SAHM/Homemakers - What do you do all day?

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Those who choose to be a SAHM/homemaker, who don’t ‘have’ to work, what do you do all day?!

I’m talking the SAHM’s who don’t work from home. Who don’t have to look after the kids all day etc.

If you’ve done cleaning/washing/shopping etc. How do you fill your day?

If I ever went out for the day straight from school run then 3pm I was home with DC and greeted by breakfast dishes, unmade beds, untidy chatoic bathroom, post to open, children needing snacks, homework etc etc all ontop of the DC bickering and demanding my attention

Oh I know this situation well! Last week I was out for the day and ended up ridiculously behind with the housework!

Oops - now I get Swanner. Think I am too, I some people’s books.

To be honest - that was interesting - I’ve been a SAHM so long I’d forgotten the initial decision and the career I gave up. No regrets.

I could have a job if I wanted it, but I’d rather not have a career. Children need you a lot longer than you think. Teenagers are vulnerable in all sorts of ways, and they’re not always receptive to conversation/ advice.

Just waiting to be shouted at - across the internet.

Momo18 - I really don’t understand your point - you have to go all these things when you get home from your 9-5 job. Do you think the cleaning fairy does it all when you’re at work?

Moms do you employ a cleaner usually when you’re at work? I’m not sure how you wouldn’t come home to that from work anyway?

Momo

Curl I suspect that's allowed.
Hope you're better x

CurlJunkie - I hope you’re doing ok now.

Separately I remember a SAHM friend getting a hard time from a social worker for not doing enough things support her father who was starting to dement.
The SW was silenced when my friend apologised and said her chemo appointments stopped her from being there for her dad.

Stop judging.

No I can’t afford a cleaner

But I just do a bit here and there same as with paper work paying bills and so on (single parent) Do find the more I do the more I can get done the saying want something done ask a busy person rings true with me

I think being a sahm to preschoolers is a full time job, I don't care who argues with that.
It really isn't as they get older and especially when they start school.
But for me something else took over then, it was just family stuff and doing housework during the day rather than at night when they were little. More time for myself which was a huge bonus after having hardly no free time when they were little.
Then it was ferrying them around and and the demands of teenagers.
Helping them compensate for terrible education.

I work now out of respect for the taxpayer and couldn't live with the guilt if I didn't. (long story)

I see what you mean, I’m abit like that too. If I’m busy with less time I can get so much done. The more time I have however I tend to procrastinate, online shop, read or watch Netflix then it’s hard to get motivated!

*enthusiasm

SAHM isn’t a job in the normal sense of the word. That’s the point of it - it’s flexibility - and if you’re lucky enough to be able to do it then it’s no one else’s business.

It can be busy, and it is worthwhile; what it contributes to family life is not as quantifiable as money, but money isn’t everything.

Agree with Tullula; best comment on the thread.

I wonder whatever happened to the OP. It’s been a very interesting thread, not for the predictable debates between SAHM/WOHM choices, but by finding out what other people’s lifestyles are like. Some lovely examples to follow here!

OP tossed her goad bomb, checked in briefly to make sure it had gone off, and went her dastardly way, cackling evilly.

OP was from the Daily Mirror. This thread used in article yesterday, online.

My husband was a stay at home dad - does that count too? He did the shopping, washing, housework and tidying. Volunteered for a charity, stayed at home when the kids were sick and had my dinner on the table every evening when I got home from work. Also he landscaped our huge garden and is still rennovating our house. Sadly he has a job now - I wish he would give it up.

Is a lazy journalist worse than a goady fucker? I cannot decide.

See my post about the washing machine

grouchy

My vote would be for the lazy journalist being worse

Goady fucker isnt getting paid to be a lazy fucker...

Maybe we should all adopt a policy of refusing to post on these obviously goady threads. I don't want my life being used to provide financial support for tabloid 'journalists' and all this thread has achieved is pitting women against each other, who have all just made the best decisions they could, with the information available to them at the time.

Daily Mirror Poor journalist - I hope she/he manages to get onto a decent paper soon

Pottering, catching up with friends, galleries, museums, writing my first novel....

I rarely watch TV.

The real shame was the thread changed direction. It was a non runner for the lazy journalist for pages and pages. I’d say she was well pissed off.

What was the article Twix? Ways to get other people to do your job for you? I always thought that the journalist thing was a bit of a mn myth!