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Babaloo88 · 13/01/2018 19:22

Why is the other thread closed?!? I was enjoying reading through it?!!

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advocatingmum · 13/04/2018 17:52

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FriendlyOcelot · 13/04/2018 17:53

I agree about the ‘being on phone all the time’ thing. With two teenagers, one thing I’ve learned is that kids these days are living in a very different reality to what we grew up in. As parents, dh and I try so blinking hard to get them off their phones, to not worry about instalikes, to see beyond the engineered image of insta and snapchat stories. We try to lead by example, but neither of us are perfect; we’re on our phones probably too much! I can’t imagine what it would be like to raise teenagers telling them one thing - that they should engage in RL conversation more, not worry about SM popularity etc, but in the other hand be making a living out of it. I predict difficult days ahead for these bloggers if they want to reinforce a similar message to their dcs.

PavlovaPrincess · 13/04/2018 18:17

I see some of the 'mamas' are up in arms at the moment as (from what I can gather) an American clothing company has 'stolen' a slogan from mre.seour (not a design, just the words Confused).

Not a fan of the slogan tees, anyway (I think they should all just get 'I'M HAVE KIDS, DONTCHA KNOW?' printed on a tee), but where would they stand with that? Can you copyright a slogan?

PavlovaPrincess · 13/04/2018 18:18

I not I'm. 'I'm have kids' would be ridiculous but at least no one would steal it.

Stopyourhavering64 · 13/04/2018 18:20

These Instagram kids are growing up thinking that talking to the phone and taking pictures of everything is normal behaviour...what will their future relationships ( with partners and children)be like ...no such thing as living in the moment anymore
My dd recently found a photo album of her as a child and loved looking through the photos with her bf and asking me questions about where we were, what was the occasion.....not how many likes did we get for this one or was this dress #gifted

CadyHeron · 13/04/2018 19:26

@CadyHeron that's a below the belt and potentially very misleading comment you just made to @MadameGrizzly. She did not at any point suggest they need SS and your comment could read to people who don't know the background that she did

FGS,missing the point AGAIN (general missing the point,not you personally.)
it was IN GENERAL to the thread. I didn't say she had said about SS.I said that the only reason people want stuff linking is usually so that they can pull apart!
This why I usually put general you after my comments.

CadyHeron · 13/04/2018 19:29

And perhaps we can all agree to move on from any discussion of SS here.

You directed something at me,I answered,which is why it got brought up again so I could address the point made.
Or do you mean you should just say your piece but I'm supposed to shut up and ignore it?

CadyHeron · 13/04/2018 19:32

Nope, I don't know of any other fathers on Instagram with huge followings and a similar USP to FOD.I don't think you do either, Cady

You do realise that there's other social media accounts out there with huge followings not necessarily on Instagram,right?
Youtubers,for example. It's not just about them. There's lots out there with the exact same USP and huge followings.

MarvelleGazelle · 13/04/2018 19:46

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Gobbolinothewitchscat · 13/04/2018 19:48

Well - can you please tell us so we can compare and contrast? Confused

Honestly, in the time you have spent typing various posts re-iterating the fact that there are numerous FOD wannabes and it is all part of everyday life, except when it isn't, you could have typed a list of 100 names!

CadyHeron · 13/04/2018 19:52

Gobbolino why, though? Why do you need names? If you follow (or you don't even have to follow, you just need to keep looking at certain accounts) the algorithm should automatically show you similar accounts. As it knows you like them and are interested in them. You meaning general you before someone twists.

Gobbolinothewitchscat · 13/04/2018 20:00

Because I we? would like to verify what you are saying

Because it would allow FOD's behaviour to be "normalised". If this is very common, then perhaps the comments are unfair

However, as the only account we can all access is FOD's, then the discussion will just need to continue to focus on him at your instance.

pineapplefritter · 13/04/2018 20:58

I watched a story by allthatspretty today.

She had a parcel of luxury creams and moisturiser delivered which she thought had been#gifted. Turned out to be her neighbours parcel, then at the end of the story said oh well I’ll wait for X company to get in touch. I’m baffled

Sofialemon · 13/04/2018 21:09

www.instagram.com/adayinthelifedad

He contributes to GQ and other mags, his kids feature heavily on his insta account. Different style to FOD and far less videos but still basically making money by being a dad and "exploiting" his kids.

There are loads of other "instadads" just none I can think of with the kind of following FOD has. Many posters on here don't like him and feel the twins shouldn't be featured but obviously you're in a minority.

advocatingmum · 13/04/2018 21:11

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MadameGrizzly · 13/04/2018 21:19

You do realise that there's other social media accounts out there with huge followings not necessarily on Instagram,right?
Youtubers,for example. It's not just about them. There's lots out there with the exact same USP and huge followings.

Phew. I'm glad we cleared that up!

So we (as in you and me specifically) agree that on a thread about Instagram, there actually aren't any other accounts run by a bloke whose USP is being a bumbling father and also have a huge following.

Therefore, that's why there is so much discussion about FOD. It actually isn't strange at all as his account is unique on Instagram!!

I'm glad we've together answered that question when posters ask: why all the FOD analysis? Smile

I don't watch YouTube recreationally. That's why I didn't contribute to the YouTuber thread on MN. In any case, that thread had no discussion other than 'get a life' and seemed to sink quickly. I wonder if anyone considered the constantly filmed content-children might like a life, too??

MadameGrizzly · 13/04/2018 21:24

Adayinthelifeofdad has a tiny following and doesn't appear to be a deliberately hopeless father. But yes, he's quite like to exploit his children for commercial gain, wouldn't he?

His wife is an instamum too, isn't she? DLAM tried to make her husband happen, but his account didn't take off.

Gobbolinothewitchscat · 13/04/2018 21:26

I've had a quick look.at that account but I don't see any clearly distressed children or semi-dressed ones or ones in school uniforms or in front of signs advertising their home towns or in ill advised, potentially unsafe, positions so I dont think that account is very analagous. The only similarity is that it is a man. And there are children

Can you let me know where the ones like FODs are?

Sofialemon · 13/04/2018 21:29

@MadameGrizzly

Ph*ew. I'm glad we cleared that up!

So we (as in you and me specifically) agree that on a thread about Instagram, there actually aren't any other accounts run by a bloke whose USP is being a bumbling father and also have a huge following.

Therefore, that's why there is so much discussion about FOD. It actually isn't strange at all as his account is unique on Instagram!!

I'm glad we've together answered that question when posters ask: why all the FOD analysis*? 

What a load of crap. You (general you) moved onto FOD after numerous posts snd threads slating MOD.

MCSpammer · 13/04/2018 21:30

Meh. I think the twins are lovely, hilarious and an absolute handful. All this faux worry about how it will effect the kids because they're growing up in a world where it's 'normal' to instagram your life. It IS for most teenagers and people in their 20s. If FOD was sat at home all day constantly filming the kids saying 'perform for me monkeys' that would be shit but he's not is he? They do all the normal stuff (and have some great experiences too) that a lot of families do. He just films bits if it and puts it on insta. I don't put my kids on SM because I'm shy in that respect and never put my own face up. Other people do. What of it?

Talking of 'distress' - how many times have people witnessed an incident at a supermarket/softplay/take your pick where a parent has handled a situation badly or a child is screaming their head off in distress , mentioned it here and been told not to judge, it's just a snapshot, you don't know the back story/what else was going on? If insta isn't a prime example of a snapshot I don't know what is.

Sofialemon · 13/04/2018 21:33

@MCSpammer

I agree with everything you've just said. Faux worry sums it up perfectly.

Is anyone going to start yet another instamums thread? If so, can you just be honest and describe it for what it is actually for?

MadameGrizzly · 13/04/2018 21:34

MOD has been compared to many similar accounts. There are no accounts we know of to compare FOD to.

I'm still curious why you are keen to repeatedly defend the honour of particular instagrammers, Sofia, when they aren't bothered to do so themselves. (Besides, you said you were leaving these threads days ago.)

PavlovaPrincess · 13/04/2018 21:37

@MadameGrizzly agree. I can't understand why, on a thread about Instamums in particular, some posters are so keen to try and turn the discussion onto reality stars and youtubers and any other kind of distraction they can think of.

Gobbolinothewitchscat · 13/04/2018 21:37

Talking of 'distress' - how many times have people witnessed an incident at a supermarket/softplay/take your pick where a parent has handled a situation badly or a child is screaming their head off in distress , mentioned it here and been told not to judge,

Ive never seen anyone filming their child at soft play etc having a tantrum whilst speaking into the camera. So, again, not an analagous example and somewhat missing the point

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