To tell her to stfu about her wedding in 2020

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It's two whole years away, surely no one apart from herself wants to hear anything about this party yet?

Ooh two years in advance is a bit far off. I wouldn't be interested at this point either

I'm getting married in 2020. I've not even started to think about it yet, let alone talk about it. The only reason its that far off is money!

Yeah to be fair very few people care about weddings that are not theirs at all. If it is 2 years off then she has no hope. Poor woman!

I would barely be interested if it was only a month away tbh. Two years? Give me strength!

Can you avoid her for the next two years?

Is she a bridezilla. I love a good bridezilla thread

Tell her she'd better send out some save the date cards quickly !

I'm a bridesmaid, in a whapssapp group and it's bananas.

I might care a week or two before it, but two years I just want to say she needs to get some interests

we had a similar time to save for a wedding. She is prob trying to book a venue and choose a date which is exciting/big deal. After that she prob won't have much to do for a while so it should calm down.

That's nuts. Has she just set the date or booked something major like the venue? Maybe it's just an initial flurry and the messages will die down. Nobody can keep that up for 2 years surely.

It's does provide warning bells about how crazy it'll be in the weeks leading up to it. Brace yourself!

Oh dear I think I'm the same as your friend. Although my wedding is this year. I never thought I'd be so obsessed with it. But I am

Two years is a long time anything could happen mind you I met dh in the Febuary and we married in the August same year I don't like long engagements .

Bless. Does it really matter? She's excited. Why not just be pleased for her. There are far worse things to get bothered about, you know.

Urrrgh - another of the many reasons I don't have Facebook/WhatsApp etc. It took me less than 40 working hours in total to sort out my wedding over an 18 month period and I was sick of talking about it two weeks in.

You could try grinning maniacally and trilling 'Oh don't tell me any more! It will spoil the magic of the day!' and changing the subject to building slug pubs or something.

Oh dear god, been there, only just about stayed friends with her.

We were treated to regular FB updates on venues, dresses, eyelashes, hair dos, bridesmaid dresses, diets, pageboy outfits, more hair dos, veils, grooms outfits, countdowns, honeymoon options.

They had a wedding website. Got regular updates and requests from that by email. Song requests for the reception. Rings. It never bloody stopped. They ended up being married just a little longer than they were engaged.

There was an engagement party which they arranged to take place at someone else’s house.

The stag do cost £350 a head. They hen do was 3 nights in a travel lodge and included a stripper.

They were still paying off the £25k odd cost of the wedding and honeymoon while sorting out the divorce. It was a whole lot of fucking effort and they exhausted everyone around them.

Maybe it's a bit like school applications? You get all anxious in the run-up to submitting the form, it fills your head and then once it's in you completely forget about it until the allocations come out.

Maybe she's getting stressed about making the booking & then she'll relax once that's done.

That's such a shame @AnnieLovesGilbert :( do you know why they decided to divorce?

People will hopefully be happy they’re getting married. They’re unlikely to be fussed about the minutiae of the party they’re having user1492877024. That’s what it is.

It’s selfish to let your wedding take over everyone’s else’s life and OP is right getting annoyed.

I’d love to say it’s going to get better. It really might not.

With my friend it was her second wedding and she seemed sure the more fuss and expense there was the more likely the marriage would last. They’re lovely people but it was grim.

One of them could have died by then or run off with another person. Just tell her that.

Massive infidelity WellAlwaysHaveParis

But they made a lot less fuss of the divorce than the wedding and they’re now much happier apart.

pedantry alert - please ignore - ...no one apart from her...

Hopefully it will die down, even on mute it's annoying and loads of photos of colour schemes ate up my data earlier.

She's now obsessed about becoming a size 10 for her wedding (from a 20) and how stressful it will be to not buy the dress until nearer. It's just all a bit extra

They were still paying off the £25k odd cost of the wedding and honeymoon while sorting out the divorce.

Maybe they went on so much to hide flaws in the relationship?

If she's just got engaged, that's what she's really excited about, and that's new and now, not in two years' time.

If it's been going on for months already then yeah, I have some sympathy. Still, if she's a dear friend, humour her.

What is it with selfish brides this evening?

No one actually gives a fuck about anyone else’s wedding, what’s so hard to understand about that?

Ooh can you link to the other bride thread?

It is a new engagement and other people seem to genuinely be really excited by it all...I'm just faking interest