Openly judgmental towards tattoos?

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My OH is tattooed from the neck down. They are cultural tattoos and he is a big guy, over 6ft and does body building.
I knew him years ago when he didn’t have the tattoos and when he was slim. Strangers were nice to him, and treated him like any other person. But now, he finds that men tend to square up to him on nights out, shop staff and waiting staff are abnormally abrupt and people in general is just openly quite hostile towards him. It makes me sad, and makes him anxious about going out.

AIBU to think most people aren’t this ignorant that they can’t see past the ink and see that he’s just a normal guy who wants to be able to enjoy a glass of coke in his local pub without men puffing their chests out at him whenever he walks by?
I thought we were over this in this day and age.

I am sure people can come up with examples of professionals with tattoos. Just as many heavy smokers can tell you they know of someone who smoked 40 a day and lived to 102 years old

Yes because that is a totally valid comparison.

I think if you choose to get a tattoo you know what you’re doing. Permanent mark on your skin. I think it looks chavtistic would judge a person for having a tattoo. They’re common & disfiguring. Fat women with tattoos make me feel sick. So tacky, tasteless on their big, fat bulging arms. I really don’t understand why they do it.

Ooh let's hope you don't need any of those 'snowflakes' in the future then!

You imagine right JH.

Nitro are you as ugly on the outside as you are on the inside?

With the fluffy bunch of snowflakes fluttering around our universities at the moment

Including your very handsome son right?

Dipping i bloody knew it!!!

I never liked tattoos and thought women looked cheap with them. It's just dawned on me why. My mother has some and she was free with her favours. So just her. No one else. She abandoned me before anyone lays into me.

Yet, on an ex, sexy .

Year sounds like you had a rough time. Can totally understand why that has given you your viewpoint

@Nitrobetty1 You might think that I'm chavtastic but at least I can string a sentence together.

@honeybeemum1

You need to read this thread to get your answer Dipping.

I am sure people can come up with examples of professionals with tattoos. Just as many heavy smokers can tell you they know of someone who smoked 40 a day and lived to 102 years old.

The whole point is they are extraordinary, only because they are unusual.

A tattoo might not prevent you from getting on, but it certainly won't help.

All those with tattoos, screaming that I am wrong, know I am right. You wouldn't be so outraged otherwise.

This x 100.

The tat brigade are fiercely defensive and angry as fuck, and cannot BEAR to be challenged. And they have been way ruder than anyone who is against tats.

The fact is though that having visible tats WILL hold you back in some careers, and no, not that many professionals DO have them... not on show anyway.........Despite the tat brigade insisting every fucking professional they meet has a tattoo sleeve, a neck tattoo, tattoos all across their shoulders, tattoos on their arms, flesh tunnels in their ear lobes, and their tongue pierced. Most of them do not.

They are talking shit, and making stuff up to suit their flimsy argument.

Who is making ‘shit’ up?

How can you say the ones with tats are being ruder than those who don’t like tattoos yet accuse people of making shit up.
Read Nitros post if you honestly think people with tattoos have been nicer.

You’re the one making shit up to fit your narrative ‘every professional they meet has tattoos’ not quite sure anyone has said that so there you go.. a lie.

They are talking shit, and making stuff up to suit their flimsy argument

Yes because nothing outside your very narrow window of experience could be true.

Try broadening your wealth of knowledge and experience.

JacquesHammer - it's a relief really as I never could understand why I felt as I did. Who'd have thought a random thread...

Sorry you had to find out this way must

Now's the time to drop in the fact I've got a tongue piercing, right

The anti tat brigade are fiercely defensive and angry as fuck, and cannot BEAR to be challenged

Fixed that for you

Now's the time to drop in the fact I've got a tongue piercing, right

Like that other well known chav, Zara Philips?

Crying into my dressing gown currently Dipping

Jacques tell me honestly, how much did that hurt? Kept flitting between tongue or nipples & chickened out of both 🐔🐔

Someone informed me elsewhere that Mrs Cameron has a tattoo. Not sure if he does. Talk about lowering the standards

@mustbemad17 tongue didn't hurt at all, healed in 10ish days. Nipple hurt a LOT 😂

That's solved that dilemma for me then, thanks 😂😂😂

Nothing wrong with that JH,

My son (of Snowflake fame) had a girlfriend with a pierced tongue a few years ago. She was a sweet little thing, if a little eccentric.

My son absolutely adored her and was heartbroken when she dumped him for another boy.

The thing about piercings is they fulfil the need to mutilate yourself, but heal when you grow up.

Having said that, I have pierced ears...

By choosing to have tattoos and a built up body your DH is choosing to present a certain image to the world and be judged by it. Some people will be impressed by his physique and admire his tattoos, other people will find them unattractive or intimidating.

I am a middle aged woman who chooses to dye my hair, wear make up and have Botox. Some people might like the way I look and compliment me or admire me. Others might think I am vain, superficial, extravagant, maybe even mutton. I have to accept that by choosing to present the way I do I am sending a non verbal message and and I am not in control of how other people interpret that message.

but heal when you grow up

I'm still getting them done.

Maybe mother, director, home owner, community project worker, school volunteer isn't grown up enough.