For being bloody annoyed with OH for falling asleep while looking after 8 year old DD

[Malteser73]

So I took our 5 year old to a birthday party this afternoon. OH said he would get tea ready for 5pm. I get home at 5 to find him asleep on the sofa with tea not prepared and DD saying she’s hungry. I exploded, calling him an irresponsible parent. Am I overreacting? I realise DD is old enough to fetch herself a snack if she was starving but even so? Just wondering what you all think, thanks x

Yes you are.

Yabu, the child is plenty old enough to make wake her dad or make herself a sandwich and juice if hungry.

I would be slightly miffed about the promise of tea being sorted not being done. But surely at 8 she could have woken him if she was hungry?

Over reacting, big time.

Yes you are. I'd be a bit annoyed tea wasn't ready and would be sending him out for a take away but other than that the sleeping wouldn't bother me.

Exploding strikes me as an overreaction. Did he get up and make a meal as soon as he woke up?

I think you're overreacting. I'd be a bit p'd off he'd not started dinner as agreed, but this doesn't make him an irresponsible parent. Just a bit lazy!

Very much over-reacting.

My DSS is 8 years old and would barely notice if either of us nodded off on the sofa - he'd just wake us up if he needed us. It doesn't happen (or at least I don't nap downstairs) but if it did, I wouldn't spit feathers about it. Not ideal as your DD hasn't been fed, but not the end of the world as I presume she doesn't have dietary condition like diabetes or something that requires her to eat by a deadline?

Depends why he was tired really.
I regularly sleep during the day with my DC at home - youngest is 7, but that's because I work nights and I have to sleep during the day

YABU

Cut him a break. She won't starve.

Sorry, I do think you are overreacting. Our Dd is 8. I'm sure she could have give her dad a nudge if she wanted something from him.

Over reaction I would say!

Yes you are. I would be slightly annoyed about no tea but not re: the 8 year old...she could have woken him if she needed him.

Slightly annoyed about dinner, unless he jumped up and did it. Is she never awake before you in the morning?

*Your dd

Massive overreaction. Plus it was only 5 when you got home, so it's not as if her tea was already even late!

I would be annoyed tea wasn't started as planned bit not irresponsible. He would have woken up if there was any issue, 8 year old should be able to let him know if she needs him.

YABU, although I can see why you would be a bit annoyed, you are over reacting. Is he always doing things like this? As it really wouldn't be a big deal for me as a one off...

It’s a bit lazy unless there’s another reason for it. Why couldn’t he have made the effort and done something nice with the 8yo?

Not great but huge over reaction from you.
My DD was my carer at that age, and even if not was old enough to wake me up or get herself toast and juice.

Massive overreaction! An eight year old is not a baby, they should be largely self-sufficient. You need to apologise to your DH for being so over dramatic and awful to him.

I think it depends on how supportive and how he gets involved with the family tbh

What exactly are you bothered about?
That she was hungry?
Or that tea wasn’t ready?

8yo is quite capable of looking after themselves. My 5yo can get herself a bowl of cereal!

Massive overreaction