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AIBU to next time tell him to fuck off?

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ohreallyohreallyoh · 23/01/2018 17:40

Parking. I get the frustration for people living near schools but I never park illegally and never block people in. This evening at 4:30 I parked up in my usual spot about 2 doors down from the school as we are not allowed to park in the school car park. Bloke in van pulled in behind me, gesturing wildly. Got out his car and banged on my window, demanding that I move my car so He could park outside his house. Several times I head tilted and said ‘why’ and he repeated himself, each time just a little bit more aggressively. I had turned off the car and picked up my mobile to speak to my eldest to see if he’d picked up a loaf on the way home. Once I’d done that (man still shouting at me),I moved the car across the road but walked back past him to a very insincere ‘thank you’. Repeated again that my car was taxed and insured and that as I was legally parked, under no obligation to move my car. He then got really aggressive and yelled at me that he was ‘going to report’ me for being on my mobile. I laughed and said yes, in a legally parked up car with the engine turned off. So his response to that was that it was illegal to use a mobile in a car.

I shouldn’t have moved, I know. I was wrong, AIBU to stalk that parking space so next time I can tell him to do one?!

Am really shaken.

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DoNotBringLulu · 23/01/2018 19:05

I used to park a few roads away and walk, it gets very congested around school and not worth the hassle for a short walk. Having said that, the van bloke does not own the road and OP was doing nothing wrong. It's tough but nobody has the right to park outside their own house.

maggie222 · 23/01/2018 19:05

I live near a school but they do not park as far as our cul-de-sac..what they do is cause so much disruption that I cannot get to my own house as they double park not leaving enough room to get through on the road.

I had a woman sat with her teenage son in the car refusing to move and laughing even though she was blocking a road. I have never met such self entitled tossers since I moved here.

If they don't double park they park fully on the pavement so a buggy or wheelchair has to go on the road.

Last week was the last straw. The police will be attending and hopefully a few tickets will help them see how selfish they are acting.

sausagerollsrock · 23/01/2018 19:06

I’m sorry but yabu. You were antagonising and rude.

LittleFeileFooFoo · 23/01/2018 19:06

Why couldn't he park across the road? Surely he can move into that spot after the school run?

I'm with you op, but next time film him raging and banging on your car. No need to tell him to fuck off. And you'll have a bit of motive if something happens to your car whenparked there in the future...

mustbemad17 · 23/01/2018 19:06

Can residents not apply to have a drop kerb outside their homes if they want? Might be wrong, but if it pisses him off that much he could look into it.

Personally if someone comes up to me all aggressive & in my face i'm liable to respond the same way. I once had a woman shout at me because i was in a spot she paid for (no signs anywhere). When she found out i was there to care for someone on the street she went even more batshit. Had she asked me to not park there as it was her spot, without shouting abuse at me, i'd have moved. I ignored her instead. My employer called the council in the end as us carers kept getting accosted & turned out she hadn't paid for it so was public. Her shirty attitude meant we all parked there when it was empty 😃

Next time OP park there as normal & tell him to go boil his head if he starts. Wanker

KERALA1 · 23/01/2018 19:06

What a nutter. We live next to a hospital and outside the residents restricted parking hours staff and patients park in our road. It's bloody annoying but they are perfectly entitled to do so. If he wanted to park outside his house he should have got a house with a drive. Thems the breaks.

Still he will not be around much longer if he goes so mental over parking will give himself a heart attack or something

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GumsnNoses · 23/01/2018 19:08

Maggie - there's a bit of that round our way too - it's shit. People double parking and then buses can't get through, etc. but to my mind, that's quite different to someone legally parked on a street.

Hope it gets sorted for you.

Beeinthecity · 23/01/2018 19:10

Is this on a public road by a normal pavement.

I ask as we have the head tilt I pay my tax and insurance and can park where I want regularly on our private residents carpark...

taskmaster · 23/01/2018 19:13

I live near a school but they do not park as far as our cul-de-sac..what they do is cause so much disruption that I cannot get to my own house as they double park not leaving enough room to get through on the road
Thats a totally different matter.

I’m sorry but yabu. You were antagonising and rude

She was sitting minding her business when he started banging on her window and demanding she move. Did you mean to say HE was antagonising and rude?

Lizzie48 · 23/01/2018 19:14

We're only talking about an hour a day (maybe an hour and a half at the most), so I don't understand why it causes so much angst tbh. As long as people are parked legally and not blocking drives, of course. I've seen some atrocious parking by parents, it would be very frustrating if they were blocking my drive, obviously.

taskmaster · 23/01/2018 19:15

Lazy, entitled fuckers like the OP don't get any sympathy from me

Lazy entitled fuckers like you who can't walk from a space thats not outside your house get no sympathy from me.

OP could have easily parked up a street/block away and waited in/at the school and walked back to her car.
How do you know she could? Maybe all the streets are the same? Maybe she can't walk far?

Or just maybe she can park where the fuck she likes and anyone who doesn't like it can fuck themselves?

Bluelady · 23/01/2018 19:16

No way would I be aggressive or rude. In fact I wouldn't ever say anything. Nonetheless, when there's an entire road to park on - most of the houses have off-road parking - and when all the neighbours inconvenience themselves rather than park there, it's annoying. The legality is unarguable.

MrsJBaptiste · 23/01/2018 19:16

God, I'm with the van man. You sound ridiculous OP - head tilting, saying "why?" clearly just to annoy him then carrying on with your phone call... I'd have been pissed off.

taskmaster · 23/01/2018 19:17

God, I'm with the van man. You sound ridiculous OP - head tilting, saying "why?" clearly just to annoy him then carrying on with your phone call... I'd have been pissed off

Good. I hope you'd be spitting feathers you were so mad. And then realise what an utter dick your were being and how you couldn't do a single thing about it.

MrsJBaptiste · 23/01/2018 19:19

I reckon a lot of people on this thread don't drive...

Grumblepants · 23/01/2018 19:20

People keep saying OP should park further away and walk to the school! If you park down the road or even around the bloody bend, it will more than likely still be outside someone's house. So you just end up pissing off someone that was clever enough not to live on a road with a school in it.

HeyhoIndigo · 23/01/2018 19:21

YANBU. You were legally parked and not obstructive.

I would not have moved at all. I would have warned him not to bang on my window as he shouldn't be touching or damaging my property.

If you park there again, can you try not to engage with him at all ? I wouldn't tell him to do one as that might aggravate the situation and I don't know how you avoid engaging with him. Massive noise cancelling headphones and ignore any gesticulating maybe ?

Beeinthecity · 23/01/2018 19:21

Lizzie believe me it's not an hour or day.
Were we are we get the local nursery from 6.30am, secondary school from 7.45am, primary breakfast club from 8 up to parents for normal drop off at 9am.

Then it all starts again at 2pm for Secondary, 3.30pm for primary and 4-5pm for after school club. Then nativity and assembles and plays and rehearsals. Drives me insane!

HopeClearwater · 23/01/2018 19:21

I know the law but YABU. Just because you can do something doesn’t mean you should. You’ve got the brass neck to wind the guy up - all he wants to do is park next to his house in the way that anyone would if they could choose to - and he’s got some silly cow head-tilting at him. Get over yourself OP. Park somewhere else and use your legs.

Beeinthecity · 23/01/2018 19:22

And many don't drop and run but just park up.

taskmaster · 23/01/2018 19:24

You’ve got the brass neck to wind the guy up - all he wants to do is park next to his house in the way that anyone would if they could choose to - and he’s got some silly cow head-tilting at him

He probably shouldnt bang on peoples windows and shout if he doesn't want the (apparently from this thread) pure horror of a woman moving her head slightly to one side. The poor man.

Hmm
DoNotBringLulu · 23/01/2018 19:24

Parking causes some intense emotions Hmm

taskmaster · 23/01/2018 19:24

Oh and you can;t choose to park outside your house whne someone else is already there.

Chipshopninja · 23/01/2018 19:27

My childs school is on a residential street, in a residential are (arent most schools?) if i couldnt park on the road outside peoples houses i would have to walk 2 miles to get to school.

Op, YWNBU to park there but YWBU to tilt your head repeatedly in a cunty fasion.