To feel irratated by perfectly able adults who will not learn how to drive??

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They are so blinking dependent on others.

Always asking for favours.

Never going anywhere alone.

Just bloody do it, the rest of us had too.

(the ones I know also won't use public transport ffs)

Oh and the ones I know are women whose husbands even have to take them to the ahirdressers.

How feeble are they??

Am I alone in this irratation?

And 10 years down the line, the effects of needless burning of fossil fuel are becoming ever more apparent. Not to mention the effects of air pollution in this country.

WTF, this is a TEN YEAR OLD zombie thread!

How did THIS get dug up?

Here we go again. If I could be bothered to look I'd probably find my contributions to this thread in whatever year it was.

But FWIW I'm an adult who chooses not to drive. My spatial awareness is crap and all road users including me are better off with me not driving. I live in a city with an excellent bus service and I like travelling by bus. On the rare occasion I want to go somewhere not accessible by public transport, the money I save by not running a car more than covers me to get a taxi.

I never ask for lifts - but never. I think it can put drivers in a difficult position because they might feel awkward about saying no - e.g. they might not have a pressing reason for not giving me a lift, but they might have been looking forward to 20 minutes of downtime on their own in the car, and I get that it could be difficult to say so. If someone offers a lift I check assiduously that it really is OK, and assure them I'm very happy on the bus, and only take them up on the lift if they insist.

So YABU to tar all non-drivers with the same brush. YANBU to be pissed off with people (the sub-set of non-drivers) who won't drive and insist on asking for lifts, especially if there are viable public transport routes to where they're going.

YANBU.
And you feel obliged to offer a lift whilst they "protest" that it's fine, they'll get 2 buses and walk 5 miles so you don't have to go out of your way...
It's a PITA and expensive to learn. It's also a basic life skill.

Would have significantly affected my career if I couldn't drive to different offices at the drop of a hat.
My dad wasn't terribly encouraging of my mother to learn. And neither of my grandmothers ever drove.
Personally, I LOVE being able to leave a crap party whenever I want.

I grew up, lived and worked for a long time in very close proximity to the centre of my city.
My siblings and I never learned to drive, we walked or got public transport everywhere.
I think that it comes down to the age old axiom of Don’t Be A Knob. People who would not use public transport would fuck me off. People who refused to walk would fuck me off.
I never needed to learn (mid 30’s now) until I moved out of the city.
Don’t tar all.

It's expensive, I've never had the money to learn how to drive. I was saving for lessons but it turned into saving for a house deposit instead. Bought a house five minutes from the train station so wasn't an issue.

There's no way we could afford a second car and DH needs a car to get to work because of his hours so the only time it would be useful for me to drive is when we're visiting his parents but I'd probably be so out of practice I'd probably not feel safe driving there anyway.

My husband doesn’t drive and I get so frustrated about it that I have literally had to reframe his refusal to learn as a handicap because otherwise I just get too furious and it doesn’t help anyone. The truth is, he’s lovely and all that, but I’m the main earner, the only driver and the main person doing housework. It’s shite, but I do go away for work once every six weeks or so and leave him alone to cope with the little ones, which I guess evens things out. So, in sum: I’m always trying to rise above it, but yes his not driving irritates the heck out of me and I do think driving is a life skill that most people - particularly parents - should make it their business to master.

Reframe "x doesn't drive" into "x can't drive" or "x refuses to drive".

It's more honest.