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To ask if you've had Pneumonia, how did you know it wasn't 'just a cough'

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Christmastits · 20/01/2018 00:59

Had a cough since Tuesday, I've called in sick for the weekend. I'm not starting to feel any better.

I have a temp of 39.5 and my sputum is now brown, it's really hard to cough up anything but it's always there. Lots of vomiting caused by the coughing, I feel bloody awful.

Drs on Thursday said it was viral but I'm not so sure now, I feel like I have the flu, I also have a uti which I'm on antibiotics for but they won't treat a chest infection.

Is it time to go back to OOH tomorrow? Or tonight? I all of a sudden feel really unwell. I'll have to wake DH up to take me but I don't feel like this is just a cough any more

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LostMyBaubles · 05/02/2018 13:46

You've not failed.
Don't blame yourself

I loved loved loved orange is the new black on Netflix!

How are you feeling today? Is the hca any better

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Christmastits · 05/02/2018 15:32

Ah thank you all. She was just so rude. Definitely going to make a complaint

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LostMyBaubles · 05/02/2018 15:50

Yhhh please do

I just don't understand why and how one can be arsey when working in such situations. Surely you would be nice to someone that has been so poorly recently!

Are you managing to eat anything

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Christmastits · 06/02/2018 01:00

@LostMyBaubles I asked her wash her hands before taking my obs and she refused. She also refused to clean the finger probe between patients, she said I was being 'precious' can't stand not washing hands.

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LostMyBaubles · 06/02/2018 07:36

Surely that's standard practice!
Keeping germs away from someone who is already very sick!
Idiot

Bobbiepin · 06/02/2018 07:37

Oh dear, how unprofessional. That's beyond being a bitch and is just plain dangerous. Definitely complain.

Mxyzptlk · 06/02/2018 10:03

Wow! I missed if you said that before. That's not just rude, it's dangerous. I hope you refused to let her do anything.
Definitely complain!

Mxyzptlk · 06/02/2018 10:06

I'm so glad you're getting better, OP. I was really worried for you, earlier in the thread.
Don't let anyone, like that ignorant hca, put your health at risk.

Feezles · 06/02/2018 13:15

Hi, Christmas - I've been reading your thread and just wanted to wish you well and say how sorry I am for your loss. I am so pleased you are recovering now. I am sure I am not the only one who has been silently (up until now!) following and thinking about you. Your DH sounds lovely - what a trooper!

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Christmastits · 07/02/2018 01:23

Thank you everyone. It's been a bit of a shit 24 hours.

Stupid hca removed my catheter after 3 weeks and told me to 'buzz when you need the loo' well I did and I haven't walked for 3 weeks and she didn't come back for three hours! Pissing myself in bed at age 26 was humiliating- being shouted at by her for 'being a dirty cow' was horrific. I'll be making a complaint

Then the consultant came round after she went home and asked why my catheter had been removed. I'm still on hourly urines and it's now back in. So the humiliation that was entirely pointless

My DH has been amazing. He stayed home tonight so I can FaceTime the dog! I miss my dog so much, I miss my bed and I miss being able to go for a walk.

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Christmastits · 07/02/2018 02:05

I actually pissed myself in a hospital bed at 26 years old. I'm so ashamed. I could hear them talking about it because the door wasn't shut.

If anything this hospital stay has made me realise that patients and parents really do hear everything as there is nothing else to do but watch and listen.

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MooseBeTimeForSnow · 07/02/2018 02:06

She did what?? And said that? Fuck me.

Delurking to tell you to be kind to yourself. Sending greetings from my bit of Canada where it’s currently -36 with the windchill!

Have you thought about learning to knit or crochet?

barkingfly · 07/02/2018 02:13

You have nothing to be ashamed of, and she should not be taking care of sick people.

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Christmastits · 07/02/2018 02:17

Thank you, I can't sleep tonight. I need to make a complaint and I can't see any way of doing that without impacting my care. I've just started another thread to get some advice as this is a really nice hand holding thread and I don't want to ruin it!

Full disclosure- the door was 'to' and she was on the other side of it when she called me a dirty cow but I still heard her.

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Bobbiepin · 07/02/2018 03:25

Oh love, no one deserves that. She is the worst kind of person and should not be in a caring role. I have no suggestion as to what to do but sending you a hand hold and a very unmumsnet-y hug. If you can take any positive from this experience I bet it will add a whole new level of empathy to your care, it's just a crying shame that this awful woman doesn't have a shred of the decency you do.

Is there anything we can do to bring a smile to your face? Some terrible cheesy jokes perhaps?

wonderwoo · 07/02/2018 07:26

Hi OP. I have just read your thread and I am shocked by what you have been through. I am even more shocked by that hca.

I dont think you need to worry about impacting on your care by complaining now. She cannot get any worse anyway, and if the other nurses have been kind so far, then they will be congratulating you for complaining, and doing what they can to make things better for you. And if you complain, surely they will make sure you/she dont cross paths again.

Can i suggest as a starter, that you contact PALS. My experience of them has been great. You could have an informal chat about what will happen if you complain (keeping details vague), and then you can choose what to do. Maybe your dp or a good friend could contact them for you if its too much to deal with? I am disgusted by her treatment of you and hate the thought of you having to endure more of that.

I hope today is a better day for you.

Chrisinthemorning · 07/02/2018 07:38

Just read the full thread and wanted to say so sorry for your loss and get well soon Flowers

LostMyBaubles · 07/02/2018 07:56

She wouldn't clean the probes etc and she's calling YOU a dirty cow Hmm idiot

ItsNiceItsDifferentItsUnusual · 07/02/2018 09:36

That's quite taken my breath away. I'm so sorry you experienced that.

I'm sure no-one else thinks that, honestly. It's says everything about her and nothing about you Thanks

notapizzaeater · 07/02/2018 15:28

Complain complain complain

MonkeysMummy17 · 07/02/2018 16:33

Op just rtft and wanted to say how amazingly well you've held it together! You've had an awful few weeks just with this, and I'm so glad you're on the mend.
That HCA is despicable, I read your other thread before this one and thought it was awful - having read all of this too, just wow what an actual bitch!
Hope she doesn't cloud your recovery experience as it sounds like up to now you've had some great hands on care (even if they weren't aware you could hear them talking about your condition!) hopefully she's just one bad egg and you won't have to see much of her!
Wishing you a speedy recovery, and remember to not be hard on yourself - there is nothing you could have done to prevent losing your baby, just be kind to yourself and know your DH is 1000% relieved you're alive and on the mend Flowers

missmillimentscardigan · 07/02/2018 17:33

Just read your whole thread OP, and wanted to say how sorry I am for everything you're going through. Glad to hear you're getting better now though. Try to focus on getting back home with your lovely DH and dog.

LostMyBaubles · 08/02/2018 13:31

Hope you are doing ok op x

LakieLady · 08/02/2018 14:55

Wow, OP, you've had such a tough time, I'm so sorry. I lol'd at Facetiming the dog (mind you, I'd do the same in your shoes).

Hope you get back home soon.

Bobbiepin · 09/02/2018 11:26

How are you doing @Christmastits?

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