If you have worked all day, and looked after kids, and have glandular fever, and cooked dinner... your DH should choose to help you rather than go out for a fucking run?!

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I’m so bloody exhausted. But I’m in a new role that’s my dream job so I can’t have loads of time off sick. So I’m working... and then looking after kids (4 SN and 7)... then I cooked dinner. Just pasta. But still... I’m dead on my feet. House is a mess, I can’t swallow. Kids are still up.

DH decides to go out for a long run and have a long bath.

Disclaimer, he is training for the marathon. But seriously. I need to lay down. I feel like I’m dying. It’s 9.30 and I still haven’t managed to get the 4yo to sleep and he’s laying in the bath with his eyes closed.

Plus. My mum is coming tomorrow. I cannot have her see my house like this.

I just needed to vent. I’m fucked off.

if he still HAD to train the def only a quick shower and straight away to help! Is he usually this selfish?

Posted too quickly - I was going to add LTB (joke)

Yes he should of stayed and helped and mine would of but then I am not married to a selfish dick!

Don’t worry about the house, your Mum won’t care.

I hope you get your 4 year old to sleep soon and you feel better soon too

Have you said anything to him about it? Marathon training is a selfish thing by necessity, you have to be dedicated, but he should have gone for a shorter run or made alternative plans to go another day IMO.

He is a twat but I have a feeling from past posts he has been for a whilr

Surprised you have drowned him tbh!!!

It never ceases to amaze me what some men will do simply because they want to.

I would fucking kill dh if he did this to me. He wouldn't. He's training for a 50 mile Dartmoor cross country run next year, so he runs, a lot. He does it when he's not needed at home. He'd never shit on me from a great height the way your dh has done.

So YANBU to be bloody furious and hurt. for you.

YANBU! I'm training for a marathon too and my husband slipped a disc yesterday. I just swapped my daytime long run for a shorter one at night once the little ones were asleep. I'll do my longer one at the weekend when he's better. The world won't end. Give him hell.

Marathon runners are so bloody self-absorbed, it just takes over everything. He should be able to give it a miss for a day or two if he has a young family, even without the added complication of your illness. Don't worry about your mum seeing the house in a mess. Let her look after you, that's her job. And tell your DH to pull his finger out when he's finished in the bath and get the 4yo to sleep and make you a cup of tea. Selfish prick! And any vital pre-visit tidying he can do tonight.

He's being really unkind by prioritising his optional hobby over caring fo his own children and you seeing as you're ill. Why does he get to do what he wants when he wants? There's no way he should be going out for a run if your 4 year old isn't in bed yet, that's ridiculous.

Go chuck the washing up at him and tell him to do it whilst he's in the bath

Wow just when I think I’ve read it all with regards to what women will put up with I find another thread like this!!

I’m half marathon training so I get where he’s coming from. But he should go out with a head torch after the children are asleep. And right now he needs a super quick shower not a long soak.

I can’t cancel her, she’s coming to help me. I started to be ill over Christmas and there’s like bags of toys not sorted away, Christmas stuff in boxes to go to the garage, the dog hasn’t had a walk for over a week and she’s going to do all these things. The poor dog is like a ball of energy. The garden doesn’t cut it.

Why can't he walk the dog?

(The garage isn’t next to the house)

He’s too busy. He does work... and he says he can’t run with the dog because he’ll trip him.

Are you married to my dh op? that's exactly what he likes to do and acts all surpassed when I get mad at him for it.

If he has another wife she must be even more fucked off than me?!

So he walks the dog first and then has a run after if he has time. The dog doesn't need to be neglected because he'd rather prioritise his hobby, it's unfair on the dog!

Tomorrow you get up the second he comes home and go to bed. He can do everything needed tomorrow evening without you.

Your dh is being a dick. Go to bed as soon as you get home tomorrow. He can look after kids on his own