Need advice from all wives ..

[Kav123]

I really need some advice here, I dont have a mother or sister and friends advice will be biased.
I work full time one job and part time weekend job. I am also trying to open my own business so mostly busy. I cook from Friday till Monday, as those days I can cook proper food, rest i have to travel so not possible to come home by 10 and cook. My husband mostly put beans on toast for dinner (which I have to ask for ) those 3 days or ask me to get food ordered. Once in a blue moon he will cook something then again leaves the trail of dishes in the kitchen to clean up.
My issue is that my husband doesn't seem to offer any help with household chores, if he cooks he leaves all the dishes in the sink for me to cleanup (or say i will do it tomorrow but tomorrow never comes) if eats he leaves his plates at table which i clean up in the morning, he showers and leaves clothes all over bathroom and bedroom floor, I ask him to put bins out for collection, he forgets, he has never hovered the house. He only puts the washing in if he needs something urgently but only take that one thing out to dry and leaves the rest of the clothes in the machine wet. I am constantly tired, have mile long list of things to do on my own. He has one full time job from 8-4 and get two days off a week, which he spent either visiting friends or cleaning his car.

My friend says all men are like that, so here is my question am i over reacting by bringing this up over and over to my husband attention (which causes an argument) or all husband are like that ?

blacktea my DH has AS and doesn't like dealing with dirty things, but he will do it if I ask. However I don't mind doing it and that makes it nicer for him and I like to feel like I'm doing something easy that means a lot to him.

I'm intrigued to wonder why your friends are biased and in the 'all men are like that' camp?

Are you from a culture where the woman are expected to look after the men?

Some men are like this, some are not.

Those who are need somehow need it to be explained to them that their penis doesn't excuse them from household tasks that need to be done. I'm not sure where they get this idea in the first place (i certainly won't be letting my boys grow up thinking this is acceptable).

Rather than have an argument about it, you need to have a calm and rational discussion. Explain to him that when he does this, it shows that he doesn't respect you and sees your time as less valuable than his.

He may be able to grow up and change. If not, you need to know now before you waste any more of your time on him.

Tell him. As you said, it's his house too, it's his food, his dishes, everything is the responsibility .