Inappropriate cashier

[Kentnurse2015]

Throwing this out as DH thinks I am unreasonable

3 year old gave cashier the ham she had carried around the shop with her. Cashier scans it and hides it. Says she can only get it back if she smiles.

Cashier a stranger to DD so she won’t smile. Asks for her ham. Cashier then says she will only get it back if she gets a kiss.DD turns away. I say to her she doesn’t have to and says to cashier ‘she is shy’ to avoid conflict’

Female cashier continues to say she wants a kiss. DD hung around my legs by now. Cashier comes out from around the till, kneels down to my DD’s level and kisses her on the cheek despite my child saying no and me saying she doesn’t have to.

Cashier wasn’t English but European. My DH thinks I am overreacting. A culture thing. I think a child saying no means no. I also tried to put her off without making a scene. I want my child to know they can say no to an adult. I see this as quite serious and DH thinks not.

AIBU? I know I probably should have said no much more forcibly but that would have made a scene. My child was saying no.

@ApproachingATunnel she was scanning other items, not just the ham. I thought she would just hand it over at the end of scanning

The last time I went to the shop I had just my 1 year old son in the pram and she kept going on and on about him. How beautiful he was. He is a 1 year old. I felt really uncomfortable and it held us up but there was no one else and I figured it may have been a cultural thing. I guess that is why I feel now I definitely need to say something.

To be fair, it’s not on me if she loses her job. She was wholly inappropriate when a child (person) had said no so I don’t feel bad from her side. I feel bad for my daughter. It will never happen again while i’m With her though, I know that much!