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Original poster

To feel irratated by perfectly able adults who will not learn how to drive??

283 replies

SmileysPeoples · 27/04/2007 17:09

They are so blinking dependent on others.

Always asking for favours.

Never going anywhere alone.

Just bloody do it, the rest of us had too.

(the ones I know also won't use public transport ffs)

Oh and the ones I know are women whose husbands even have to take them to the ahirdressers.

How feeble are they??

Am I alone in this irratation?

OP posts:
madamez · 27/04/2007 22:13

Tch, well, driving's not really the issue with snivelly dependent people like that. There are just some people who think that everyone else exists to look after them. Because they're fwagile.

And I don't drive, though technically I can. Clean license, everything, but haven't driven a car since 1988. I won't necessarily turn down an offered lift in a car (though I will if there's a feasible alternative, because I just don't much like car travel) - but wherever I'm going, with or without DS or stock bags, I usually expect to travel on publlic transport with the possible addition of a minicab.

Original poster
SmileysPeoples · 27/04/2007 22:14

And once again......

By SmileysPeoples on Fri 27-Apr-07 18:33:10
By SmileysPeoples on Fri 27-Apr-07 17:22:38

See earlier exemptions:

People who have no need are exempt

People who have good reason (each judged on own merit) are exempt

People who make own alternative arrangements such as public transport/cycling/wlakimng are exempt.

It's the ones who have no reason and just rely on others that irratate the hell out of me.

By SmileysPeoples on Fri 27-Apr-07 18:30:40
By SmileysPeoples on Fri 27-Apr-07 17:12:18

Yes, fine if you don't do it as you cycle everywhere, or use the tube so don't need too.

It's the poeple who just sit at home till someone comes to get them to take them somewhere.

I just want to shake them.

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LowFatMilkshake · 27/04/2007 22:14

My DH doesnt want me to drive. But my best friend said she would pay for test if I learned!

She learned late and would be lost without her car now.

kama · 27/04/2007 22:15

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DrNortherner · 27/04/2007 22:16

Blimey to OP. I only passed my test in December at 30 yrs of age. I had many lessons over the years and took 5 tests.

Some people do not like driving. Some can't afford it. Some aren't good at it.

So what?

Stop offering lifts then. I hated depending on others, and did ocassionally accept lifts. But I hope they were offerred with good grace, and I was not moaned about behind my back.

LowFatMilkshake · 27/04/2007 22:16

On the flip side of this conversation I really get irriated by people who dive what takes me 5 minutes to walk!

Like just driving DC's to school cos it's raining, by an unbrella and some wellies FGS!

blueshoes · 27/04/2007 22:19

Batters, fair enough. From my point of view, life skill in that driving opens up avenues and gives one independence. I live in London and so actually don't drive very often. Even do the school run on foot. But if I needed to drive my children to their activities or visit relatives or go on UK holidays, I could. And I do only one supermarket shop a week, for which a car is necessary. I would certainly pay for my los lessons when they turn 17.

Boco · 27/04/2007 22:19

Smiley you're funny Very persistently sticking by your thread.

I guess there are lots of non drivers here, and no one who relates to the types you're talking about.

There are alot of us non-drivers who feel a bit insecure about it, because we've tried or are trying - and have failed or not succeeded yet, so no matter how many times you repeat your posts and various clauses and subsections, we're going to feel like you were calling us pathetic people, and want to slightly poke you in the eye for that

ThomCat · 27/04/2007 22:20

Right, that's cleared that up then SmileysPeoples! So that leaves what percentage of the population then that irritate you so much, about 1% maybe??? LOL! Arrrr happy days! [smile}

Do you what realy irritates me, people with white hair that have natural dark streaks and one green eye and one blue eye and wear cords and scratch their beards with a pencil on Tuesdays!

Boco · 27/04/2007 22:21

LFM snigger, i'd be jealous of those divers!
[pedant]

marthamoo · 27/04/2007 22:21

I don't drive. Can I have a lift?

madamez · 27/04/2007 22:23

BTW, SMiley'speople, I got just as much of a kicking for having a go at people who insist on driving when they needn't, so don't lose any sleep over it

ThomCat · 27/04/2007 22:24

People like you rally irritate me Martha!

Original poster
SmileysPeoples · 27/04/2007 22:25

Well it's more than one in my life right now.

and many an AIBU thread is about just one annoying person.

So feel quite justified.

the ones I know are over realiant, no ,totally reliant on others, and are making no moves over years to address this. It suits them.

They are irritating.

and if nothing else today at least I've learnt how to spell irritating.

OP posts:
marthamoo · 27/04/2007 22:26

You won't give me a lift then, TC?

Original poster
SmileysPeoples · 27/04/2007 22:27

Did you madamz?

they irritate me too!!

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edam · 27/04/2007 22:28

LOL Martha, if you get that lift, get them to pick me up too, would you? Only dh helped his mother clear her garage last week and the contents seem to have ended up in our car, leaving no room for any passengers...

LowFatMilkshake · 27/04/2007 22:28

And me I jsut started a really badly spelled thread on it!

ThomCat · 27/04/2007 22:30

Martha - I'll give you a lift -

You look great, you are great, your hair looks fab, your skin bright and radiant, you smell delicious, you look so happy. Everyone loves you, it must be wonderful to be you.

Feel lifted?

berolina · 27/04/2007 22:31

I don't/can't drive. Failed my test once at 18 (12 years ago) and never retook. i quite honestly think the roads are better off without me - not because I was all that bad when learning first time round, but because I just think I'd be a too nervous and indecisive driver, liable to lose my head/make mistakes in sticky situations. I suppose it is a bit pathetic, but all of us have to be pathetic at something - and good at lots of things too. dh, OTOH, is a fantastic driver (who failed his test 3 times before finally passing - usually for, to quote one examiner, 'driving like a driver, not like a learner' ). So I'm quite happy to let him do the family driving - not that we have a car atm anyway. We live in Germany, the land of functioning public transport.

Boco · 27/04/2007 22:31

TC are you my father-in-law?

If not, you stole his gag.

edam · 27/04/2007 22:32

Oi, TC, what about meeeeeeeeeeeeee?

ThomCat · 27/04/2007 22:33

LOL Boco - that's a Tommy Cooper gag!

Busybean · 27/04/2007 22:33

Its hard, we rely on MIL for lift to do shopping on a sunday, im learning to drive, have my 2nd test 19th june, but its so bloody expensive, £39 for a 2 hr lesson, £28 for theory, £48 for test, plus £38 on test day....
I personally hate asking for favours, rather be seen pushing ds1 in buggy and carrying ds2 in sling to do what I want to do. I do use public transport btw, but that is expensive where we are too.
Im finishing my college course, preparing for uni and preparing for driving test so yes I dont like people who dont even try...but everyone has their reasons...

ThomCat · 27/04/2007 22:34

Edam - you smell of cheese, your rind shines bright, you are the perfect temperature and look great on every cheeseboard! xxx