Who was unreasonable at this wedding

[Dottie39]

Couple getting married. Family and long distance friends invited for whole thing, fairly small ceremony with around 40 guests and sit down meal.
Local friends invited to party afterwards.

After the ceremony, but before the meal, local friend arrives. His invite clearly said to come for evening only. He asks if he can join for meal but is told by staff all good is prepared however he can go to bar and order something himself. Bride and groom are oblivious to all this. (I'm sure if they had known they would have been more accommodating)

Local friend orders meal and stays for party.

The next morning when bride and groom check out they discover local friend has charged his meal and drinks to their room. They refuse to pay assuming mistake. Local friend, who had stayed at venue also is asked to pay. He argues couple should pay as they invited him to wedding and is now not talking to couple for embarrassing him and making him unwelcome.

Who should pay for the meal?
Who was unreasonable in this situation?
Local friend say they thought they were invited to whole thing, but was late and therefore missed ceremony.

Local friend.
Cheeky fucker.

Local friend is a CF and should pay.

How unbelievably rude of him.

Local friend is a CF and is being VVU.

You really have to ask?

Local friend is a cheeky fucker

Local friend is clearly taking the piss. But this is why I don't agree with evening only invites - it's like saying that you don't like them enough to invite them to the whole thing.

Friend: he came to a part of the wedding to which he was not invited. That is not the worst crime. Having done so though, plainly he should have borne all the costs of that himself.

It is a rather strange thing to have done. was it a protest of some kind? if he didn't like getting an evening only invitation he should just have declined it.

He was!! The bride and groom invited people that they could afford to pay for and those they wanted to be there, and this “friend” has invited themselves to the meal.

I am assuming though that the invite he got would have said something along the lines of “come and celebrate with us our wedding at xxx hotel from xx time” so not invited to meal.

Why did he stay at the venue? Was this a decision he made on the night or had he booked it? Presumably he paid for that though...?

Bride and groom are oblivious to all this. (I'm sure if they had known they would have been more accommodating)

Why the hell should they. They turned up without an invite and expected to be fed. He is a CF of the highest order.

What brass necked cheek. And if he was local why on earth did he need to stay over? Clearly money is not his concern here.

Can't believe he'd do that to his "friends" on their wedding day...

Local friend. If he was late the staff would have just ushered him in discreetly. He is trying it on. I would not consider him a friend doing this

The friend should pay,
Having said that I can't understand how anyone can get confused as to what they are invited to.
Did it clearly state a time on the invite?
If so how come he thought he should turn up st say 1pm when the invite states 7pm?

Local friend is a CF!

Good god. Local friend, not much makes my jaw drop open but that did, he charged it to the bride and grooms room? Even if you're late and were invited you don't do that. Appalling behaviour. And he thought he was late and missed ceremony!!

Local friend should pay.

I think that he knew that he was only invited to the evening though as you said that he asked if he could join everyone for the meal. No need to do that if you think that you're already invited.

I expect they ordered the most expensive meal/drink in the place . The hotel should have made him pay.

Obviously the friend, I have been at a wedding where an evening guest turned up during the meal, no idea why and I don't think the B & G were aware, it wasn't the type of place where food could be ordered, I think she had to amuse herself in the grounds of the place

As long as the invite was clear, it’s the guest who was unreasonable.

One of my colleagues once had a day invitation but in error, so when she turned up at the church had some dirty looks and then got to the reception and saw she was on the seating plan. She left and was very upset about it. In those circumstances I think B&G should have accommodated the extra couple as they had (unintentionally) invited them.

Unless the wedding invitations were so cool and funky it wasn't clear that LF was invited to evening only (bitter voice of experience) then LF is a very cheeky fucker and he should definitely pay.

How dare he charge his food to B&G room? How did he know what their room number was? If the staff simply accepted anyone saying can you charge this to B&G room, we would all be having free lunches at local wedding venues wouldn't we? Now there's a brilliant idea

Hotel shouldn’t let you charge things to someone else’s room.

This isn't even up for debate. It's obviously the friend. How could it not be?

No it isn't @Piffle11, it's saying 'we really, REALLY, want you to be part of our celebration but we simply can't afford it'. Weddings are hideously expensive these days...venues charge outrageous amounts as soon as they see a bride and groom approaching. I'm more than happy to be an 'evening guest' and feel very honoured to be any part of a bride and grooms celebration...why so nasty? Young couples are often wedged between a rock and a hard place when doing their guest list, agonising over who to invite (often with both sets of parents insisting on very distant relatives being invited for THE WHOLE THING when the couple would much sooner have their close best friends, which results in friends being relegated to the evening only as budget is limited...I know, I've been there!)

To echo other poster who asked why did he stay at venue and did he pay for that?