To feel irratated by perfectly able adults who will not learn how to drive??

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They are so blinking dependent on others.

Always asking for favours.

Never going anywhere alone.

Just bloody do it, the rest of us had too.

(the ones I know also won't use public transport ffs)

Oh and the ones I know are women whose husbands even have to take them to the ahirdressers.

How feeble are they??

Am I alone in this irratation?

Smiley, ever wish you hadn't bothered?

They do Rebelbang.

And indeed I do Snaf.

The 'They are' doesn't bother me particularly (I think it caused its own irritation and red mist because it was generalising though), and you've clarified what you meant. I just thought it was a bit cheeky of you to quote your OP to claim you weren't generalising but conveniently edit that bit out .

I should have been in politics yybwabu

You are describing my MIL.

My FIL and now her two DSs all believe she could never do it, so she never has. She also never learned to swim or ride a bike. I'm both irritated by and sorry for her. Her cossetted upbringing, lack of confidence and over-controlling husband mean she has led an extremely limited life. She knows it and is unhappy but has now reached an age where it is very hard to change the patterns of a lifetime.

Are they ALL putting upon you for a lift? Goodness yes that must be annoying.

However, surely ' A person (or eprsons) who cannot drive and cannot be bothered to use public transport is really annoying me by bothering me for a lift' Ok, fair enough.

But the OP? Judgemental uncalled for twaddle.

Serious point though, I bet some of the ones who apparently have no reasons are (possibly very) phobic about it and not keen to admit it. A lot more people have that phobia than you'd think.

That doesn't mean they have an excuse for taking advantage though, if they are doing that in the way they take lifts.

Ah, if they're putting on you, then I can understand the irritation.

Now, please, who should be driving tonight?

Me or should I put on DH???

Put upon DH. I would.

Oooh, i felt my eyes widen upon reading the OP. Haven't read all the thread, and am wondering if there's been any kicking off.
I don't drive, I have 3 kids aged 11 8 and 7, have got on and off buses with double buggies and occasionally a dog in tow, and would never and have never relied on other people for lifts. What I find is that others seem to have much more of a problem with my not driving than I do. I've just always got on with it. I don't think I could be arsed with trying to park and road rage and all that. There's too many cars on the roads as it is.

Can understand being annoyed with people you know who rely on others all the time to ferry them everywhere, and won't even get on public transport, what's that all about?

Have read thread now, and am just wondering why anyone would be in the least bit interested in anyone else's inability to drive.

I think it would be far easier if the OP had taken her beef out with the 'couple' of individuals she's pissed off about, rather than taking it out on the whole, non-driving community.

I've got my own reasons for non-driving (a problem with spatial awareness that actually makes me a certified danger behind the wheel). I have never accepted a lift from anyone (unless they've pressed the point), even when caught out in the rain. I've travelled all round Europe on a variety of different contrivances, and never once felt that I was putting on any body.

And if every fucker in the world had a car ... well, you moan enough about traffic jams now. Imagine the scenario if you quadrupled the number.

Me? I just elegantly glide past you all on the pavement. Where I evidently belong.

BOCO you are my long lost driving twin. I could have written your posts!

Hello Fimbo

Are you struggling with lessons too then?

My driving instructor makes far too many jokes about having to take special pills before getting in the car with me.

When i asked him if i was the worst pupil he'd ever had he wouldn't answer - kept saying that wasn't important - the bastard wouldnt' even lie

I think non-drivers have to think about the future... life changes, sometimes for no explained reason. There is no public transport in my area...I have to drive. What if you had to move? What about when you have teens and have to help them learn to drive, take them out, practice with them etc.

What about if your OH wasn't around and you had to drive.

When you are older, you might really need a car.. you will want the independence when your kids have left home.

I say all this cos my friends mum doesn't drive, her DH isn't around now and she is virtually housebound... her kids don't live near, she wishes she had learned when she was in her 30's or 40's but its too late now.
I'm not being critical.. I just think it is essential cos life changes...

If someone doesn't need to drive, is not dependant on other people driving them around and doesn't want the expense or the bother of driving then that's a person's choice.
If they're not asking you to give them a lift regularly then it's nothing to do with you.
Each to their own.

My best friend doesn't drive.

She is not 'so blinking dependent' on anyone, at all.

If she does ask for a favour, but can't remember the last time she did, I don't mind, she's my bst mate and does me plenty of favours.

She goes to loads and loads of plaes alone. LOADS.

She'll do it when and if she wants.

She uses public transport, her bike and cabs.

If she has an appt of any kind she cycles or finds her own way. All the time. She's a very independant woman.

She's the least feeble and most independent, happy, lovely woamn I've ever met.

Well she's not the type I'm talking about then is she?

I dont drive, I either walk, or bus. In extreme cases I get a cab. I only ask for a lift to get DC's to hospital etc.

Wish I had persevered at 17 after failing the first time, but now I would be a nervous wreck and a danger to others, honestly I flinch while DH is driving. You would not wnat me behind the wheel in front of you!

FWIW I wish I did drive as it would make my return to work from maternity leave alot easier as I could get home 45 minutes earlier and be with my family more!

Dunno, she's a 'perfectly able adult who doesn't drive' so she sounds like fitted your description!!!!!

helliebean, I agree with your stance. I rank driving as one of the important life skills, along with swimming and riding a bicycle. Although in the case of driving, it is a big expense that not everyone can afford. If I did not learn at 17 and then immediately thereafter hone my skills on my mother's beat up car, I would probably be terrified to pick it up now. I have had a few near misses in my 2 decades, but still get behind that wheel when I need to.

Boco, you are brave to keep trying and trying. I am full of admiration for you when it could have be so easy for you to just give up. One day ...

Have to say that my DH has ONLY just passed his test (despite us having 2 kids) and I practically had to threaten divorce to get him to learn. The most irritating thing was that he would keep planning holidays and saying, "It'll be great. We can rent a car and go here and here.." with this unspoken assumption that muggins here would do all the driving! I almost had to get the bus to hospital in labour with our first baby! Guess it all depends on personal circumstances. In London it's not worth driving much as they cripple you on parking and congestion charge so I know loads of people who don't drive.