Friday drinks ?

[imgettingtoooldforthis]

I work in the city, husband does not. On a Friday my team gets to leave early to go to the pub - bit of team bonding, boss will
shout us drinks. No more than 2/3 rounds max. We have SS eow, DH plays sport on a Friday night. DH has asked for me not to go to the pub and to take advantage of getting to leave work early. However the reason I get to leave early is to socialise (some people drink others don't so it's not forced) DH doesn't want me coming home tipsy (2 glasses of wine or beer) and then looking after SS (who is old enough to look after himself ) while he goes to play sport. (Btw he has 2 beers after with the boys) I'm never home late which would make him late or arrive home intoxicated. I like going, it's a nice way to end the week. Is he being unreasonable or should I put my family first ?

Oh no no no. 🙄 he can forgo his sports to care for his child.
Why on earth would you swerve your drinks for this?
Let him play daddy of the year if he's so keen on family.
Just laugh at him. Enjoy your evening x x

Stay put, get shit faced and go to a cheesy club in Angel or wherever and dance like it's 1985.

Fuck that for a game of soldiers.

Tempted to get up and have another wine ....

Get up and have a wine.

Just seen you're abroad, it's hard isn't it. I'm abroad too.

Make a plan, get copies of all bank statements etc.
Don’t play your hand too soon, make sure you know everything about your financial affairs before you start anything in motion.

FWIW if you do decide to leave him have copies of ALL documents online I. E. Dropbox, Google docs, rather than paper copies or just on email.

I should know this ... I'm legal ! Can't think straight

Take yourself off somewhere tomorrow. You say you are overseas, is your dh a local?

It sounds like he's pissing you off a bit generally - swaggering around when with your work mates, mouthing off at footie, etc etc. Do you actually like him? Is it time to make one of the spare rooms, your room?

Make copies of any and all documents relating to the house purcahse, the deposit, savings, everything.

Please tell me you protected your deposit via a legal agreement???

Try and find all details of his financial affairs, take copies.

Stop transferring him half your salary with immediate effect.

Go and see a (good) Family law solicitor ASAP.

Move into the spare room saying you’re not feeling very well.

Once affairs are in order, book yourself into an aibnb and take everything of value you can.

I'm really sorry that it's ending this way. Try stay calm, change a password on your mobile and laptop, just in case, and keep passport, mobile, charger and some spare cash always with you.
I know it's may be difficult but try not to argue with your husband, better to give him an impression that you are sad that things are not good between you.
I also advised against wine, to keep your head cool. I don't know who is local you or him, and how you moved overseas and so on, but obviously it will affect how you proceed. But don't post it in case it will identify you.
Also it worth to think about sex, you don't want to get pregnant in the next few days and feel trapped.
things will be better, not today but soon.

OP this thread gave me major deja vu.

You've been together for 10 years, married for 3
He has a son who can be clingy
He can be emotionally unavailable
You work in a male dominated environment
You're having fertility trouble and the next step is IVF (sorry, I actually got this from one of your other threads)

Do you go to the gym a lot by any chance? Do you think you husband gives his ex too much maintenance?

OP I have to ask... is this your husband?

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/3135985-to-this-this-could-be-a-sign-my-wife-is-having-an-affair

NordicNobody, I've got this feeling too!

My goodness!

@NordicNobody ...... I have no words

Bit of a coincidence

Do you think it's him then?! At least you'll be happy to see that he got his arse handed to him by the MN jury!

No way! If so, he's a dick.

Is that your OH OP?

Good grief @imgettingtoooldforthis.

I'm confused.

Completely.

Can someone explain this latest twist to me?

The thread was deleted but op posted about her dh and ex having pregnancy shoot pics and she was utterly vile about the ex for no good reason. Looking through the posting history op is fairly new to mn only January.

So this man posting is the OPs OH?

Posting on her account? The usernames are very similar.