To be dreading the day ahead?

[hidinginthenightgarden]

DS is off school ill. DD (age 2) is home with us.
DH is out from 7.30am-6.30pm and we are going to be pretty much housebound!
Even if DS feels up to going out a bit later on, the weather is awful and so far not suitable for parks, at best a ten minute walk when it dries up a bit may be possible. We normally go to a support group on Wednesdays but whilst I am very tempted to go (it is not for illnesses) I don't want to make anyone ill.
So far I plan to cook a pie (should take up an hour or so on and off), a short walk if the weather is okay, some painting, a morning bath for them and hopefully they will both have a nap.
That is not going to keep us busy for 11 hours!
I am already resenting DH (he booked onto a course this week to have a change from the office with no thought as to how this would impact on me and the extra work I have to put in alone) and feel like I am going to be snapping by the time he gets home.
The only light is that DS is eating much more than he did yesterday so is hopefully getting better.
Feeling very sorry for myself..

Maybe go somewhere other than AIBU for a moan OP, not much sympathy on here is there!
I’m not looking forward to today either - LO is poorly and been up most of the night, has been like this for nearly 2 weeks (think it’s that virus going round), and I’m really shattered. Not sure if I should take her for a walk in the pram to knock her out, I’m worried that’ll make her cough worse.
Hope your DS recovers and your day is better than you anticipate - have a few of these

just watch films and chill out! what's so terrible? you could be scrabbling for childcare cos you HAVE to be at work. some people!

Messy play is good for indoor days. I do a lot of this with 2 yo DS. Make play dough, cloud dough, rainbow spaghetti, rainbow rice, give him a bunch of pots and pans and spoons and he has a ball. Or I set up water play for him in the living room with a mat. We live in a flat with no garden so I have to be inventive on days we can't go out!

I think we can all sympathize with a day stuck indoors with a poorly/bored child and a restless toddler and crap weather outside. Having a moan about that is allowed.

It’s the blaming your husband for having the temerity to go on a career advancement course that has him out of the house for a perfectly normal 11 hour day that got my goat. He wasnt to know your son would be ill and even then, you work part time. This is part of the deal. You sound very resentful and stressed at the thought of any time spent that can’t be all about you and what you want to do. Maybe you’d be happier and more suited to going back to work full time and getting a child minder. At least that way you’d be entirely justified in expecting your DH to meet you exactly halfway on everything. At the moment, I am sorry to say, you are sounding a bit like a petulant child who doesn’t realise how easy they have it.

AIBU isn't about support IME, OP, some posters love having a go at OPs who they consider are being unreasonable. You might have been better off posting in chat.

I do agree that it's shit when your DCs are ill and you're stuck at home. And yes there are far worse things people have to deal with, but you're entitled to have a moan about it. Just don't expect support on here, if you whinge about minor irritations you'll just get told to 'suck it up'.

Is there a friend you could call to have a natter with? (Obviously the DCs will probably try to get your attention and that's a pain, but you might be able to distract them for a little while with a DVD.

I do agree with PPs, though, that if you're convinced you're going to be bored out of your mind you will be.

Reanimated, he doesn’t do nothing he just doesn’t do that much.
He keeps on top of the finances which considering we are not well off I treat as him doing “his share” of housework. Occasionally he will put on some washing or clean the kitchen but day to day I do most because I am at home the most.
I think the root of the problem is I am lonely, in a city away from my family and friends and had an opportunity today to go out and see some people in a similar position and now instead I am home all day with no one to speak to once again.

Moan away, I'll join you.

We haven't left the house since Saturday (combination of DS having a high temp/constant rain/no car atm)

Just as he's starting to feel a bit better the gale force winds have started. :(

Google "Rainy day activities"
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I have some sympathy for you. But really? Resenting your husband for it? Dreading it? "I am too special to spend the day inside.."

Please, and meant kindly, give your head a wobble. Accept it for what it is and get on with it.

Frustrating, but seriously it is one, not particularly long day, at home with your kids. Hardly down the mines.

Just read your update and seriously, if the thought of one day at home is making anxious and tearful then you have a problem. Do you think you might have depression? Please think about talking to your HV or GP because this reaction is not normal or proportionate.

Hiding I think the answer here is to get through the day, hour by hour, and not think of it as a huge lump of time to endure. It can be completely daunting to be stuck inside with a toddler and sick (ish) child and I definitely sympathise. Life with young children can be exhausting mentally and emotionally as well as physically and sometimes you feel you have completely plumbed the depths of your patience, imagination and sense of humour. Especially in winter, in Jaunuary, when everything is a bit bleak anyway. I would get through the day on minimum effort, and preserve your sanity. Get the DVDs on, as pps have suggested - let the children take turns in choosing so they feel it's a treat. Intersperse the films with reading the toddler some books and perhaps play a board game with the older one. Keep cooking to a minimum so you're not trying to do too many things at once. Use snacks as entertainment. In short, do not feel guilty at making things as easy as possible for yourself! This too will pass!

Wow. You've blown this right of proportion.
Also, why post in AIBU when you've quite clearly decided that you're not being unreasonable and are going to ignore all the sensible advice you've had.

AIBU isn't about support IME, OP, some posters love having a go at OPs who they consider are being unreasonable. You might have been better off posting in chat

AIBU can be the pits, but it is what it says Am I being Unreasonable?O OPs are asking if they are being unreasonable, so will come along and say they are (and some will say they’re not).

If everyone is only supposed to agree with the OP then there is not much point in this section (or people posting in it).

Yes some people can be overly harsh, there is no need for belittling and name calling.

But I’ve always said it should be called do you agree with me? and most of the time the OP doesn’t think they’re being unreasonable and are looking for justifications for feeling what they do, and when they don’t always get it......

*so some will come along

I love spending a day at home without having to go out. Obviously a sick child is not part of that vision though. Your DH is out of the house for a normal length of time IME.

I assume your poorly child will be content to have a duvet day so he gets to be in charge of the remote control and watch films etc. Bring him hot chcolate and medicine occasionally.

With the little one I would cook, do some jigsaws, read some books, maybe make some play doh or do some craft (junk modelling?) , maybe send them into the garden to pick up some bits to stick on the junk model. I'd also do some cleaning type chores together.

Is there anyone you know who you can invite to pop in for a cuppa at any point? Or just have a long chat on the phone with a cup of tea with someone?

a 2yo and 5yo will enjoy a rainy walk anyway. wellies, coats, off to splash in puddles.

i wouldn't stay in with my 9mo all day even in this. he's waterproof and needs a blast of fresh air!

ps my DH is away (at sea) for 6 weeks at a time so i do EVERYTHING all day everyday and YABU.

My husband goes to work at 5am and gets home at about 7pm. I work full time and get up get us washed and dressed, fed, take washing out and put some more in, walk the dog ready to be collected by FIL, set off to school in this shit weather then go to work wet through where il be til 5, go collect child and dog, walk home, take out washing and put some more in, feed dog, feed child, start making tea for me and husband and then after he comes back is when he takes over and does bedtime!

We are outdoorsy people too OP but your day sounds like heaven. I said before I read your post to my colleague that I would have really appreciated a day of doing nothing but potter around in the house.

You have my sympathy with feeing a bit tetchy, we all do every so often but I really don't understand your aversion to rain. It's just water get out and about if the eldest isn't too ill. No way would I spend all weekend inside just because of weather.

You’re being oddly OTT about a standare, run-of-the-mill parenting situation.

Having read your recent posts I get that there’s other stuff going on but honestly, you need to just find a way to be ok with staying in with a sick kid considering you’ve two of them!

That’s not a dig. But it’s life with children and it will happen so for your own sake, you have to find a way to not make it such a big deal!

Wrap up and go for a walk.

Go for a drive.

Make popcorn and watch a film later

Bake.

One day in your life...get a grip

Op I can sympathise with you as I’m exactly the same and hate being stuck in the house
Unfortunately the MN sharks are out at all times ready to eat in on piece 😀 it’s a shame when someone just needs a pat on their back or someone to agree that they feel the same.
For those sharks just imagine a friend of yours came to you telling you the same on School run and you wouldn’t go, Hey dude get a grip it’s not a big deal because that’s not what friends do even if you feel like it in your head it’s not going to make anyone feel any better!
You all probably had a bad morning and thought I take it out on someone not face to face!!
Shame!

I think a walk in the rain can be fun, your DD will enjoy jumping in puddles like Peppa Pig, singing nursery rhymes etc. There's a saying 'fake it until you make it'. If you paint a smile on for your DCs, then you'll convince yourself you are enjoying yourself.

I would echo the suggestion that it's possible you're depressed, though. You're clearly lonely, so calling an old friend would make you feel a lot better. And you'll get the sympathy you want.

And maybe read a book to your DCs?

What is your problem? Your ds is sick and you are at home during the day to take care of him and your other child?? Same as i do most days i go out for nearly the whole day about 3/4 times a week some of the days i will leave the house once to go maybe to the shop and at least one day of the week i stay in all say and do thourough housework and all the odd jobs for example yesterday i scrubbed 2 pairs of shoes that were looking grubby.

This is what happens when you have children you need to get a hold of yourself.. why not make the most of a more chilled day?

OP Put on Cbeebies. All you need do is survive until bedtime, and tomorrow is back to normal. Can you phone your support group while they meet, and ask them to put you on speakerphone?

Do you have a car today? Last week school closed for one day, and I drove a very circuitous route to McD's for drive-through. That used up about an hour, and gave us a breathing space and something to talk about.

Mumof3 if a friend in RL was saying this to me I would say exactly the same thing.

OP can you arrange some time out this weekend? Meet a friend for a coffee or something?