Is it snobby of me to not want it in my bedroom?

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DP wants us to have a TV in the bedroom.

We already have a massive TV in the living room, when actually when I lived alone, I never had one in the first place (would just stream films if in the mood for watching something).

I told him it just didn't sit right with me, a TV in the bedroom, and he said I was being a snob.

But I'm right aren't I?

Can anyone help me pinpoint why exactly it feels wrong? It just does to me, anyway!

Have you got a telly in your bedroom?

We have a TV in our bedroom, but not one downstairs. We don't really watch TV, but it's useful if one of us is feeling under the weather to curl up and watch something, or for lazy Sunday mornings. Kids tend to watch stuff on their iPads, but don't really watch much. I think this is better, as we don't have a "telly always on/watch any old guff" , which seems to happen with a lot of people who have TVs in their living rooms, that they switch on when they get home, and then leave on all evening.

It's the sleep thing for me too op , the living room is for watching tv but your bedroom is a calm space for sleeping.

My exh had a tv in our bedroom and it drove me mad , he'd fall asleep with it on and it always kept me awake.

Love having a tv in the bedroom. Always watch the news in bed.

Hate the thought of basically having other people and their noise in your bedroom. And watching TV in bed feels slobby. I would hate it.

We have one in our bedroom. It was a godsend when I was on bed rest tbh but I don't use it a lot. My dh uses it to play on his PlayStation so I can watch tv downstairs, he turns it off when I go to bed 9/10 and if not he has wireless headphones so it spent disturb me. But if you don't want one then I think your dh has to at least listen to your reasons.

I had no idea there was such a great divide
We have one in the bedroom, it was given to us by DM and it seemed petty to refuse it. It's only small and we only really use it if we are ill and in bed or if we specifically want to watch different things.
Given the choice I wouldn't have it, but I can't get too worked up by it's presence TBH.

Nope, no TV in the bedroom but with a newborn I'm watching my tablet in bed a lot (at times when I really should be asleep)

I also think they're monstrously ugly things and I wish I could conceal the one in the sitting room.

Dh would have one but for me bed is for sex and sleep.I win 😁

Maybe you see it as romance out the window? I have a tv in the bedroom, as well as the livingroom and familyroom. DH & I don't have the same taste in programs, he watches a ton of sports, I watch movies and weekly programs. We do not have the bedroom tv on when either of us is trying to sleep though. I am the only one who watches it in bed really.

@BedtimeTea
Yeah I think it's a romance thing, I think also a TV often feels like a demanding third person in the room if you get me!

There are two camps, and I have found whenever I have this debate with other friends, the havers get very defensive and claim they only watch the news or earnest BBC4 documentaries on it, when in reality it's probably CBB or Made in Chelsea and they just don't want to admit it.

I don't have one. I like my bedroom to be calm and quiet and as a respite from daily life. We don't need more TV in our lives.

I don't like TVs in bedrooms. I can't get comfy in bed to watch it anyway. We have a recliner sofa which is sort of the compromise!

If I really want to watch TV in bed, which is normally only when I'm ill, I use the tablet.

Why do you want extra shit in your house? Watch on a laptop or iPad if you need to. Yuck - all that extra dust!

Definitely personal preference and I think it would be a lot harder for you to put with a TV than it would be for him not to have one.

also, even if he wears headphones you would get the flickery light. Awful.

Stick to your guns

Not a snobbery thing (unless we are talking about those sleigh beds with a concealed TV that rises from the footboard - they really are ghastly ) but terrible sleep hygiene. If DH really wants to watch something in bed he can use a tablet or a laptop.

you are right and if he's desperate there are tablets, laptops etc

For many years I said a flat out no to a TV in the bedroom. Then we moved into a rented house that had a TV in the bedroom and now I quite like it. It switches itself off after a set time so no waking up at 3am to advertorials. I like it best for Sunday mornings watching Marr/Peston/Sunday Politics while slowing getting up/getting dressed. When the DCs were small, that wouldn't have been an option though. If DH watched it every night, I wouldn't like that though.

We got rid of the TV in our bedroom in September. It was only being used for children's DVD watching which meant our room was invaded too.
Much better off without it.
But I have to admit, I use the iPad in bed a lot.

yanbu
it's bad for healthy sleep.

Don't worry op, you can't be snobby because you've already used the word 'lounge'.

I have three teens. The TV in my bedroom is my space and I bloody love it.

It’s not snobby.

There isn’t a single person in the sector of ‘sleep’ who recommends having a big noisy blue light emitting screen in your bedroom.

He’s a selfish toad if he wants to have the TV flickering on whilst you’re trying to sleep. Separate bedrooms would be on the cards for me in this situation.

No, never had a tv in the bedroom in 38 years of marriage. We only have one tv which a lot of people seem to find quite strange.

When we stay in a hotel like a Travelodge where you have to sit or lay on the bed to watch tv as there is no comfy settee/chair I hate it. Laying in bed watching is just no comfortable and if you are going to sit up you may as well sit on your sofa in the living room.

Not snobby We don’t have one as we gave ours to dd1 when hers broke and never got round to replacing it. Tbh rarley miss it. Bedroom is for sleeping and sex.

Last night I left everyone downstairs, arguing over what to watch, got into a clean bed and watched celebrity big brother all cosy. Bliss.