Who was unreasonable at this wedding

[Dottie39]

Couple getting married. Family and long distance friends invited for whole thing, fairly small ceremony with around 40 guests and sit down meal.
Local friends invited to party afterwards.

After the ceremony, but before the meal, local friend arrives. His invite clearly said to come for evening only. He asks if he can join for meal but is told by staff all good is prepared however he can go to bar and order something himself. Bride and groom are oblivious to all this. (I'm sure if they had known they would have been more accommodating)

Local friend orders meal and stays for party.

The next morning when bride and groom check out they discover local friend has charged his meal and drinks to their room. They refuse to pay assuming mistake. Local friend, who had stayed at venue also is asked to pay. He argues couple should pay as they invited him to wedding and is now not talking to couple for embarrassing him and making him unwelcome.

Who should pay for the meal?
Who was unreasonable in this situation?
Local friend say they thought they were invited to whole thing, but was late and therefore missed ceremony.

Hotel is the CF. Took the easy way out.

So which person are you then OP?

I can't believe the hotel allowed him to charge his expenses to an unrelated room, that's pretty shoddy without express permission.

The guest was out of order for doing that, but the hotel should not have allowed anybody to charge to the bride/grooms room without verification

Hotel shouldn't have agreed to charge it to B&Gs room.

Local guest is a right chancer.

Did the friend end up paying in the end? He surely should've done, unless it was unclear on the invitation as to what time he should arrive.

And very surprised he was allowed to charge it to the bride and groom's account.

Local guest IBU. But as B and G I'd probably have paid to avoid scene and then cut out friend as clearly a Dick and not someone I'd be/stay friends with

Did LFCF pay for his hotel stay at least?

The hotel were silly to charge it to your room. They had no right.

But who paid in the end? I'm intrigued.

No brainer - the friend was u. He was not invited to eat or stay so he has no business turning up and expecting to be paid for.

Of course he should pay, CF.

They invited those traveling far to the meal and was probably all they could budget.

Guessing OP is one of the couple.

The hotel is massively at fault here.

They shouldn't have let him charge it to any room except his own.

They should be comping it, as it's not their responsibility to chase the bride and groom for it. It wasn't authorised.

I really hope this is the local friend posting

So he’s local, ‘thought’ he was invited to the whole thing but considered it perfectly acceptable to arrive so late he missed the ceremony? Not really a friend is he?

The friend, how cheeky, he was an evening guest.

I don't like evening invites either. If I like someone enough to invite them to my event, I like them enough to feed them. If I couldn't afford to feed all my guests, I'd pick a cheaper venue.

I don't like segregating. Make a decision. Invite a person or don't. Don't do half invites because you can't decide.

However, if it was made clear what the invite was, he was free to accept or decline so of course he is in the wrong. I can't believe anyone would do that. I don't know anyone with that level of cheek.

Haha, imagine if every evening guest did that!

Obv Local Friend is a CF.

UNLESS the wrong invite got put in the envelope. In which case why turn up so late as to miss ceremony?

Local friend is a disgrace.

Well clearly the "friend" is the cf but I'd be throwing a fit at the hotel too. How can they let just anyone charge a meal to the b&g??!

Is this a thread for the Daily ()()()() ?

Of course the local friend should pay. However the hotel has to bear some responsibility here. Why did they allow this to be charged to someone else's room? Why did they not ask him to pay?

If the hotel are being shitty chasing payment from bride and groom I think they have to turn it round and ask why they allowed unauthorised charges to be made against their account.

I really dislike evening only invitations, but the 'friend' was clearly taking the piss. I do have a couple of questions, which wouldn't vindicate him, but would put the B&G a bit more in the wrong:

1. Why was he staying in a hotel, if so 'local'? Is the definition of local being used here a bit loose? If he would clearly have needed to stay overnight then an evening only invitation is pretty shit.
2. Why did he know when dinner/the ceremony were? Did B&G invite people to the ceremony and then expect them to fuck off for a few hours and come back in the evening? Because that is the WORST.

Again, he's still clearly in the wrong - he should have just declined the invitation if he didn't like it - but my sympathy for B&G is diminished if they expected people to travel for evening only, or if they did the awful 'gap in the middle of the day' thing.

Local friend stayed at venue and had pre-booked and paid so he could have a drink.

Possibly b&g would have paid to keep the peace a but they had no idea what had happened at that point so assumed mistake initially.

Local friend claims he lost his invite, so checked with another friend what the plan was. The other friend was invited for whole event so gave those details.

No gap in day and local friend lives within 30 mins of venue but staying was easier than organising travel and he wanted to drink.