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Original poster

Interview tomorrow but I'm broken

164 replies

Dailymailshutyamouth · 10/01/2018 16:34

I've got a big interview tomorrow for something I've always wanted to do since graduating.

I've prepared but I just feel so anxious. I feel like they'll laugh at me for thinking I even have a chance. I can't stand my voice and I feel like I'm rambling.

I feel broken this week. I've had a hellish time since breaking up with my narc ex, being sucked back in and then dropped again this weekend. I feel like crying all the time, I can't eat properly. And the worst thing is I can't speak to anyone about it because they're all saying they knew he would leave me again.

I feel like when i go tomorrow they'll just knock me back and so there's no point. Aibu to ring and cancel ? 😔

OP posts:
LordSugarWillSeeYouNow · 10/01/2018 21:06

Op- I've said this before on here for a number of different issues...

My dearly departed dgm was a bit of a character, she often spoke a load of crap, she also often spoke a lot of sense.

The one thing I've never forgotten is this beauty that I have heard since I was a little girl, she truly believed it and now so do I-

"What's for you won't go against you"

Repeat this to yourself. You are worth this. You can do it. Believe in you.

Now is the time to close the chapter on the arsehole ex and begin your new life, do not let him ruin anything else for you please.

Absolutely rooting for you Flowers

Tomorrowisanewday · 10/01/2018 21:08

I was in your place 20 years ago. I now have my own successful business in the line i wanted to be in. I've travelled to places i never imagined when I was with my abusive bully of an ex. I'm happy, and haven't been scared of another human being since i left. As I've said more than once on this site, the best revenge is a life lived well - your life starts with that interview tomorrow, where they've asked for YOU. Good luck.

lljkk · 10/01/2018 21:11

My first thought was "nothing to lose."

See it as good practice at "faking it until you make it."
Clinicians do a lot of that on bad days, after all.

Neverender · 10/01/2018 21:20

Pleeeeease don't cancel! I got the job of a lifetime at the BBC when I was feeling the same. The night before I called my Mym and said I couldn't do it, so she said, "Don't do it then!" I did and I got it and I was overjoyed. It helped my recovery from an EA relationship so much. Good luck!

Neverender · 10/01/2018 21:23

Also, have a look at 'square breathing'Flowers

Neverender · 10/01/2018 21:25

And if they ask you a question and you need a second, drink some water and it gives your brain 3-4 seconds to catch up

Tistheseason17 · 10/01/2018 21:39

Take a notebook in and make notes! Make sure you answer the question and not what you think they've asked! The brain does funny things with your ears.

The hardest part was getting the interview so well done, you!!!!

Enjoy it tomorrow and breathe x

toomanycreambuns · 10/01/2018 21:50

Yay! Go girl!!! Let us know how you get on.

Bumsnetnetbums · 11/01/2018 06:38

Best of luck am rooting for you xx

OuaisMaisBon · 11/01/2018 06:43

Good luck, OP! Even just going to the interview well-prepared, as I am sure you are, is a massive positive step. WellThisIsShit's post is really positive and helpful, so if you can keep that in mind and your eye on your goals for today, you've got a very good chance of making it to the end of the interview successfully! I know it's hard, but please try and forget what you've been going through with the ex and focus on yourself and your future - you know in your heart you don't need a narc's support anyway, you are very capable by yourself. And honestly, congratulations on getting the interview in the first place, that is an accomplishment anyway!

Nomad86 · 11/01/2018 07:10

Please try not to worry. I've worked in recruitment and trust me, they don't waste their time interviewing people who don't have a chance. They want to fill the vacancy, they want you to do well so they won't try to trip you up.

They expect you to be nervous, they don't expect you to be great at interviewing, their job is to get the best out of you.

Just breathe, ask for clarification if you don't understand a question and give examples with your answers. Smile and ask questions you have. This is a two way process and you're interviewing them too, because you are capable and they will be lucky to have someone who wants to work there so much.

Good luck and report back to us.

Somersetter · 11/01/2018 08:04

Good luck - we're all rooting for you FlowersSmile

Lizzie48 · 11/01/2018 08:06

You can do it, OP, go for it. Good luck. Smile

whiskyowl · 11/01/2018 09:14

Good luck! Rooting for yer!

BulletFox · 11/01/2018 09:16

Good luck :)

BackInTheRoom · 11/01/2018 09:45

@Dailymailshutyamouth

Good luck!! Proud of you! YOU CAN DO IT!!

💐

Original poster
Dailymailshutyamouth · 11/01/2018 10:07

Interview is at 1pm so I will let you all know how it went!!!

Feeling nervous, but will all be over soon and I do feel slightly proud of myself that I'm even going.

I've written a few of your tips down to read on the commute into the city!!

Thanks Flowers

OP posts:
Withhindsight · 11/01/2018 10:17

Stay focused, imagine yourself in the role, put your make up and outfit on, walk up to the mirror, smile and say hello my name is OP and I'm the xyz for the NHS in a loud voice- then repeat it a few times looking at yourself before you leave the house for the interview so you have that image of you nailing it. Then concentrate in the tips above on your journey. If you get nervous, press your thumb into the flesh of your other hand just below that thumb and take some deep breaths, good luck

TillyMint81 · 11/01/2018 10:27

Good luck xxx

RatherBeRiding · 11/01/2018 10:32

Good luck! My daughter is interviewing for NHS posts at the moment. They wouldn't be interviewing you if they weren't interested!!

If you feel nervous - say so. They will appreciate your honesty.

If you need to think about a question - say so. They will appreciate your honesty.
If you find a question hard to answer - say so. They will appreciate your honesty.

Better to be honest than try to blag your way through questions you are finding it difficult. Remember - the interviews DO NOT want you to fail - its not a test (well it is kind of, but you've got over the first hurdle - they like you on paper) - they want to interact with you, see what kind of person you are etc.

Hope it goes well!!

WellAlwaysHaveParis · 11/01/2018 13:33

Hope it's going well OP!! And a huge well done again for going for it - you're a star!! Flowers

purpleviolet1 · 11/01/2018 14:47

Well done for finding the inner strength to attend the interview when you really didn't want to Star

Hope it's going well!

Original poster
Dailymailshutyamouth · 11/01/2018 15:03

Just got out. Didn't go particularly well I was nervous and I don't think I said enough about the research that id done. Don't think I'll get it but they said they had only interviewed 3 people for it so just glad I got an interview.

Thank you for encouraging me to go !

OP posts:
IrkThePurist · 11/01/2018 15:05

Dont give up yet, you were shortlisted with 2 other people. Its not like they interviewed 200.
Even if you dont get it, you;re on their radar.

toomanycreambuns · 11/01/2018 15:07

Well done for going. Smile

You've got a one in three chance so wait and see what happens. When will they let you know?

Keeping my fingers crossed for you!