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To tell her to stfu about her wedding in 2020

119 replies

Ieatcake · 14/01/2018 18:56

It's two whole years away, surely no one apart from herself wants to hear anything about this party yet?

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rothbury · 14/01/2018 19:26

No, they are all faking interest, the others are just better at it that you.

NOBODY really cares that much about someone elses wedding colour scheme/flowers/blah blah blah zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

One of my friends is still going on about her wedding nearly a year later - still posts fucking photos of it etc................Cannot.Get.Over.It.

YellowMakesMeSmile · 14/01/2018 19:32

Sadly in my experience it doesn't get any better when the venue has been booked, they tend to remain the same until the day. Then it changes to baby talk or divorce as they spent so much time in the wedding they have nothing left to do together.

MarieNostra · 14/01/2018 19:33

Sooner or later weddings will become minimalist and that will be the fashionable, on trend and up to date way to go!

I cannot wait for that day.

For guests, it is really not worth it to travel miles, pay for a stopover, buy an outfit, have money for the bar, the petrol etc. just for a few proseccos and a meal and a bit of music.

I can get that down my local pub!

Save the planet will become the norm and will suit everyone wrt weddings soon enough.

They are just so flipping formulaic!

ParticularPosy · 14/01/2018 19:33

And the new trend for a 'Bridal Shower' - just what is that...photos looked like a baby shower without the pregnancy bump😂😂

restingbemusedface · 14/01/2018 19:35

I shit you not I’ve been given a save the date for a wedding 3 years away!! Unfortunately it’s by a friend who starts organising her birthday celebrations 3 months in advance (and banging on about it a lot) Hmm

GummyGoddess · 14/01/2018 19:36

If she's a good friend then remember to check up on her after the wedding. The women I know who have been obsessed with their weddings have had a massive crash afterwards and almost all ended up with depression. Hopefully won't happen to your friend but it does seem to be common.

Until then ignore away!

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 14/01/2018 19:37

TheFrendo, are you feeling a bit left out or something? Bless. Hmm

Batteriesallgone · 14/01/2018 19:42

I don’t understand why you would accept being bridesmaid under these circumstances.

‘Sorry friend, I don’t like weddings. I love you but I think it would be better if I was just a guest.’

Why do you want to be bridesmaid if you are just going to mock her excitement?

MarieNostra · 14/01/2018 19:44

I try my best to like going to weddings, I really do. But sorry, I can't much anymore.

AnnieAnoniMouse · 14/01/2018 19:44

TheFrendo. Go play in Pedants corner >>>>>>>

OP. TWO YEARS? FMD. I’d take myself out of the WhatsApp group.

I’d kill her before Valentine’s Day otherwise.

DorisDangleberry · 14/01/2018 19:45

Just leave the Whatsapp group

StellaHeyStella · 14/01/2018 19:48

Oh no, don't leave the WhatsApp group op, you need to keep us all updated on the level of Bridezillaness,
I love a good wedding thread, me.

mari652 · 14/01/2018 19:50

I don't know why you'd want to keep people informed about the minutiae running up, unless there are decisions that involve them i.e. bridesmaid input on their frocks. Spoils the surprise of seeing it all on the day if you are a guest and rather galling if you are not invited.

LyraPotter · 14/01/2018 19:51

Did she recently get engaged? My best friend has had a 2 year engagement and while she was all over it in a slightly infuriating and stressful way to begin with things calmed down a lot once the initial excitement settled down. See how she is in a few weeks!

MonumentalAlabaster · 14/01/2018 19:54

2 YEARS?? I don't think I could sustain 2 years of interest in my own wedding, let alone anybody else's.

An engagement = 6 months maximum!

littlerobyn · 14/01/2018 19:55

I was bored shitless about people asking about our wedding. Where's you're dress from, what flowers are you having, what colour scheme, what canapés.. FUCK ME!! It drove me mad, I was the one saying can we please not mention it anymore. MIL was strictly banned from instigating any wedding related conversations. Grin

I certainly don't have any fucks to give about anyone else's!!!

WafflesWafflesWaffles · 14/01/2018 20:00

Yanbu. My cousin went on and on and on and on and on and on about her wedding ever since she booked it 3 years prior. I'm not exagerrating when I say this but she literally posted a daily count down of '466 days to go until I marry my prince'.

I blocked her from my news feed because I was so fed up of seeing it.

The wedding has been and gone but she still posts photos of it and their wedding photo was on their Christmas cards.

MonumentalAlabaster · 14/01/2018 20:02

Personally I prefer a good funeral to a wedding - much less bullshit and often some unexpected laughs to be had

MarieNostra · 14/01/2018 20:07

Monumental.

I totally agree with you! But will probably be plastered for saying it....

Funerals are unpredictable, there are some threads in Classics. Hilarious.

Very sorry, I know I should have my funeral face on now.

PixelDust · 14/01/2018 20:08

6 months max? Really.

I am planning my wedding for 2020. I really hope this isn't about me!

MonumentalAlabaster · 14/01/2018 20:13

Yes PixelDust I got engaged in February and married in August.
That was 1988 - so this year 30th anniversary!
Needless to say, there will be no "renewing of vows" - I always think Vow Renewal is for people who didn't get enough of all the twaddle on their wedding day and need to be the centre of attention again

PixelDust · 14/01/2018 20:18

MonumentalAlabaster Six months is no were near long enough for my venue. All of 2018 is nearly booked and the dates we do want aren't available same with 2019.

Due to fixed holidays we only have a few Saturdays that we can work with.

MonumentalAlabaster · 14/01/2018 20:21

Yes people tell me that the reason for long engagements is often due to venues being booked up 18 months in advance on Saturdays....

I got married on a Thursday and in Singapore!

Sparklingbrook · 14/01/2018 20:27

YY 2 years is a long time. Maybe a year- tops. Anything could happen in 2 years. Grin

We were engaged for 9 months and I had had enough of thinking about it by then.

I spent a year at work working in an office with one other person. A newly engaged woman with a huge wedding the next year. OMG I lived it all. I could have replaced her as the bride I knew so much about it. She was the first person to have ever got married. I was single at the time and it put me right off big weddings. I often wonder what happened.

MonumentalAlabaster · 14/01/2018 20:29

The point is, having decided we wanted to get married (which is what being engaged is) we wanted to BE married. So we got on with it and chose date/venue from what was available within a reasonable time frame and with regard to my Chinese mother-in-law who was very serious about choosing an auspicious date (it was already a highly favourable year - The Year of the Dragon!)