Is it snobby of me to not want it in my bedroom?

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DP wants us to have a TV in the bedroom.

We already have a massive TV in the living room, when actually when I lived alone, I never had one in the first place (would just stream films if in the mood for watching something).

I told him it just didn't sit right with me, a TV in the bedroom, and he said I was being a snob.

But I'm right aren't I?

Can anyone help me pinpoint why exactly it feels wrong? It just does to me, anyway!

Have you got a telly in your bedroom?

I've never had a TV in my bedroom til recently. I've got a chronic recurring medical condition which can have me needing to stay in bed for a couple of days. It was a Godsend when I came out of hospital and was stuck in bed for a week.

I must admit though unless I'm ill I tend not to watch it. I prefer watching tv in the living room and reading when I come to bed

No way would I have a tv in my bedroom - but I don't even allow my DH to share my bedroom - to me a bedroom is a sanctuary, peace and quiet away from everyone else .

Why doesn't the OP's DP move to the spare room if he is so obsessed with a tv ? (I think it was mentioned they live in a 2 bedroom flat with no DC).

DH snd I had a very similar conversation a couple of days ago, since Xmas we have a 'spare' telly as DD had a new one.
The convo ended with me "Well if you think I'm going up to bed usual time to be disturbed by you watching fucking Street Outlaws every night you got another think coming. Move yourself to the spare room"
Not been mentioned since.
I go to bed with my Kindle, which is on airplane mode unless I am 'shopping' for a book. My phone is left outside on the landing, so that when the alarm goes off I have to get out of bed to switch it off. There is No Noise. That's how it's staying.

I do have a TV in the bedroom and have done since I was a teenager with only a bedroom and even in my own houses.

However I do actually dislike using it generally and it isn't used at night in bed. It's only there for a spare if my Partner and I fancy watching something different to each other (Football) or we fancy a very odd lazy movie on a weekend morning in bed.

I don't like tv's in bedrooms, I go there to sleep and wouldn't think of watching tv in there.
I don't think it's snobby, just personal preference.

I am not faffing about with pillows in order to watch tv

I don't find it any more faff than arranging pillows to read in bed, or indeed rearranging them when I lie down to sleep.

Depends on the sofa really. And what other people in the living room are watching on TV.

We have one, I can't sleep without background noise, neither can dh so it's on a timer and switches of automatically, although I won't allow d's to have one

If you are using common to mean "frequently occurring", then TV or no TV is equally common in my experience. If you mean to say common, ie less worthy or classy than you, you are a twat of the first order.

My husband had one before me, but it’s a strict no here.
Two things:
1 Habit, we’re bad enough at half-watching crap downstairs, we'd be even worse if we let it into the bedroom. Also the potential conflict of one of wanting to finish watching something when the other wants to drop off.
2 The light and brain activity impact in sleep patterns. Research shows this is an issue, it’s why iPads and Kindles have a night setting with a less problematic light spectrum.

I think they recommend no screen time at least 40 mins before bed.

Is it snobby to not want one built into your fridge too?

We don't have one as it's too tempting to watch in bed and fall asleep or stay in bed in the morning. Don't miss or need it.

YANBU. What are the reasons to have a huge TV in the bedroom? Is it to watch TV while in bed (disruptive for the partner, and potentially bad for sleep patterns). Or maybe because of programming conflicts, in which case can't one program be recorded/streamed later?

My sister complains when her husband turns on their bedroom TV when she's fast asleep, waking her up; but he insists it should be acceptable behaviour. Personally, I'd cut off the cable for suggesting it ;)

My sister complains when her husband turns on their bedroom TV when she's fast asleep, waking her up; but he insists it should be acceptable behaviour. Personally, I'd cut off the cable for suggesting it ;)*

That's not a TV problem though, it's an husband problem!

Is that it??
Disappointed.
Expected some kid of sex act associated with underclass benefit claimants....

I never thought I'd have one but we moved to a smaller place while we were looking for somewhere to buy and had nowhere else to put it. We only use it on a Saturday morning to watch an episode of something on Netflix while we have breakfast in bed, and very occasionally we'll watch something last thing at night. Oh, and DH will often watch half a movie while I have a bath! It's nice - we get to snuggle close, drink coffee and watch something we're enjoying together. I won't have it hooked up to actual TV as I don't ever want us putting it on for the sake of it - I think that's made a difference as it's always a deliberate and active decision.

It was also a godsend when I was going through a very protracted (7 week long) miscarriage as I was exhausted but also extremely anxious and sad (as was DH), so we'd get into bed at 8pm, cuddle up and watch history and travel documentaries - it was wonderful distraction and meant we could be together whilst also taking our minds off how horrendous everything was.

Do people only go into bed to sleep? I have teens and spend a fair bit of time hiding from them in there - watching Netflix on my big tv!

Or they are in there doing the same and I am downstairs

I never put it on at bedtime I listen to the radio

Ghosty yes! Just to sleep. If I go in the bedroom my younger child follows me...or they wreck the rest of the house.

And it just doesn't feel "proper" to hang out there.

I don’t think you’re a snob, what an odd response.

We have a massive tv in our room but don’t watch it at night. We use it for the kids or if we want to watch something (usually football) and the bairns want the living room. There are admittedly a crazy amount of tvs in our house, but like your choice not to have one in your bedroom I guess it comes down to personal preference.

All advice I have ever read or been given by doctors is that TVs in bedrooms are bad for sleep patterns and bedrooms should be for sleep and sex and that's it.

If you sleep well regardless then maybe that's fine (I don't know if it affects quality of sleep) but if you are short of sleep or have general sleep problems then I think it's better not to have it.

Of course that is pretty rough if you need or want some space from the rest of the house...

Do people only go into bed to sleep? I have teens and spend a fair bit of time hiding from them in there - watching Netflix on my big tv

@ghostyslovesheets I think of you don’t have any issues sleeping it can seem very over he too. But really you shouldn’t do anything in the bedroom except sleep (and have sex, although even this is better done elsewhere). You shouldn’t stay in bed trying to get to sleep for a long time period either - if you’re awake get out and then after a short period re-start the bedtime process and try again.

My DP has extremely poor sleep and is under a neurologist - he has implemented crazy strict sleep hygiene (no talking in the bedroom, he doesn’t get changed in there, won’t lie in bed cuddling if he is awake, no screen time of any kind 1h ish before bed, wears orange glasses a couple of hours before bed if he’s home in time, no caffeine, extremely restricted sugar, no alcohol plus some other stuff).

The difference in his sleep is amazing, a slighy restrictive routine but worth it for him. Annoying for me when it impacts on me a bit tho but I can’t ignore the benefits.

I love having a TV in my bedroom. The freeview hardly works (socket/aerial problem rather than actual set) but I've got a Roku stick in it for catch up channels and netflix. I hardly ever watch it but it's pretty big (was my parents old tv from their living room) and watching films/series' on it feels like being in a cinema because the room is quite small.

I live on my own though, so I can do whatever and please myself!

I used to have my own TV in my bedroom many years ago when I rented a room in a shared house, as that was my space and there was no communal living area really.

I haven't had a bedroom TV since then, that I recall (it was a long time ago). It isn't a conscious decision that we have made, but in our house it is much better and more practical to have one in the living room and another in the kitchen. Our bedroom isn't really big enough.

It is personal preference really.

No TVs in any bedrooms here; we don't have one and I would never allow the dc to have one either. I force my dc to read books before they go to sleep. They'll thanks me for it one day.

I am most worried Doctors might frown on me using the bedroom for ironing now.
I am seeing my GP next week and run all this by her.