Insta Mum 3

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Why is the other thread closed?!? I was enjoying reading through it?!!

Langkaw. I just need a striped top and a candle.

Sorry you are all heartless some of these instamums haven’t had a luxury break for almost two weeks!!

I'm enjoying the piss taking posts. Being open in your contempt of the "instsmums" is far better than having numerous threads to supposedly discuss "issues" you have with the same few instagrammers.

@Sofialemon - did you read the link for the Mumboss event? Is that open contempt for "instamums"? This is taking the piss out of that ridiculous blurb for an event that costs £30 a ticket to attend.

@Sofialemon thanks hun. X

I would've thought having written a book that follows the entire preganancy process and then a journal (which I'm assuming is a 'book' you fill in yourself with some pointers?) there's only so much more you can do 'author-wise' especially only working in that field one day a week. Hence the rehashed birth stories from way back.
@Tainrainrain no luxury breaks but plenty of hotel stays so never fear.
I've noticed a lot of Mae of MP's account despite her now not being on there. I do love MP so not criticism, but she also features on Grandmotherpukkas account to. Papa pukkas nose hair was a bit eww.

🤣 lol 'contempt' is that replacing 'jealousy'? If you can remember anything you previously posted.

I like papa pukka. At no point have I wanted him to rein himself in. He doesn't seem to have the 'please love me!'/try hard gene....but it's early days.

What I want to know is what happens if one of the hubs goes rogue and gets caught going to a lap dancing club. Would they have to carry on as normal? Do any of the instanmums ever get divorced?

@langlaw I do really like him. He's funny and natural. I want to like daddytotriplet girls but I think he holds the phone a bit close and I find it a bit in my face

@langlaw well with instafame and groupies I guess watch this space. They do seem to be quite well reigned in while the strong women gallavant around being strong and in charge. Would any of these men have time?

It's a bit early for the divorces, but all in good time.

@Mumofkids yes. He's a natural wordsmith. Slips in a clever metaphor but doesn't beat you over the head with crap gcse type ones, followed by smug, self satisfied gurning.

Sofialemon. Interesting. Of course the implication for me is that there is nothing harmless about all this. It’s bulls**t designed to make a few rich women richer with the odd #supportingwomen bull hashtag to ease the... not guilt exactly but I suppose it’s because it’s good to pretend to support other mums. It’s good for the image.
When David Beckham flogs a watch or a pair of pants I know it’s an advert. This is covert and for me it’s not the covert #ad crap it’s selling a reality that just doesn’t exist.
For years women have had airbrushed images of the perfect women to make them feel bad. Now this is whole lifestyles... which they portray themselves as ordinary women but they just aren’t

A few years ago I had dealing at work with a single mum who had got herself in masses of debt buying things she thought she needed to give her kids to make their lives happy. It was awful and she had so much guilt.
I don’t like this because it’s not reflective of real peoples lives. The massive house and vast amounts spent on decorators and lord knows what else. Hidden childcare and the “oh I’m just like you” crap when really they are already wealthy and just adding to that.

I don’t like this because it’s not reflective of real peoples lives

Out of all of the concerns I have regarding Insta this isn't one of them. Real people are not a homogenous mass; there is a massive spectrum of wealth/provisions/resources across the UK demograph alone. I nearly died when I read how much MOD's holidays cost but you only have to look at a holiday thread on here to know that that is not out of the reach of many (if they are telling the truth)
I don't follow any of the Instamums because for various reasons they are not relatable to me, but I don't think it is fair to say that they are living in some sort of parallel universe completely out of the reach of real people. It still isn't fair though because I want free holidays.

The term 'influencer' to me is a euphemism for brain wash when it comes to Instagram. Yes there are mothers on there doing some brilliant influencing. I give you Candice braithwaits, mp, thatmumwithcancee and a lady on here called kisscub. They have influenced me to think about situations and issues that are important and insightful.

But a lot of the others...They are influencing women to buy into their lifestyle, to adore them, find them hilarious with the not so transparent motive being to buy whatever they are flogging. I can't see how they've got much to say apart from this message.

Holiday.
Yes you’re right. But it’s just that it’s not honest...
By barely or not mentioning your nanny/wealth/adverts/ghostwriter/stylist/makeupartist or whatever you are being dishonest and creating a lifestyle that doesn’t exist. In a normal traditional advert that’s obvious. This is covert. It just makes people feel bad.

Yes tain for me it is the deception of the supposed purchase of holiday/car/clothing/house that irks.

What I don’t like about all this is that some of these accounts supposedly started as one thing take the midwife. She started with a blog about her job she then obviously discovered Instagram. More posting about her subject and then her twins came along. More and more people jumped in the bandwagon of watching the daily lives of this family. Then companies saw somewhere to cash in. Instead of her turning these things down like so many other people do she has taken more and more. Hiding the fact she had been gifted things etc that’s where for me the whole thing falls down. It’s all about taking advantage. She is or has been pulling the wool over people eyes and I find that disgusting. Going from someone who was supposedly supporting women she ended up actually conning women. She needs to sell her book so now after many months we go back to midwife stories. Oh and the people gushing at her about how she deserves all these things haters going to hate people are jealous wrong!! I don’t like fake people. People who are actually letting the greed take over and still trying to maintain they are there for the women. Please!

wren I do think MOD is making a concerted effort to take criticism on board and maximize the demograph, hence her last post about going back to her roots and being oh so grateful to those who followed and supported the blog.

I think she is contracted to write another book? so I can't see her going back to midwifery FT any time soon.

She might be making an effort now but I ask the question what if she hadn’t been called out? Would she had made the changes voluntarily. That’s why I find it so false

They probably are making an effort because people are right in their criticism. They can see the golden goose is starting to fly away and if they don't start the rot it will be gone.
I also wonder how long it will be before they start to get unfavorable press from tabloids or the press in general. The Hadley Freeman piece was the first I've seen.