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To think the no pubes thing is a trend....

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inmyshoos · 10/01/2018 07:55

My previous career had me seeing people's genitals on a daily basis. Most had full pubic hair. Now I can see (mostly on naked attraction) that fully shaved is the fashion.
But was slightly surprised when a 50 something friend of mine said he prefers shaven as I assumed he would be less 'trendy' like me with my 80s stylefanny
Is it just a personal preference?? In my day at work it was defo rare to see fully shaved. Out of 20 people you'd be lucky if 2 were bald!

OP posts:
HonkyWonkWoman · 10/01/2018 13:32

JaquesHammer.
giving them weird sex advise

What exactly is weird about me advising my Dgds to not be pressurised into anal sex?

I think that you are weird, saying that it is weird!

They brought the subject up as a friend of theirs was having anal with her boyfriend and didn't like it. So, I gave my advise, there's nothing weird about me talking to my Dgds about sex, at all.

They were actually more grafic than just saying gross. They said "it's only slags do that Dgm and it's gross.

shhhfastasleep · 10/01/2018 13:33

You just have a shower to feel fresh. I don't want to be in a permanent state of squeaky clean from every angle. That feels unhealthy as well as realistic to me.
You shave? Good for you. I don't? Good for me.
Sex life is fun and exciting, but thanks for your concern and non-judgemental interventions.

MissWilmottsGhost · 10/01/2018 13:38

I've had a variety of hairstyles over the years, from fully off to wild and free. Currently I am sporting a hipster short-back-and-sides Grin

I think generally we feel more peer pressure when we are young and as we get older we go with what we like. Current fashion is for all off, but no doubt the next generation will see it as dated and do something else.

Whatever floats your boat, pubes on or off is personal choice. But people saying that hairless is 'healthier' or makes for 'better sex' are idiots. Whether someone is clean or has good sex is not determined by the presence or absence of pubes Hmm

JacquesHammer · 10/01/2018 13:40

What exactly is weird about me advising my Dgds to not be pressurised into anal sex?

You didn't say that. You advised them to run if a boy suggested it.

Advising your DGDs not to be pressured into anything they don't want to do is good advice.

Suggesting that they shouldn't do something in particular because YOU don't consider it normal is very bad advice.

As with anything finding your sexual likes is through experimentation: there's nothing better than doing that in a safe environment without hang ups.

MadeleineMaxwell · 10/01/2018 13:44

I 100% believe that for some women, hairlessness is their bag. I also 100% believe that the number of women choosing to remove all body hair if left to their own devices (desert island type scenario) would be lower than the current number.

So yes, it's a trend. The 70s were all about hair, frinstance. Who can forget the resplendent pubage in The Life of Brian? I'm pretty sure full bush will come back around eventually, probably with some modern twist like dyes or glitter or bows or something.

Bernard46 · 10/01/2018 13:44

Honky - I am a mother of daughters. if you told mine to run a mile if a boy wanted anal we would be NC with immediate effect. How DARE you tell children that are not even your own what they should or shouldn't be doing wit their own bodies. That is one of the most chilling things I have read on here in a long time.

HonkyWonkWoman · 10/01/2018 13:45

Jaques Hammer

So, I am not allowed to give my Dhds my opinion then, according to you.
They know it's only my advise! For instance, if I told them to never go out drinking with their mates, they would tell me where to go.

You seem to think that my opinion has no value, which I find very strange.

HonkyWonkWoman · 10/01/2018 13:47

Get a grip Bernard46!

They were asking my opinion and I gave it.

Stop your pearl clutching fgs.

HonkyWonkWoman · 10/01/2018 13:48

Bernard46

Chilling GrinGrinGrin

mirime · 10/01/2018 13:48

@JacquesHammer

I fully remove. It makes dealing with catestrophic periods much healthier.

I find the opposite. If I shave I'm much more likely to leak. Not that I'd say mine are catastrophic, but they can be heavy or there can be flooding and shaving makes it messier - though slightly less ick if it's a light month.

Anniethinggose · 10/01/2018 13:49

Italian I am not 'into nudity' either as you put it, but I don't cover my body with shame if I'm getting out of the shower when my eldest is about, or when I share baths with my younger son. I'm not trying to actively show them my body.
I'm not sure what your other comment means, my body is unlikely to look like my son's girlfriend's? It might or it might not, I thought the topic here was body hair? So I'm sure my sons have seen some on me on occasion and therefore will not be shocked or disgusted to discover it's quite normal, but more importantly, a woman's personal choice.

HonkyWonkWoman · 10/01/2018 13:51

Actually CHILLING GrinGrinGrin

Morphene · 10/01/2018 13:52

Of course its a trend....

I don't shave any of my hair off....and to be fair, my pubic hair is cleaner than my head hair as pubes are washed daily while head hair only gets washed every 3/4 days.

I have wonderful clot filled epic periods as well....and the only time I've ever felt dirty about my periods was when I mistakenly bought scented towels and felt like the smell of air freshener was signally to anyone in a 5 mile radius that I was bleeding. Ghastly.

Anniethinggose · 10/01/2018 13:55

Honkywonk yeah, you need to stop with the 'down with the kids' sex chats.
I'd be fuming if my mother was spouting that kind of clap trap to my children.
I hope you gave your GDs a dressing down for calling women 'slags' aswell. What a lovely conversation.

BartholinsSister · 10/01/2018 13:59

It's all very well blaming porn, until you see how many of them actually do have pubes.

Lisajane2810 · 10/01/2018 14:03

funny i was talking to my 14 yr old dd about this recently. they were all talking about it at a sleepover and she was actually worried boys would not like it if she didnt.
my advice was dont do anything you dont want as i dont. in summer i do as swimsuits and summer but in winter i leave except over christmas.
im 40 now and found my ex liked it bare probably due to porn. as someone said earlier its a long trnd lol

Bernard46 · 10/01/2018 14:04

Agreed Annie.

Although she clearly finds it funny. Your DGD think women who enjoy a certain type of sex are " slags" ? . Jeez.

shhhfastasleep · 10/01/2018 14:15

Curious that some women think periods are dirty and that they can only deal with this by shaving/waxing.
Hint: periods are not dirty.
Another hint: Wash regularly and change your Sanitary Protection of choice regularly.
Perhaps we should all be locked in a hut when we are on our periods to stop the milk from curdling Grin.

Shave/wax if you want to but don't start with "the periods are dirty" crap.

HonkyWonkWoman · 10/01/2018 14:21

No! Anythinggoes! I did not give my Dgds a "dressing down" for having an opinion. I am allowed an opinion! They are allowed an opinion and so are you and everyone on Mn.

And No I will not stop my chats with my dgc. If they ask for my opinion, on anything I will give it.

Btw you keep referring to them as children. I'm not talking to kids here, they are 19 and we chat about most things.

Anniethinggose · 10/01/2018 14:25

But Honky, it doesn't matter how old they are, they are your daughter's children. As in, it's really not your place.
Slags? You're happy to claim that is your and your GD's opinion? Misogyny right there. Horrid.

HonkyWonkWoman · 10/01/2018 14:27

I said, they said 'slags' not me! I don't police, how they speak.

shhhfastasleep · 10/01/2018 14:28

Honky's grand daughter is an adult. She has asked for Honky's input. She can reach her own conclusions, surely?

Anniethinggose · 10/01/2018 14:28

Does anyone?!

Anniethinggose · 10/01/2018 14:30

Sorry, that last post was responding to Honky saying she doesn't police how her GC speak.
Someone really should.

HonkyWonkWoman · 10/01/2018 14:31

And Anniethinggoes

What are you talking about! It's not my place!

My Dgds 19 asked my opinion on anal sex and I gave my opinion.

I think that you are really odd thinking that there is something wrong with this.

Just because I am their dgm, they are not allowed to ask for my opinion?