To think the no pubes thing is a trend....

[inmyshoos]

My previous career had me seeing people's genitals on a daily basis. Most had full pubic hair. Now I can see (mostly on naked attraction) that fully shaved is the fashion.
But was slightly surprised when a 50 something friend of mine said he prefers shaven as I assumed he would be less 'trendy' like me with my 80s stylefanny
Is it just a personal preference?? In my day at work it was defo rare to see fully shaved. Out of 20 people you'd be lucky if 2 were bald!

Wombling im not trying to offend you. I actually find it reassuring that you do it because you prefer it.
I'm just saying honestly (rightly or wrongly) that it does make me feel slightly uneasy when it's a man's preference. But I'm also open to the fact that this might say more about me than him.

I do think it's a worrying trend - so much pressure on young girls. Though online discussione like this make me realise it's not as universal as some people seem to think. I personally find the bare look gives me the creeps (and is insanely itchy). But that's just me.

Couldn't care less what you think frankly, Immy. I'm old enough and tough enough not to think anyone else's views on my fanjo count.

But fill your boots being judgemental ..

Still waiting for a "scented foreskin cleanser"

There was a pitch on Dragon's Den for male "wipes" a few years ago. If I remember rightly, the plan was to have vending machines for them in pubs & clubs etc. Didn't get any offers though.

I've been fully shaved once in my life, for surgery (totally unnecessary)
Never ever again.
Itched like hell.

wombling jeez I thought I'd made it clear I couldn't care less if you dye yours pink with purple spots. I'm not judging you or any other females who shave their fangos.
I'm simply stating it rightly or wrongly makes me uneasy when it's a man's preference. I wish it didn't but I'm being honest. When my 50 something male friend said it was his preference it made me think yuk really but then he has questionable taste in sofas also....

Wombling, obviously a 50 year old with no pubic hair looks like an old person with no pubic hair. (I am a hairy 53 year old, myself.)

My 16 year old daughter, (being told by all the influences around her that she should shave or wax to be beautiful, even though it is itchy, painful, unhygienic, and time consuming---) not so much.

I don't care whether you shave or not, obviously, but I do think the pressure on girls to shave is a feminist issue, not just a matter of personal taste.

Young girls are often too caught up in trying to conform, rebel, feel attractive, etc, to be able to see this. My (admittedly judgemental) opinion is that this should be obvious to a confident older woman.

Sometimes i have a bush, sometimes I’m back & sometimes I leave a little for decoration 😂

Bald not back

Hmm.
I've never thought of it as a trend but obviously no pubes IS more of a thing nowadays.

For me personally I hate it being hairy. It makes me feel sweaty and uncomfortable so I've always kept it short. Normally give it a go over with a razor once a week.

Back about 15 years ago, i went bare for the 1st time and loved the feeling however due to a major mishap which occured the evening of the wax and saw me hospitalised, i then did it occassionally just for myself for my own feel good factor as it definitely wasnt for a partner as i was single and had been for several years.

The day i got together with my now partner, i knew i wanted him to stay over the next day as we were going on a day out as friends the next morning and that became the day we started going out,

I went thru my bathroom cabinet the night before and did a great job on myself with veet cos i was doing it for me, whether or not anything happened between us or not. The only part i got it into that stang like hell was urethea opening.

Sorry its the Daily mail = www.dailymail.co.uk/news/fb-5234975/WHAT-PENIS-WHITENING.html

I am on the younger side (early 30s) and after a decade of waxing pretty much everything, I can no longer be bothered. There seemed to be a sex and the city phase where all my friends got rid of everything but then we all got bored of the effort or got older, married and didn't care anymore and now tidy and trimmed is the best I can manage and often not even that.

I style it however the mood strikes me

Sometimes it's all off, sometimes I leave a little and sometimes I don't do anything to it until I'm embarrassed to get changed at the gym

I’m not even sure it’s a man preference tbh.

But in the last 10 years, Porn has taken such a huge place. This is the only time when we all get to see naked bodies, so whatever happens in porn films has become the norm.
There is an element of ‘if you see xx happening often, it becomes normal and yummy don’t even question it anymore’ (not just for sex btw. It’s also how much men are doing in the house, racism to how we normally dress, if we snack between meals etc....)

It doesn’t mean that some people didn’t go bare before. And as a PP was saying, in the ME it’s far from being a new trend, so it will change from one culture to the next. (Eg I remember all the talk about a Brazilian when I was a teen and how strange it was for them to wax like this too)

In that way, yes it’s only a trend, fed by all the porn films.

On the other sid, because it is now seen as ‘THE norm’, there is a huge pressure for women to be bare. Pressure from friends and make partners. You just have to see comments from teenagers It’s certainly not ‘live and let live. You can do whatever you want with yur body’ but very clearly a huge pressure and shaming if you dint.

@HermioneAndMsJones
"You can do whatever you want with yur body’ but very clearly a huge pressure and shaming if you dint."

Yep, very clearly illustrated by the comment just above you from @amusedbush :
"sometimes I don't do anything to it until I'm embarrassed to get changed at the gym"

but I do think the pressure on girls to shave is a feminist issue, not just a matter of personal taste.

Agreed. I know some men shave too, but I think it feeds into this idea that women's bodies are inherently disgusting unless they've had every scrap of hair removed from them. (Eg when India Willoughby said on Women's Hour that women without shaved legs were "dirty".)

Just teach your kids that they have their own minds and are not sheep. How they want to look is up to them. If they want to spend ages on unnecessary work, fine. Anything beyond washing is unnecessary but most of us do something more. Fine if we choose.

I fully remove. It makes dealing with catestrophic periods much healthier and following a bout of hair loss due to illness, the subsequent regrowth was way, way coarser and irritated.

I have no clue what my bf prefers, not his choice.

I too agree that it's added pressure on women

I don't know that it's an exclusively female pressure - I'm mid 20's and would be pretty surprised to date a guy who didn't trim/shave!

Although I don't bother shaving my armpits/legs much

Not a trend, it's been around for about 20 years now, like a PP said.

Anyway, shave or don't.

My grandmother had a Hollywood until the day she died

How and why would you know this?? 😂

Imo all this preening and primping has definitely gone too far. Only shaved pubes once for an operation and found it prickly and uncomfortable, so not something I'd do again.
As someone mentioned, it's been popularized by the porn industry, which is mainly the degradation of women and don't get me going about anal sex, that someone mentioned. I've told my Dgd's if anyone suggests it tell them to eff right off!

I love anal Honky. Plenty of women do. How awful for YOU to decide what other women should enjoy.

Anyone been called a paedo yet?