Calendar snoopers! & why I think Nosey Fuckers are worse than Cheeky Fuckers

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We've had the 'card readers' - those nosey sods who come to your house and read through personal messages in your greetings cards - but there is a new breed in town...The Calendar Snoopers! (CS)

Our calendar is full of the usual family bits and bobs of appointments and birthdays but as we're going through ivf (and have been for years) we have lots of private appointments on there too.

The CS came round for a coffee and started openly flicking through the calendar on my kitchen wall saying "oh you've got lots booked up for this year already, let me have a look what you're up to" and started to have a good read!

I said "it's just work shifts and birthdays" and quickly tried to shove a hastily made coffee in her hand and shoo her away.

AIBU but I just wouldn't read through someone's calendar to see their appointments? There's only myself and DH so never had to worry about anyone else seeing what we've written on it and it never occurred to me that a visitor would flick through the pages and look.

I have to write down what meds to take and when as I will forget otherwise and I've written it fairly subtly but I was still a bit

(Apologies if anyone else has said this, seem to have a habit at the moment of missing the one relevant post despite reading the thread).

Don't you think we have a lot of NF's on Mumsnet though? Demanding info from posters that isn't relevant to the thread.
Or demanding the OP MUST update despite them coming on for support and be in a position where they can't respond.
Like the calendar scenario they think posters are there for their entertainment?

Our bathroom scales are très fancy and you can set your personal profile, it basically remembers your last weigh-in and compares it to your current one.

My DM figured out which button to press for my profile and felt free to comment on my slow weight-loss... so you can definitely be a bathroom scales CF and NF!

Oh dear I must be an inadvertent NF! I always look through calendars at friends houses if they are hanging on the wall. I wouldn't mind anyone looking at mine, so it's never occurred to me that anyone else would. Ditto cards that are out on display. Id never go through cupboards or look for diaries though!

Oh no I'm horrified as I am guilty of all three things mentioned. Bloody hell peoples must be thinking in really rude but as everyone seems to do those things to me I've never considered it odd. I do read greetings card messages, I do look at calanders but only on current month and in the context of 'When are you free? Ohhh shall I pop a meet in on x date?' I am also sometime guilty of asking what something costs which I do often feel uncomfortable about, but it would usually be if I loved it and wanted to know if i could afford something similar as we are extending so mainly house related. Must add these points to resolution list.

My late MIL once opened a letter addressed to my DH, and proceeded to tell us we could now have unprotected sex as his sperm test after his vasectomy had come back clear!!

If you're not specifically looking at a calendar to see when someone's free, why would you even want to look at it? I can be nosey sometimes, when there's drama afoot, but I never understand people who are nosey about the mundane aspects of people's life, why is it interesting to see when people have doctors appointments or parents evening?

This is why I have a diary rather than a calendar - can't bear this sort of shooping

snooping!!

Im not sure why I do it...and tbh I don't really register the details, it's just browsing rather than trying to memorise anything. Sometimes it's to look at the pictures, sometimes it's to pick up tips on organising myself (Year planner vs month to month, how to coordinate different family members etc), sometimes it's to coordinate dates with friends. And I tend to assume that anything confidential wouldn't be 'on display' on a wall for any visitor to see. I realise though that I tend to run a pretty open house with lots of people dropping in: im not a very private person.

Is this another example? If I'm in someone's bedroom (with permission obviously) I'll browse their lotions and potions and usually have a sniff of them all. Same in the kitchen - I'll usually have a browse of the shelves, pick things up to inspect them... i'm a right NF!

I've just thought of another example of a NF - one of my friends is massively nosey. Once I had a pair of ballet pumps on the shoe rack and she picked them up to smell them inside!

She said she was just smelling them as her shoes always smell after a while (shoes that you don't wear socks with) and she wondered if mine were the same!

Surely reason cards are folded is so the picture on the front is on display, but the message is private? (That's to a previous poster who said they're on display so fair game to read)

I put cards on the mantelpiece. I also sometimes stick bills up there, doesn't mean they're for everyone to look at.

I wouldn't look through anyone's calendar, I might glance at the page it's on, certainly wouldn't comment on anything - except if it had a nice picture.

"cards are folded is so the picture on the front is on display, but the message is private? "

If they're open the message is still visible though isn't it?

"If you're not specifically looking at a calendar to see when someone's free, why would you even want to look at it?"

Just normal curiosity. I remember looking at the calendar of a housemate to see when I might get the house to myself. Only the page being displayed though.

I don't nosy through calendars, cards, or letters, etc, except my mum's calendar, but only because she tells me to add any days off, etc for her as her memory is rubbish.

I started putting stuff out of sight when ex's parents had been in the house in the early days and I realised my stuff had been moved. I still keep my stuff tidied away, but I trust the DCs. And ex doesn't come into the house.