'Cuddly' Sleeping

[Sarahh2014]

I hate it dh loves it.I like my own space when trying to get to sleep full stop but he's very much the opposite.so AIBU? I don't think I am 😁

I love it. We sleep cuddled up and holding hands . In the night if I get up or move he'll pull me back in. I love it.
It's ine if my favourite parts of the day

I can't stand it. I would prefer to have my own bed (and my own room). Sleeping alone is sheer bliss.

No no no. A big fat no. Touching keeps me awake.

Hasn’t he heard of the hug and roll manoeuvre? Dh gives me a hug, kiss and then rolls over to the edge of the bed. It means I get 3/4 of the bed without having to fight for it. Bliss

Hate it. Like my own space. Can't wait to have my own room when the kids free one up - to escape the snoring!

fuck off to your side of the bed should be part of the wedding vows

Yanbu
I hate cuddling to sleep
We bought a super king.... it has saved our marriage! It's like we are in the same room but not in the same bed.
I can starfish and not touch him (although he sleeps like a pencil)
I would highly recommend it

Aaaaaargh, god no! ExP used to insist I 'cuddle' up to his back. Except that he was nearly a foot taller than me, and nearly a metre wider. It was like trying to be affectionate towards a fridge, when my preference was always to hang off the edge of the bed.

God, he was a wanker.

Current occasional bedpartner never sleeps here, but does occasionally doze off. Always with his arms wrapped around me, pulling me close to him, and it's just so... lovely. Really lovely. He dozes off because he feels relaxed. I don't sleep when he does, because I love that feeling of him gradually drifting off. It's also good when he stirs back into wakefulness and says 'Have you been watching me the whole time?' and I say 'Yeah' and give him a freaky stalkerish stare.

@BreakfastAtSquiffanys you made me lol
Do you promise to love honour and obey... from your own side of the bed for as long as you both shall live?!

First time dp stayed over he tried to cuddle up to me in the middle of the night, I woke up, freaked out and punched him . Felt so bad about it (I have very exaggerated reactions when startled due to mental health issues). At least he stopped trying to cuddle up at night afterwards

I used to have even sharing a bed with anyone and being touched when I was trying to sleep was a total no go.

However with DP I can't fall asleep unless he is cuddling into me.

Oh no, only after sex, not for going to sleep

I like to be on the far side of the bed with my back to DH. Certainly no bodily contact when going to sleep. If I ever roll over so I am facing the middle of the bed & realise he has done the same, I internally shriek with horror & immediately roll back again. During the week at least I tend to go to bed an hour or so before DH which means I get to go to sleep by myself. Bliss! I very rarely wake up when he comes to bed.
I still shudder when thinking about past boyfriends who would wrap themselves around me.

Own rooms here due to snoring. It's bliss having the bed to myself, much as I love him. He can clear campsites with his noise!

It's why I have a separate bedroom. OH will wrap himself round me if I'm in bed with him. Fine if we are awake and chatting, not so much if I am trying to sleep.

Hug and roll. Don’t do a Chandler

Nightime routine

Feel cold
Ask for cuddle
Get cuddle
Feel hot

Move apart.

Sometimes this happens 6 or 7 times a night.

We have separate bedrooms. It is bliss.

We are also deeply in love and have a healthy sex life.

I love having the bed to myself! I certainly do not miss XH taking up all the space. I used to have to kick him in the shins to make him move over! I always feigned sleep when he woke up

We both love it. And we've been married 30 years!

DH sleeps exactly like a corpse and it's perfect because he genuinely doesn't even attempt to touch me during the night.

I hate being touched or cuddled at night and would consider separate rooms if I lived with a toucher.

I hate it.

Do the hug and roll

Was contemplating if my preferences have changed over time. Hmmm I’m going to say that even if I hadn’t married and gotten used to/pissed off with one partner in recent years, I’m guessing I’d have started to pull away after DTD to get into my sleeping position.

As a gel, my sex drive was high enough (and reciprocated enough) that I don’t recall my policy on this- maybe I went home, or he went home, or I was too deliciously exhausted to care?!

Now, for sure, I’m old enough to enforce my preferences. Basically, if I’m going to have a married-but-celibate life, I’m damn straight going to sleep on my left side in silence without any annoying noises or mattress ruckus or DH’s limbs impeding my progress to the Land of Nod!

DH usually cuddles up to me as I sit up longer than him. He falls asleep until I settle down and then let's me be the big spoon and cuddle up to his back. Once I'm sleepy we kiss and roll away but always touching, be it by hand or by foot.

I sleep in separate room to my DH. ‘It’s great.