AIBU to next time tell him to fuck off?

[ohreallyohreallyoh]

Parking. I get the frustration for people living near schools but I never park illegally and never block people in. This evening at 4:30 I parked up in my usual spot about 2 doors down from the school as we are not allowed to park in the school car park. Bloke in van pulled in behind me, gesturing wildly. Got out his car and banged on my window, demanding that I move my car so He could park outside his house. Several times I head tilted and said ‘why’ and he repeated himself, each time just a little bit more aggressively. I had turned off the car and picked up my mobile to speak to my eldest to see if he’d picked up a loaf on the way home. Once I’d done that (man still shouting at me),I moved the car across the road but walked back past him to a very insincere ‘thank you’. Repeated again that my car was taxed and insured and that as I was legally parked, under no obligation to move my car. He then got really aggressive and yelled at me that he was ‘going to report’ me for being on my mobile. I laughed and said yes, in a legally parked up car with the engine turned off. So his response to that was that it was illegal to use a mobile in a car.

I shouldn’t have moved, I know. I was wrong, AIBU to stalk that parking space so next time I can tell him to do one?!

Am really shaken.

[LavenderDoll]

I'm near a school and sometimes people park on my drive ... I look out of the window if I'm in to show them that no car does not equate house empty and one cheeky fecker mouthed ten minutes and trotted off on the school run with a half wave.....

[AskBasil]

If you don't want lots of people parking in your road twice a day, don't live near a school.

Film him next time he rants, he's a nob.

Also I bet he wouldn't have screamed and shouted at a man.

[mustbemad17]

If you don't want people parking outside your house, don't buy a house next to a school!

[70isaLimitNotaTarget]

only talking about an hour a day

But this was 4.30 which is well after normal pick-up time .
Not excusing his temper or attitude but maybe he gets home well after school pick-up and doesn't expect to find someone there.
Maybe he had tools to unload and didn't relish dragging them half way down the road.

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[BarbarianMum]

If you don't want people parking outside your house don't live on a public highway. Or choose one with double yellows, a clearway or residents only parking.

[70isaLimitNotaTarget]

Were you allowed to use the school carp park previously?
Is this an afterschool activity you're picking up from?

[Beeinthecity]

Askbasil
What when the school came after your family gained the house...

Barbarian we have residents only parking and car park and so far In an eight year battle with our local school.

[70isaLimitNotaTarget]

carp=car (sigh)

[Shiraznowplease]

You live by a school, you should expect this. The school in most cases was there when the people moved in. I am not condoning blocking people in or illegal parking. It really annoys me to be honest that complain about things that blantantly obvious when they move in, locally we have an issue with bell ringing which hasn’t changed in 200. Plus years church has been there 🙄

[LambMadras]

Good grief. Some of these responses are ridiculous. Why on earth do people act so entitled that they think they own the fucking pavement outside their own house? It's 15 minutes a day for pick up and drop off and if they live by a school and hate it they should move.

OP next time you see him flip him the bird and park 'in his space'. Cheeky rude fucker.

[Lizzie48]

Beeinthecity, yes I get that it's annoying, but they're perfectly entitled to park there, as long as they're not blocking the pavement or causing an obstruction. The space outside your home doesn't belong to you, fact. We made sure we bought a house with off street parking so we didn't need to worry about that.

[Temporaryanonymity]

It's a fucking nightmare living by a school. Ive only lived in this house a year and we've been late for our own school five times because a selfish fucker has parked over my drive so I can't get out. We can't walk, it's too far and I have a long commute.

The school by us is a private school so hardly anyone walks there. They park their giant vehicles fully on the pavement, double yellows, zigzags and on one memorable occasion, in the middle of the sodding road whilst a teacher led their little darling from car to school.

I sometimes get home to find I can't access my drive because someone is parked over it so yes, sometimes I take my frustration out on a parent waiting on a single white line.

The police come every now and again and it improves for a short while.

[Lizzie48]

LavenderDoll, people parking on your drive, that's awful, and very entitled. Sadly I'm not surprised.

[ohreallyohreallyoh]

As there was clearly another space right across the road then I don't see the issue in you moving your car and waiting there. He was wrong to be aggressive though. If it was me I would feel embarrassed and just move to another spot

And if the person across the road said the same? Where do parents park? We have to park somewhere when picking up and dropping off or are we now not allowed to legally park if there is a chance it upsets someone? Do I get the same? Only living where I live certain times of the hear, my road is swamped with tourists parking up to avoid car parking fees. Shall I tell them to move on?

I get it, I was overly passive aggressive and could have handled it better myself but the simple fact is, I was legally parked. Would the police have told me to move?

[Tara336]

I’ve lived near a school... never again! The standard of parking and entitled attitude of these (mainly women) was awful. I had to leave earlier and earlier for work to avoid there crap parking blocking the roads and making me late. They would think nothing of double parking and blocking the road whilst dropping their little darlings off. I have done the school run thing and would park a bit further away and WALK to the school. I agree if your taxed etc your doing nothing wrong but equally some people bought their homes before children lost the ability to use their legs so I can understand their frustration

[Sara107]

Head tilting?! But, nobody owns the road outside their house, and provided you are not on double yellows, a junction etc it's first come first served. I get irritated when I come home to find neighbour's clients parked in 'my' spot but wouldn't dream of saying anything, I just go back and move the car later. Our school have had complaints about people parking badly, but the complainant has gone on to moan about the sound of children playing. What sort of eejit moves in directly opposite a primary school and then busys themselves complaining about children? People seem quick to outrage these days about everything.

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People seem quick to outrage these days about everything.

Every post on AIBU

[MissEliza]

He went about it the wrong way but do you have to park in the same spot every day?

[Buxtonstill]

Cf sometimes park on my drive too. I either let a single tyre down or if I can if I’m can be arsed, put a bike lock on the gates.... the indignation I get from people ‘oh I was only popping to xyz shop....’ They think nobody is in, and that entitles them to park on my drive. DH suggested sprinkling thumb tacks on the drive, but I think I flat tyre is fair game...

[ohreallyohreallyoh]

Lazy, entitled fuckers like the OP don't get any sympathy from me

I left the house at 7:30 today. Was at work at 8. Sorted cover for a sick colleague and then taught 5 lessons and did a lunch club, a break duty and after school duty. I attended meetings till 4. I got home about 4:50, fed my kids, put a wash on, loaded the dishwasher and made tomorrow’s lunches, I taught a private student and am about to start marking. In what way am I lazy?

Entitled? Well yes, I expect that o be able to park in a convenient space close to pick up/drop off, assuming I do so legally. Which I did.

[Lizzie48]

They shouldn't be causing an obstruction, Tara336. If they're doing that, I think you should record the number plates and call 111. Parents are entitled to park legally when taking their children to school, not to double park and cause an obstruction.

[Fruitboxjury]

I suspect the school was there before he was so assuming you weren’t doing anything illegal he’s being a dick.

If you don’t want people parking legally outside your house, don’t buy a house by a school.

[SockUnicorn]

i wouldn't have moved. but i also wouldn't have head tilted at him. i would have just opened my window and asked what his problem was and explained that i was legally parked.

i wouldn't go back, i see a difference between defending yourself and going looking for confrontation.

[mustbemad17]

There's a huge difference between people parking like wankers across or on drives, parking illegally...and somebody parking on a road without restrictions!

[WhiteWalkersWife]

He was in the wrong though the head tilting thing is really weird. I lived by a school, you avoid pick up and drop offs if you can. Tbh i was just glad to park on my street! The only two times i had rage was when a mum blocked me in with bad parking and told me she 'wouldnt be five minutes'. Oh and parents evening. Thats so annoying for the sheer bad driving and parking.

Though with the mum blocking me in, after calling work to say id be late (id seen her do it before and she was always minimum 20.mins) they told me to work from home and skype into my meeting. It became amusing when my neighbour who'd had the same from the woman then blocked her in and i was about to start my meeting so wouldnt answer my door. I think it was about half ten when my neighbour moved. The mum never ever blocked anyone again though i suspect our descriptions were mud on parent groups!