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Original poster

To feel irratated by perfectly able adults who will not learn how to drive??

283 replies

SmileysPeoples · 27/04/2007 17:09

They are so blinking dependent on others.

Always asking for favours.

Never going anywhere alone.

Just bloody do it, the rest of us had too.

(the ones I know also won't use public transport ffs)

Oh and the ones I know are women whose husbands even have to take them to the ahirdressers.

How feeble are they??

Am I alone in this irratation?

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noddyholder · 27/04/2007 17:09

I don't drive but have a chauffeur

Heathcliffscathy · 27/04/2007 17:10

it annoys me....but it is a pretty green thing not to do!

I hate the kind of dependency that ensues though.

coppertop · 27/04/2007 17:12

I don't drive but I also don't rely on anyone else for lifts.

Pay for my lessons, test and car and I'll gladly learn.

Original poster
SmileysPeoples · 27/04/2007 17:12

Yes, fine if you don't do it as you cycle everywhere, or use the tube so don't need too.

It's the poeple who just sit at home till someone comes to get them to take them somewhere.

I just want to shake them.

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lulumama · 27/04/2007 17:12

i would only be irritated if they were constantly demanding lifts, and refusing to use public transport

but learning to drive costs a bomb, as does running and insuring, taxing and filling up your car.....

so that could be a reason why people don;t learn

she said, reasonably

suzywong · 27/04/2007 17:12

this is one of my bugbears with my mother

wont' use a train in case it crashes but collects books on Victorian Railway Disasters and took the family to live an a village miles from anywhere so my dad HAD to be the family chauffeur

anyway ..........

lulumama · 27/04/2007 17:12

x post with coppertop

compo · 27/04/2007 17:13

blimey
I don;t drive cos i'm shit at it. I think I'm safer off the road and so are other people.
I live in a city so can walk pretty much everywhere.
Your kind of attitude that I am feeble and dependant on others to get anywhere is a pile of crap.

Gobbledigook · 27/04/2007 17:14

Erm, as long as it doesn't impact on me I don't care

Neither my MIL or FIL can drive which I do find a bit odd. We don't live near them but SIL does and she is always driving them here, there and everywhere.

LittleSarah · 27/04/2007 17:14

People can't drive and won't use public transport?? Man, I'd like to meet such people, I don't believe I ever have.

I don't drive though, sometimes I get lifts, but rarely and only when offered. Easy enough to walk/get the bus.

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SmileysPeoples · 27/04/2007 17:16

WEll I had to pay to learn, and tax my car and put perol in it.

I'm really though talking about those who seem to have no good reason not to learn but still don't do it.

One friend in particular has been saying for years 'oh I must do it', but hasn't. Won't use the bus, has to have a lift to every party/social event and Dh takes her everywhere else.

Just get off your arse and do it.

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Original poster
SmileysPeoples · 27/04/2007 17:17

No I have 2 friends who don't drive but won't use public transport and MIl the same.

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NuttyMuffins · 27/04/2007 17:17

I would love to but can't afford the lessons at the moment.

GreebosWhiskers · 27/04/2007 17:19

Neither me nor dh drive & have no intention of learning as we feel that there are too many cars on the road already.
That said, we do at least use public transport - dh gets a bus to & from work, I use the bus around town & the train to go to my parents' once a week & we get a bus/train for family days out & holidays (we don't fly due to the effect this has on the environment). The rest of the time we walk. Dh can't remember when he was last in a car & I'm in a car once a week as my mum prefers to drive us home so she can see her grandkids for a little longer.
So, if you are making a blanket statement covering ALL adults, then yes YABU; if you only mean certain adults who always cadge lifts YANBU

heifer · 27/04/2007 17:19

Well, I for one do not sit on my arse all day waiting for a lift!

I walk or if have to use the bus, get shopping delivered so don't have to bother DH to drive me to shops...

I agree I really should learn to drive and do mean to, but to be honest at £20.00 per hour I just can't afford it whilst I am SAHM, although no excuse for the other 15 years that I didn't learn..

The stupid thing is that I actually quite enjoy driving when I do, but have failed 2 tests, and last time had driving lessons, had to stop when my mum became ill and couldn't look after DD.

I will be learning when we move up norf though as I know that I will need the car far more.

Original poster
SmileysPeoples · 27/04/2007 17:22

See earlier caveats:

People who have no need are exempt

People who have good reason (each judged on own merit) are exempt

People who make own alternative arrangements such as public transport/cycling/wlakimng are exempt.

It's the ones who have no reason and just rely on others that irratate the hell out of me.

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myalias · 27/04/2007 17:24

Pretty much the same reasons as Compo has given. I feel more irritated by the people who do drive that refuse to walk short distances and insist on taking their cars on every given oportunity - lazy arses!!!

FioFio · 27/04/2007 17:24

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Pinkchampagne · 27/04/2007 17:24

I don't drive. I took lessons when I was much younger, but it was costing me so much that I ended up giving up & never got back round to it.
I am now too scared & feel the roads are a safer place without me on them!
I do use public transport a lot though & also walk loads. I try not to depend on anyone if I can help it!
I really should get round to taking lessons again though, I know.

JaneAustenAllegro · 27/04/2007 17:24

Some men enjoy being depended upon by their wives.

My FIL was like this - discouraged MIL from learning to drive and chauffeured her everywhere.

Now he is gone and she regrets not having a car! She does use public transport/taxis a lot, though it is getting harder now she is getting on a bit.

PerfectMother · 27/04/2007 17:25

I don't drive. I walk a LOT. I use trains. I have things delivered if necessary.

You are being unreasonable. Presumably you are being put upon by someone, hence the rant?

filthymindedvixen · 27/04/2007 17:29

I can't drive. Not I will not. I rely on noone. I make no social engagements unless i know I can get there on me own steam. I never ask for lifts. I hope to be able to drive one day.
My dh drives and enjoys it.
I don't give a fuck what your opinion is on me on this matter.

Shall I do some generalising about lazy arsed mamas who drive to the corner shop? Who drive the five minute walk to school and endanger lives by blocking the roads outside schools with their engines running so their little darlings and them don't need to walk at all? whose children are unable to walk the shortest distance without whingeing?

No I won't generalise. Or get irritated.

prettymum · 27/04/2007 17:29

dp drives but i dont rely on him to pick me up and drop me off places, i just use buses. i can drive now but just cant seem to pass my test!!

OrmIrian · 27/04/2007 17:33

My mil is like that. And yes it's very annoying. But as she could never afford to have lessons, take her test, buy a car, tax and insure it or maintain it. So she doesn't. But she is always prepared to try and use public transport.

southeastastra · 27/04/2007 17:34

i'm the other way around, my dp can drive and has passed his test, yet has never driven and expects me to do all the running around.

i have to pick up his mum, drive him to work, drive the children around etc. it really doesn't make sense and my mil just says 'well some people don't like driving'.

i've given up nagging about it now.

on the other hand i only took my test 5 years ago so can see how the thought of driving is enough to put some people off!