Mum. Disagreeing with someone is NOT bullying however much you tell yourself it is.

You're just coming across as someone out for a bit of bunfight now.

Well that escalated

OP YABU.
Instead of thinking of yourself being stuck for ONE day (for ooh atleast eleven hours) with your dc, try imagining being solely responsible for those dc for 24 hours a day, seven days a week, 365 days a year. Year in year out.

As a lone parent, with years of experience of looking after two dc (who were often sick at the same time) with mostly no support AND the added stress of only having one income coming into my house, I find your post personally ridiculous.

You come across as some special little snowflake. You chose to have children so, basically, deal with it.

Well this is going well.

OP I know exactly where you are coming from - I still remember my DC being little and realising at 9am we had already done loads and still had the whole day ahead God the days were so long and my DC were so...needy!

The difference is if I posted on MN feeling sad and lonely, posters were (generally) a lot more kind and supportive than they are now (I don't even think AIBU existed then!)

Though another difference was we didn't have iPads or tablets - I would recommend a new exciting engrossing child friendly app for these kinds of days! This is a good thing for you.

I hope it didn't drag too much and you feel like it's nearly bedtime. (I also remember the joy of the CBeebies bedtime hour starting - do they still have that?)

Probably the most cheerful thing I can say is that some of us find the baby and toddler years really hard, but then the older/teenage years feel easier than they do for some parents, IME. Although if a day seems long, encouraging you to think about years probably isn't that encouraging Sorry. More short term, could you make new friends in your area - are there any groups (I don't mean baby, more hobby or interest based) or courses you would be interested in joining? If you have a local library this might be a good starting point. Apologies if I'm teaching you to suck eggs.

Hope the day was better than you thought

What an apt cross post!

"You come across as some special little snowflake. You chose to have children so, basically, deal with it"

Lilly I fear you have misunderstood the very point of MN, or you're just a bit of a dick...

I am already resenting DH (he booked onto a course this week to have a change from the office with no thought as to how this would impact on me and the extra work I have to put in alone) and feel like I am going to be snapping by the time he gets home

Because you have to spend one day at home with your 2 children? Get a grip OP, you have nothing to complain about here.

for @grobagsforever. Mumof3. ..go and have a glass of something hun

BigPuddle
I'm not a 'dick' thanks all the same, and I do understand the whole point of MN, do you?
MN is a way of offering support, however, it really does come to something when a mum dreads having to spend a day with her own children. Especially, as the one who is poorly will want their mum more so.
OP also mentioned that she went out last night and her dh put one to bed. A single parent doesn't usually have that support and can't just go out at night even, whether socially or work related, to get a bit of time out from being mum.

Oh come off it lily, half of MN is women having a moan. Are we not allowed to now? What a nasty post.

Is it really necessary for posters to keep coming along to stick the boot in to an OP who has already said they are lonely, struggling and missing a support group today? Does it make you feel good?

I don't get why this is such a big deal OP. 6.30 hometime for your DH sounds very reasonable to me, many partners are regularly home hours later than that. And surely as a SAHM minding sick kids is what you signed up for.

I get a bit of mild annoyance at not being able to leave the house all day, but all this angst is ridiculous.

She’s not a SAHM

Maybebabybee
Of course people want to sound off, but why post in AIBU if you don't want people to disagree with you?

I would literally give my right arm for your problems today.
By all means have a little moan, but please privately count your blessings.

People can say how what they want stitch. That's how forums generally work.

Maybe we need a section on MN called " only respond if you're going to agree with me "

Yeah people can say what they want. That includes me.

Yeah but nobody is questioning YOU are they?

Even without DS being home ill today, the extra hours alone mean that I am getting kids ready and (with the exception today due to illness) and out to where they need to be with 0 help, go to work, collect kids on my way home, make tea, clean up afterwards, put the washing on, bath the kids and will be putting them to bed too because he put one of them to bed last night whilst I went out, I still then had no hang the washing up when I got home!

Welcome to my world!! Dp works away a lot. It's work; he's not on a fucking jolly. Get on with it.

I agree that the poster should have aired this in Chat. Don't post in AIBU if you only want to be told you're right.