Openly judgmental towards tattoos?

[StandardRussian66]

My OH is tattooed from the neck down. They are cultural tattoos and he is a big guy, over 6ft and does body building.
I knew him years ago when he didn’t have the tattoos and when he was slim. Strangers were nice to him, and treated him like any other person. But now, he finds that men tend to square up to him on nights out, shop staff and waiting staff are abnormally abrupt and people in general is just openly quite hostile towards him. It makes me sad, and makes him anxious about going out.

AIBU to think most people aren’t this ignorant that they can’t see past the ink and see that he’s just a normal guy who wants to be able to enjoy a glass of coke in his local pub without men puffing their chests out at him whenever he walks by?
I thought we were over this in this day and age.

frog you have said that people will regret It, they will realise that they look awful. You have said tattoos make women look less attractive. How can you not see that this is rude. You post a picture of a women with tattoos and then attack how awful you think she looks. Maybe you would like people to judge you on how you look? Do you want to hear how awful your hair is etc? You don't have to like tattoos but your judgement of people with them goes too far.

A tattoo is for life not just for christmas...

I am not a fan of very visible tattoos. At the same time I'd never deem someone a bad person simply because he's heavily tattooed. Tattoos are a person's expression of creativity, to me. It's really unfortunate that men square up to your DH, but tattooed + bodybuilding = "hard man" to most doesn't it so yes, other men and their egos needing to prove a point will be an ongoing issue, I think.

You'd think every man who commits a crime/ attack out there is a heavily tattooed muscleman, the way some people go on. But since that very clearly isn't the case it makes sense to me to judge a man via his character and actions. Not his physical appearance

I bet you are a stunner yourself rosetips, care to share a photo? I have a feeling your no where near as attractive as the tattooed bride in the photo. Have a Hun and chill out xxx

*I'm not angry!
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ok, then.

And yeah, @heyroly these days, you ARE more of an individual if you don't have tattoos. PMSL at the 'tattoo bingo' list. All those things are perfectly valid, but tattoo obsessives prefer to stay in denial, in their desperation to look yooouneek, and 'edgy' and to be an 'individual.'

Well I didn't get my tattoo for any other reason than I wanted to, frog I'm under no illusions that I'm particularly unique or individual.

And guess what else? Virtually no one even knows I have a tattoo.

So feel free to psychoanalyse my motivations a bit more. I'd love to know more about my desperation to project an edgy image to precisely no one.

I can never understand why people absolutely froth about other people's bodies/body choices. Some sound like they're bashing away at keyboard. Miserably angry. Women can be really cruel and cutting re judging physical appearance - particularly other women's appearance. It's a blessing not everybody's that narrow.

The bride looks nice in pic. I'm sure she likes her tattoos, and I'd assume the man she's marrying loves her the way she is. She likely doesn't give a shiny shit what anyone else thinks anyway so no need to put up pics dissing a woman then getting in a big tizz

Some sound like they're bashing away at keyboard. Miserably angry. Women can be really cruel and cutting re judging physical appearance - particularly other women's appearance. It's a blessing not everybody's that narrow.

Well yes, but there's judgmental mud-slinging on both sides. There's some pretty unpleasant comments from tattoo-fans as well, to be fair.

StandardRussian66

I didn’t say it did.

The fact your having a big toddler tantrum in the middle of the thread makes you look unintelligent

Do you mean you’re having...? What was that about people not being intelligent?

Of course we're getting annoyed, you're insulting ourintelligence.Making digs at our mental health and calling us Sheep.You are being rude and judgemental.Over stuff that frankly has nothing to do with you.

English is my third language, think you can cut me a bit of slack. How many languages do you speak?

StandardRussian that wasn't aimed at you.
@Pond @Cathy it's meant for you.

Fucking hell, this thread is full of sour faced old women. Don't start frothing at the mouth about people deciding to have tattoos because your life is that boring that the highlight of your week is moaning about other people's bodies.

dus sorry my coment was for rose not you

Fucking hell, this thread is full of sour faced old women. Don't start frothing at the mouth about people deciding to have tattoos because your life is that boring that the highlight of your week is moaning about other people's bodies

What a nasty, ageist comment.

Trying to do the cats/bum-mouth 😽 but my fillers are getting in the way 😸.

Joke that was a joke.

I would imagine that the issue with men is because of his size, not the tattoos-do you even see them 'squaring up' to to skinny tattooed men? Astor shop assistant I would imaging that it is more likely a result of something else like the way he dresses, his manners or, the way he speaks. Or it maybe the area where you live. In London tatoos are common enough the more creative professions that people don't tend to make negative judgments based on tatoos alone.

Judgement goes both ways. No need to be nasty from either side. Tattoos are rough, non inked are stuck up bores. Neither are true.

Must
Think neck stars are my least favourite

Frog: I'm not angry
Also Frog: proceeds to rant and rave for several posts

You can’t stop people judging you if you have a tattoo. The fact is, people do judge rightly or wrongly. I don’t disagree that tattoos if done nicely and carried off by the person with the right “look” - can suit the wearer. Combined with the right attitude and a friendly face - there’s no need to judge. HOWEVER- many people with them have badly done tattoos that only make them look less classy, rough, and obnoxious/ignorant. They also look rubbish on old skin. Personally I don’t have any because I think they wouldn’t suit me. I also fear being judged - and quite honestly these days - also just being seen as one of the herd, given that they are so common. I know it’s not necessirily the case, but I tend to think of them as lower class things. I’ve not followed up on dates with men before when I realised they had tattoos, for precisely this reason. All a bit rough. Am I judgemental. Probably.

Aww man i missed this flaring up again! To whoever said i will regret my tattoos at 70 give me a bell in 40 years & i'll let you know. If all i have to worry about in life is my 'ropey' tattoos then i should be some sort of legend...means i have sod all else of actual value to worry about 😂😂

I find it entertaining that when people get exasperated the insults fly & people throw their toys out of their prams. I mean, correcting somebody's grammar, really? 😂

Hope you all have a blinding day...me & my tats are are having a lazy ass day in bed 😆

Personally I dislike tattoos but that’s just me. I wouldnt think oh he’s a yob because he’s got Tattoos..

You can’t stop people judging you if you have a tattoo

Indeed. But you'd hope that people would give the smallest of nods to social niceties and not be openly judgemental or rude to a person with tattoos, which was the OP's point.

Imagine if I walked up to you and said "god that dress makes you look really rough". You'd be fairly upset I imagine?

This thread is full of the same old tired cliches over lack of job prospects, and "class" which are always opinion presented as the absolute facts.

Rose
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