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To make my bf wait hours for his blind date

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RedTartanLass · 04/01/2018 12:17

Ok so I've not been on here for years ...... but I'm raging. My bf has been behaving suspiciously so I checked online and right enough the wanker has a POF profile!

So I catfished him and we're meeting today at 12:30 ..... well he thinks we are ... I'm not turning up. Want to see how long I can make him wait!

If you're in Swindon feel free to give him a wave!!

Am I being unreasonable to make him wait a couple of hours. Will I be able to drag it out that long .....

OP posts:
Emmageddon · 04/01/2018 13:09

If you have the courage, go up to him and say SURPRISE!!! Happy New Year, you are dumped.

Justbreathing · 04/01/2018 13:09

think of him as your moving on relationship. before you meet the actual person you're supposed to be with

Missmee2010 · 04/01/2018 13:10

Your better off without him. X

Cbaanymore123 · 04/01/2018 13:10

I think your not my type is the best 😂

I know once it's all out op you will feel upset as the rush of this will be gone but we will still be here to support you.

AdalindSchade · 04/01/2018 13:10

I'd just leave it and if he contacts 'her' again say you walked by and he's too ugly Grin

Hereward1332 · 04/01/2018 13:10

Tell him you turned up but recognised he was a friend's BF. Let him worry about whether your 'friend' is going to tell you about him.

UnicornsandRainbows1 · 04/01/2018 13:11

What's the betting though that if he was ghosted he'll just go to the OP and pretend like nothing ever happened today the tosspot

Justbreathing · 04/01/2018 13:11

I sort of vaguely hope the DM do get onto this. then even though it's anonymous, all of his friends and your friends will know who he is and what a twat he's be made of

beingGoodNow · 04/01/2018 13:11

I'd say your line of "sorry not my type" and string him along a bit longer.

Justbreathing · 04/01/2018 13:11

@Hereward1332

oooh that's good. really good.

BackInTheRoom · 04/01/2018 13:12

@Hereward1332

Tell him you turned up but recognised he was a friend's BF. Let him worry about whether your 'friend' is going to tell you about him.

Brilliant! 👍

Original poster
RedTartanLass · 04/01/2018 13:12

Ok I'm going wait for him to message then say politely "Sorry but you're not my type" then block him!!

Then on WhatsApp I'm gonna tell him again politely that I'm sorry but I don't think this relationship is going anywhere.

Have a good 2018!!

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deckoff · 04/01/2018 13:12

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CheeseAndBeans · 04/01/2018 13:12

Sorry your bf is a massive wanker OP. Bloody brilliant thread... but hope you are ok. Much better off without that piece of work!

Newrules · 04/01/2018 13:13

Perfect way to end it!

TaggieRR · 04/01/2018 13:13

I like Hereward’s suggestion!

RandomMess · 04/01/2018 13:13

I've been here 10 year+ (old gimmer) the Penguin thread was utter legend, never to be forgotten!

Flowers at least you found out before investing too much time in him.

RatRolyPoly · 04/01/2018 13:13

"Yeah, sorry, I saw you coming out. You're just not my type babe, sorry about that. Drink that capuccino though , yeah? No point wasting it."

Do it.

Original poster
RedTartanLass · 04/01/2018 13:13

@Hereward1332 OMG yes!!!!!!!!

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KeithLeMonde · 04/01/2018 13:14

message from him 12:48 - How far away are you?

I'd reply

"Not far"
"About x miles"
"Do you know {name of street where you live}?"
"I'm at number {your number}"
"Packing your stuff and changing the locks"

Sorry you are going through this :(

InsomniacAnonymous · 04/01/2018 13:14

"You could just say "actually I have no time for lying cheating scumbags who pretend to be at the gym". That would do it!"

Best suggestion yet!

RatRolyPoly · 04/01/2018 13:14

Just seen your update - good for you OP. Fresh start for you!

Original poster
RedTartanLass · 04/01/2018 13:14

Oh no!! Not telling him it was me!! No way!!

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Bluntness100 · 04/01/2018 13:14

Nah, I'd fuck with his head.

I'd text and say "god you look nothing like your profile pic do you? Quite disappointed, I'm sorry but you're not my type. Good luck. X

And then give it till to orrow and then as you text

I'm sorry, I need to end this, I think you've let yourself go and the attraction has gone, personality wise you don't make up for it either. Have a happy life though,

Kentnurse2015 · 04/01/2018 13:14

You still haven’t answered what photo you used on the dating site..