AIBU to next time tell him to fuck off?

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Parking. I get the frustration for people living near schools but I never park illegally and never block people in. This evening at 4:30 I parked up in my usual spot about 2 doors down from the school as we are not allowed to park in the school car park. Bloke in van pulled in behind me, gesturing wildly. Got out his car and banged on my window, demanding that I move my car so He could park outside his house. Several times I head tilted and said ‘why’ and he repeated himself, each time just a little bit more aggressively. I had turned off the car and picked up my mobile to speak to my eldest to see if he’d picked up a loaf on the way home. Once I’d done that (man still shouting at me),I moved the car across the road but walked back past him to a very insincere ‘thank you’. Repeated again that my car was taxed and insured and that as I was legally parked, under no obligation to move my car. He then got really aggressive and yelled at me that he was ‘going to report’ me for being on my mobile. I laughed and said yes, in a legally parked up car with the engine turned off. So his response to that was that it was illegal to use a mobile in a car.

I shouldn’t have moved, I know. I was wrong, AIBU to stalk that parking space so next time I can tell him to do one?!

Am really shaken.

@ohreallyohreallyoh sorry, of course you have to go back, i mean just not park in that space :). So I would return for the kids (unless you're not particularly attached to them, in which case just cut your losses) and park elsewhere. If anything just incase he approaches you with DC in the car and frightens them. But I do think you were in the right to park there and would have stood my ground.

It may be frustrating for him, but if he doesn't have a designated parking space - which from your post - he doesn't, and there are no other parking restrictions, and you parked in a way that allowed vehicles to reverse out of their drive, then he isn't entitled to park outside his house as the road is a public highway.

I think old drama queen wouldn't have been as loud or aggressive if you'd been a bloke.

I'm absolutely amazed at some of these responses. The man was aggressive towards someone legally parked. And yet people are blaming the OP for his actions. She didn't do anything wrong.

How many on here have had to put up with aggressive men when they've not been doing anything wrong? How many have had to put up with men trying to bully them? Why the fuck should we give in to these bullies? And if we aren't good little girls that do as these bullies want them we're to blame? Really? God forbid we should head tilt or keep asking why.

OMG OP is this school in Lewisham and have St in the name?

No, nowhere near! Other end of the country.

I'm absolutely amazed at some of these responses.

Me too. Especially the people who seem to think there's an unwritten rule that it's rude to park outside someone else's house.

It's annoying when I get home and have to park in the next street. I get it. But I'm annoyed because walking is painful for me. I'm annoyed I have a fucked up spine. It never occurs to me to be annoyed at the people who parked in a convenient space since that's what we ALL do. When I was able-bodied and could literally never park outside my own house, I wasn't annoyed at all. Able-bodied people enraged about walking a few extra metres need a good slap.

He's a nasty piece of work and got what he wanted by being nasty and bullying. Make sure a sharp implement is sticking out of your coat next time you walk past his van. ;)

Yanbu. You should be able to park your car anywhere as long as it's legal. People park outside my house every day - I knew that when I bought the house. Rude man.

Eeeow what a creature of a man ! I wouldn’t have put up with that, if your parked safely then he can bolt.

I do feel for people who live in streets close to schools. My dad does and it’s not the parking that’s the problem, he has never bothered about people using spaces for all of five minutes to pick their kids up. He gets really cross with the speeding into the street, people abandoning their cars randomly and he has even witnessed some idiot driving her car up onto the pavement, damaging said pavement ! She then had the cheek to have a go at him calling him a “moaning old w*ker” for asking her to move to a safe place.

Sorry for my unnecessary rant but he was out of order, don’t let it worry you, if he starts again report him ! There is never need for nasty aggressive behaviour like that.

The man wasn't being cheeky....he was being a bully and laying down his own law.

I don't get why people keep telling the OP to park further away and walk.

She'll still be outside someone's house, and they still might be unhappy about it even if she's the only person parked on the street at that time.

My friend is a driving instructor and she has no end of stories about people coming out to move her and her students on if they park outside the wrong house for any reason.

The other driver wasn't unreasonable to want to park outside his house. But as someone else was already parked there he was unreasonable to bang on the car and demand they move.

We live near a school and if we come home and can't park outside our house, we park further away and move the car when we can. It's annoying but it's not our space on the road.

We've actually had two non-designated parking bays put in by the council recently. If everybody parks considerately we can fit six cars in each bay (there are no lines or anything).

I was recently the only person parked in the first bay, right at the far end, the furthest bit from my house. I admit I prefer the other end, but I'm just glad we've got an off road place to park so I don't complain if I can fit my car on it somewhere. Even if it's the second bay, it's still off the road and I'm grateful to have it.

I was in the car programming the sat-nav and noticed a car on the road behind me, wondered why they'd parked on the road across the bays rather than in one, and then carried on programming the sat-nav.

The rest of the bay was empty, five other cars could fit. The driver of the other car beeped at me, because he wanted to park in the exact part of the bay I was in and he wanted me to move.

He could have parked beside me but he wanted to be exactly where I already was. It was weird. Especially because, he also has a driveway that runs between the two bays that leads to his garden where he can park two other cars. And that was empty.

People are weird about 'their' space, even when it's not really theirs.

Let's be honest. I have a similar parking situation here and on the whole I'm not around for pickup and drop off so it's not an issue but.... I think the major issue here was the way he spoke to her. Legally he has no right to demand the space in front of his house, but it's a nicety. If he had approached OP in a nice way, talked like a reasonable human about how much it meant to him, do you think she would have responded in that way? Doubtful.

my dsis has this problem (as a lodger) its a new build estate and even thoug every house has its own drive/space they still moan if u park outside their house! its like some snobby ive got a new house and it looks ugly when a car is outside thing

i told her to park where she wants its a public road they have no right to tell her to move

Hi there everyone,
We know that the issue of parking reaches parts of MNers that no other threads reach, but can we ask that those of you who are just being outright insulting to each other give it a rest, please?
Cheers!

I live near a school. There is a large free car park within 4 minute walk, I live 2 minutes away from the school so there are frequently parents and teachers rushing to get parking spots on my street between 8am and 9am and then again between 3pm and 4pm. There is also main road nearby where residents can't park so park on my street. My children do not attend the local school, and their school insist that parents do not park outside residents houses and even send staff out to monitor parking. As I can't park near my house I'm the one that is on edge in the mornings trying to take my kids plus bags, coats and my stuff for work across the road safely. I've lived in my house a long time before I had children and before the parking issue became irritating. I've never said anything to those that park outside my door as I know there is no law stopping them. However, when I get someone smile at me politely when they pull up outside my house and then watch me unload kids, shopping, clothes, gym kit etc for the other end of the street and stagger up the pavement whilst directing orders at the kids it makes me just think they are inconsiderate pricks.

YABU, you did have a right to park there to pick up your kids from school, but I agree with everyone about the head tilting, makes you sound like a childish ass trying to wind him up more tbh,

My children do not attend the local school, and their school insist that parents do not park outside residents houses and even send staff out to monitor parking

They have no business doing that and can't tell people where they can park.

I am shocked by some of the responses on here. The OP obviously has yo drive to the school. She was not over a driveway, in a disabled bay or on the pavement. She was legally parked in a taxed car. If you can't drive you car to where you need to go and park it legally without being harassed, what is the point in having a car. I personally wouldn't have moved and if he continue to intimidate Me, I would have called the police.

I live on the next road to a school and people still use the front of my house to park to pick up their kids. It’s really annoying! I have a drive but I can’t access it a lot of the time. Also in recent years somebody opened a village pantry... and the most viable place to park for said pantry is outside one of the houses, so that’s also a barrel of laughs.

I’ve never asked anybody to move but if i ever did id really hope they didn’t ask me to fuck off.
Of course he handled it badly, but so did you. It’s his house and you should have pulled over

Also, I understand in this world there are things we don’t legally have to do... but it just makes the world a better, easier and nicer place to live in if we do

No they have no right. But it's a matter of maintaining a good relationship with the neighbors and making the drop off areas safe for the kids to walk to school from the council owned car park. The car park is free for the drop off's and pick ups. The school remind the parents regularly. It's a matter of safety really.