To be ‘setting up daughter as target for bullying’

[Mumyum1]

So my daughter is 10 days old and the name I have chosen for her would give her the initials A.S.S.

DH is not having it. He wants the ‘A’ changed to ‘i’ so it would be I.S.S. The pronounciation of the first name would be the same but the cultural connotation (for his and my (different) culture) of the A spelling would be lost and that’s really important to me. Our children’s names have always been a lovely bridge between our two cultures. Even his parents who were opposed to our relationship love our children’s names for their meanings and symbolism.

I do believe I will grow a human who will withstand such pressure should it occur however I don’t want to be the ass either, who wants it her way or the high way. Just so hard to be objective when the spelling of the name in my mind carries a lot of weight.

All opinions welcome. (Our previous two took us 6 weeks to agree on everything and both visits to registry office saw us barely speaking to each other. With the second one I felt so sorry for the poor registrar who witnessed our (civilised) disagreement over the spelling of DC2’s name. (I didn’t win). So this agreeing on a name in the first week is pretty awesome).

At my high school and college your initials were the first part of your school email and computer log in, eg [email protected], she'd have to use it a lot and it also means her whole class would see her initials too.

At my workplace we have to use 3 initials as part of the reference in outgoing correspondence, and as an identifier on internal databases.

My initials spell A.N.A.L

My mum didn't even make the connection (but she is very innocent). I survived my teenage years (and I don't think people really knew). People would have a snigger when they did find out but most people have something they can be teased over i.e Brian Butts, Longbottom, Gary Gay or even being called butter instead of flora or tampax instead of Tamsin.

I would recommend putting in another middle name after the first name as it's usually the first initial of the middle name that's used. But it's really not a big deal. I'm glad that i've got my Grandmothers names but just wish it was in a different order!

I haven't RTFT, but it puts me in my of that song "A boy named Sue".
Don't do it.

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Please don't do it! Made a mistake with DS2's initials that we didn't spot but unfortunately other teenage boys at school have. My son hates his initials.

My nanna's initials spell WAR and she hates it, really hates it.

The only way to set up someone for bullying is to teach your child how to bully.

I went to school with a girl whose initials were V.D. Her nickname was "clap". I would change the middle name.

My mum is in her 70s she still describes how grateful she is that her proposed middle name was changed at the last minute, so that she didn't have to go to school with her initials being an insult. YABU. Extra middle name would do it.

When I sign off initials I write B.B. and never thought twice about it until someone told me it makes them think of big boobs. I still do it because people with dirty minds can jog on.

Personally I wouldn't do ASS or ISS. And remember if/when she marries she might choose to change the last one anyway, especially if she wants to get away from it, so your thoughts about culture will be lost. Just give her something that can't be made into a word. It's really much easier on the baby that way. Find another culturally beautiful word that you can give her instead. Just don't give her ASS. It WILL be noticed.

ISS is a security company. And ASS is American.

Who cares really? Your kid could have plenty of other stupid "deformities they get picked on for.

And who writes their middle name when you write your initials anyway? No one.

Drama over nothing.

Don’t do it. Cruel and unnecessary. Re:practicalities, we use initials all the time at work. Just ditch the middle name?

We gave our DC1 a daft middle name. They HATE it. Middle names come up when you least expect it and are all the more "hilarious". Passports were grabbed on school trips etc... Yes children will seize on anything but why hand it to them on a plate? What ever the reasoning, the initals are ASS. That is enough to set school children off and put her in for some uncomfortable times.

I wouldn't do it. I would personally find another name that you can agree on.

Could you swap the order of her first and middle names? So her initials would be SAS. You could still use her middle/"A" name as her given name but it would avoid the embarrassing initials.

I can't think of any time my DC have used all 3 initials in their life. They are 12,9,9. If in doubt I would give her a different middle name.

At my university I was [email protected]

When in taught at secondary my form was 8AND

Just because some people say they have never used all three of their initials, it doesn't follow that your daughter definitely won't.

The only way to set up someone for bullying is to teach your child how to bully.

What a supremely silly statement. Trumpesque in its inaccuracy.

ISS are a big support services conglomerate. They do our cleaning at work:

www.uk.issworld.com

Somebody mentioned having initials on sports kit. I probably wouldn’t want any child wandering around with the initials ISS in their chest either, too reminiscent of a cleaner’s uniform.

My old neighbours had a son, who they wanted to name as follows.. Name Dadsname Surname. Fortunately they realised that this would leave the kid with the initials ARS, so swapped round the first two names. Would something like that be an option for you?

seaeagle so you'd be pleased to find out your child was bullying someone because of their initials then? You'd support that on the basis that they had it coming?

Don't do it- my dd has to have her initials embroidered on her P.E. kit top. Imagine having ASS across your back.