To think the no pubes thing is a trend....

[inmyshoos]

My previous career had me seeing people's genitals on a daily basis. Most had full pubic hair. Now I can see (mostly on naked attraction) that fully shaved is the fashion.
But was slightly surprised when a 50 something friend of mine said he prefers shaven as I assumed he would be less 'trendy' like me with my 80s stylefanny
Is it just a personal preference?? In my day at work it was defo rare to see fully shaved. Out of 20 people you'd be lucky if 2 were bald!

I agree with @stickygotstuck

All those bare ladies here saying that they don’t get rashes because they exfoliate/professional wax/veet.

I’ve tried all that and WITHOUT FAIL the next day I will get a red itchy rash with squeezable spots and ingrown hairs, it’s vile. I tried to shave from age 13-21 and have now given up. It’s not in my genetics to be able to.

Although @stickygotstuck I think armpit shaving is the norm??

I only know one person who doesn’t shave her pits ( I do mine also with rash) but she also has a number 1 cut which is bright pink so not exactly conformist.

You can get something call 'Tend Skin' for ingrowing hairs and bumps, it's quite good. I have all my pubic hair removed.

Honky, I'm quite shocked that you think you have any agency at all over anybody else's sex life. I hope your granddaughters tell you where to get off. Likewise your son/daughter when they hear about it from them. That's outrageous.

Italian I am not naive.
I was making reference to my sons seeing my body for a realistic view of how women 'should' look, just to demonstrate that some mothers, do make efforts to counteract the patriarchy we live in. I am trying to raise critically thinking, non prejudiced, young people not to be misogynistic, and that includes DD of course.
They see my body because I'm their mother, I'm the only female role model they have, certainly to that extent.
Of course I do more, though. I talk to them, and will address the issue of porn when it comes up.
But I can't believe that every single thing women do, is dictated by misogyny.

Rose!
It feels clean and comfortable. I cannot imagine not wanting to feel fresh always.
So shaving all your body hair off is what it takes to feel clean and comfortable is it? What utter crap. Why not shave your head too then?

And yes,^^ Italian, I do believe I will have an indirect role in my children enjoying their sex lives, in so much as I will not instil shame or tell them sex is wrong or they are bad, which are things I see a lot of people say they struggle with as adults, these things go back to childhood/teenage years.

Had mine lasered after years of waxing about 12 years ago. It’s a pretty long “phase”!!!!!

mean you've said you go for a wax for hygiene reasons. Do you not shower daily then? And what about your head as mentioned earlier? Does your love of hygiene not extend to your scalp?

Do you really even need me to explain this to you???

I will though because you seem to be struggling a bit with the difference between a head and a vagina.....

My head does not excrete bodily fluid constantly nor does it produce great big bloody clots.

what I personally feel is more hygienic

Except, PinaColadaSong, the available scientific evidence is that it's less hygienic to remove hair, as the bare skin is more likely to let infections in.

It might feel more hygienic to you, fair enough, do what you like, but it isn't more hygienic.

I cannot imagine not wanting to feel fresh always.

Rose, you do know how it's possible to feel clean and fresh without shaving? By, er, washing?

It's as mad as India Willoughby saying that women with leg hair are "dirty".

@ArcheryAnnie

Which is exactly why I didn't say it WAS more hygienic and specifically stated that it's how it feels to me (and by feels I mean physically feels not mentally feels).

I personally would never tell anyone that one way is right/wrong/more hygienic/less hygienic, it comes down to personal preference, a concept that some posters on this thread seem to be struggling with.....

*@Lemony", sorry, I meant forearm!

Personally, I find underarm hair removal the only one that makes sense, as it stops solid deodorants clogging up. It's practical and quick (as long as you don't get ingrown hairs).

@PinaColadaSong
Umm, it's called washing? Soap? Showers?

And your head does produce liquid, it produces sweat and oil and a bald head actually feels really fresh and breezy and clean. Guessing you're not tempted though as you dont get many bald headed porn stars granted

I personally would never tell anyone that one way is right/wrong/more hygienic/less hygienic

I personally would tell everyone that leaving the hair there is more hygienic, PinaColada, because all the available evidence is that it IS more hygienic. It's perfectly OK to state facts as well as personal feelings.

Do what you want to, shave or not as you please - your choice. But it's as well for accurate information to be out there.

you do know how it's possible to feel clean and fresh without shaving? By, er, washing?

But I can't exactly hover over the sink and wash my fanny at work in the middle of the day, when I'm on my period and go to the loo and find my pubic hairs covered in menstrual blood can I?

This is one of the biggest reasons why I personally find being bare more comfortable, because of the blood and clotting I experience during my period.

Annoys me when a simple question about whether something is becoming more of s trend turns into thread of "opinion bashing" and finding reasons to "disagree" with someone's personal choices.....

@GlitterUnicornsAndAllThatJazz ah so I'm a pornstar now as well as a liar!?!?

I shave, have seen I was in my early 20s, my own reasons for doing so, not for anyone else. I have only ever had one sexual partner, my husband, and he isn't bothered either way. I prefer clean shaven.

I started shaving when I started my periods.

They where so heavy and full of clots that it was just a huge mess, I felt dirty and constantly thought I smelled due to it. So I took scissors to my pubes firstly and then grabbed a razor out the cupboard. I started my periods in year 5. Hardly watching porn, hell we hadn’t even had the period tak at school at that point. I just figured like head hair it could be cut/removed at that age.

I’ve shaven ever since and in fact as an adult I even stopped my periods because it’s my body and my choice.

Pina: "But I can't exactly hover over the sink and wash my fanny..."

That's what BIDETS are for! Only saying this because I sooooo miss mine .

@Birdsgottafly "Also the comments about children are just to shut the discussion down." No they are not. I have said clearly that it doesn't necessarily imply something about posters or their partners. If anything I am interested to hear other's views. But some posters who are interested in shaving are quick to imply those of us who do not are the missionary position lights off brigade. Don't you think that is planned to shut down discussion?

There is a real concern that removal of pubes has other connotation. To ignore this aspect of shaving seems woefully naive.

Anyway, must get some work done!

LyingWitchin.

It doesn't take a lot to shock you, if you consider it outrageous that I have advised my Dgds that if a boy try anal with them, to tell them to "do" one.
And, that the boy has probably been watching porn and will think it ok and normal.
It's not! And I don't want my Dgds being pressurised into it.

I am within my rights to talk to my Dgds about sex and advise them, whatever you may think.

Luckily, they think it's gross!

Luckily, they think it's gross

Of course they do. Their grandmother is giving them weird sex advice.

I have given my daughter sex advice. "Only ever have sex if you want to".

That's all she needs, she doesn't need to know what to try/not to try. She needs to find her own sexual path.

@RoseWhiteTips I feel plenty fresh and I don't shave my vagina.

@LemonysSnicket I don't shave my pits much. I could be a half a person in your non-shaving arm pits statistics.

@Anniethinggose "I was making reference to my sons seeing my body for a realistic view of how women 'should' look, just to demonstrate that some mothers, do make efforts to counteract the patriarchy we live in." To be honest it is unlikely your son's girlfriend's body will look much like yours. I applaud your efforts but I'm not much into nudity personally. I never wanted to see my dad naked to know what men look like.

"I am trying to raise critically thinking, non prejudiced, young people not to be misogynistic, and that includes DD of course." That is completely commendable and I 100% agree with you in this.

" I talk to them, and will address the issue of porn when it comes up.
But I can't believe that every single thing women do, is dictated by misogyny." It's not, I don't think I said that everything we do is all about patriarchy. Sorry if my post came across that way.

But I do think a lot of opinions and view may be influenced by patriarchy and negative views about women in society. And yes, I too had to have a conversation about porn with my dd after reading a very distressing article. My dd was 11 and I had never thought I'd need to talk about it at that age!

"And yes,^^ Italian, I do believe I will have an indirect role in my children enjoying their sex lives, in so much as I will not instil shame or tell them sex is wrong or they are bad, which are things I see a lot of people say they struggle with as adults, these things go back to childhood/teenage years."

YES I would agree with this. I should have clarified. We can very much mess our kids up, we can give them negative views. I do not disagree at all.

But I meant we cannot be the only voice and as they age they will get a lot of competing voices from other girls or from boys and it is all a mine field. SO I do totally agree with you as far as it goes but I just think those other voices make a massive difference as the children get older. I felt you did not seem to factor this in, which is why I called you naive. If I misread this, my apologize.

JaquesHammer. Whatever!

If a man is only into oral on a shaved clean vagina, then I’m sorry but he isn’t into oral. If a man absolutely can’t stand pubic hair then he’s probably not into grown women . This whole idea that a shaved vagina is more hygenic is bull shit.