Calendar snoopers! & why I think Nosey Fuckers are worse than Cheeky Fuckers

[Feinfine]

We've had the 'card readers' - those nosey sods who come to your house and read through personal messages in your greetings cards - but there is a new breed in town...The Calendar Snoopers! (CS)

Our calendar is full of the usual family bits and bobs of appointments and birthdays but as we're going through ivf (and have been for years) we have lots of private appointments on there too.

The CS came round for a coffee and started openly flicking through the calendar on my kitchen wall saying "oh you've got lots booked up for this year already, let me have a look what you're up to" and started to have a good read!

I said "it's just work shifts and birthdays" and quickly tried to shove a hastily made coffee in her hand and shoo her away.

AIBU but I just wouldn't read through someone's calendar to see their appointments? There's only myself and DH so never had to worry about anyone else seeing what we've written on it and it never occurred to me that a visitor would flick through the pages and look.

I have to write down what meds to take and when as I will forget otherwise and I've written it fairly subtly but I was still a bit

Yanbu. Get a fake one for next visit and fill it full of std checks and days to try new sex positions.

Oh and also meant to say, Nosey Fuckers (NF) I do find to be worse than CF.

Always asking "how much was that?" Whenever you make a new purchase then following it up with either "I wouldn't pay that" or "I thought it was cheap".

Makes me want to say "nosey, nosey, beaky beaky, just mind that!" Like a child

That is appalling! Why would someone do that? Couldn't she have sat down and asked what exciting things you have planned and you could edit as you felt appropriate!

Having said that, I have a wall planner at my desk that I put all my reminders on. One of my colleagues takes an unhealthy interest and I have put some off the wall things on there to make me look mysterious.

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Yes! Could get a fake one and have some fun with that!

Although hubby might see and get excited about the new sex positions. Then we'd have to do them

Some people can't resist having a look, especially if a calendar is in plain sight. But actually perusing it is very rude.
Mine is going in a cupboard!

ON almost every Friday / Saturday night add entries saying "Swingers Party!!! - @ ours"
"Swingers Party!!! @ Howard and Hilda's"
"Threesome with [name of your Calendar Snooper's DH] and Vera

If mine isn't on the wall I will genuinely forget birthdays!

There's something to be said for hiding it in the cupboard though I do agree.

Yes to people doing it at work too! I forgot about that! A different CS at work was looking at my weekly planner and whilst I've been careful to not include anything about my treatment on there it does piss me off!

My mother is both a NF and CF. I find it really invasive when she reads my calendar! None of her business what I'm up to. She will also expect to be able to read my post, read everything that's stuck on my fridge etc. As a result of her failure to respect my wishes and not read everything after I'd asked nicely, I hardly let her in my house anymore.

Love the idea of writing about swingers party on the calendar!!!

DPs dad does this. We used to have the calendar on the wall in the hallway so it was always more accessible as we were coming and going. Needless to say I swiftly moved it to the kitchen after spotting him gawking at it for the umpteenth time.

He's very much a control freak, which I won't tolerate, which wasn't helped by him being over invested in our business

Def take it down before he comes home!!

"Buy anal plug"
"Menage a trois with Edwardo"
"

i hate it when I show a photo of something/someone on my phone, and then they start scrolling through photos.

There's nothing dodgy in there, i just think 'what on EARTH are you doing rifling through my bloody phone'

This is SO rude! A relative does this with my elderly parents (who of course have a lot of medical appointments on their calendar) and I have told DM to either hide the calendar when this person visits.

She thinks that the same person also takes the opportunity to nosy into bedrooms etc when they go to the bathroom. I have told her to make sure at least that the doors are closed, but as she said, there is always the one time you forget.

This happened to me but I didn't realise it. I went on holiday and a friend popped in to feed the cat. She went into my study and read the full size wall planner without me knowing. I only realised when I came home and she started behaving oddly when it came to pay bills for our 3-4 weekly pub lunch and after the third time of my being left to pay I asked her if she had money troubles. She replied "no, I just don't see why I should pay when my taxes pay your benefits". Because I get carers allowance and DLA for my son as I was studying for a BA part time. I suddenly twigged that I had written all my tax credit and payment dates on the planner and she had arranged all of our lunches on my pay day. Needless to say, that friendship ended pretty much right there and then. What made it worse is she wasn't working herself either.

I too cannot STAND NF. A certain sort seems to think that they have a right to subject you to a cross-examination about aspects of your life. I hate it

Yes! NFs also look in my bathroom cabinet and use my bathroom scales! Our scales are rarely used so I put them in a fairly hidden place, so they aren't in the way as bathroom is small, and they will come back from the loo and announce "ooo I've lost a couple of pounds" and I get annoyed that my bathroom has been searched for the scales!

Oh for a downstairs toilet...that way I could store my pile cream in my bathroom drawers rather than in my bedroom!

My mum used to do this. Drove me mad

She's in a home now, with advanced Altzheimer's. I'd give anything for her to be standing in my kitchen, noseying through my calendar

RAAAAAAAAAAAAAR this drives me nuts.

As do card snoopers "Can I look at your birthday/other event cards?" then proceed to read them >>> Yes mother I am looking at YOU!

i hate it when I show a photo of something/someone on my phone, and then they start scrolling through photos.

There's nothing dodgy in there, i just think 'what on EARTH are you doing rifling through my bloody phone'

My BIL did this once and I was agog. Also bloody lucky as if he’d scrolled two more photos before I snatched it back he’d have got an eyeful of something that was definitely only for DH!

We always write quite personal messages in our cards between myself and DH rather than just "happy bday, love from Feinfine"

So it feels like someone is reading a text or secret letter when they read say, an anniversary card. It's so bloody invasive!

Oh the temptation to put up a calendar with mysterious notes would be too much for me, in that situation. Why would anyone need to know other people's business just puzzles me.
Anyone asking how much is that, ask them why they need to know!

I would put a post-it note on the scales, saying "Stop snooping through my cupboards, you nosy parker!" And a similar one on your calendar.

if he’d scrolled two more photos before I snatched it back he’d have got an eyeful of something that was definitely only for DH

Same here. But I wasn't quick enough. Just saw his facial expression turn from mild nonchalance to abject terror and revulsion.

Serves him right.

My sister does this with notice board and when I called her out on it denied it

Fils partner does this and it drives me crazy. Snoops through everything.

She read all the baby cards we were given after ds was born and wanted to know who each one was from and the relationship between us and everyone, same with Christmas cards.

She goes through the calendar and wanted to know what the dr appointments were for etc. As much as I like having a proper calendar I’ve told dh we’ll just use the shared one on our phones from now on. More eco friendly too.