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To ask DP to cancel 9.45pm restaurant booking

130 replies

Thewindkeptmeawake · 03/01/2018 09:44

DP & I were reading the Sunday papers which featured a restaurant close to us. I mentioned it may be nice to go for my birthday which is coming up.
He immediately emailed & called them & eventually got a booking for a Saturday evening but at 9.45pm.

I feel ungrateful but it is too late for me - I’m thinking starters won’t be served until 10.30 !

Am I being ungrateful?

OP posts:
Shoxfordian · 03/01/2018 09:45

Wouldn't be too late for me

Couldn't you have some nibbles at home before and a few drinks? Could be fun

RedHelenB · 03/01/2018 09:45

Yes!

RedHelenB · 03/01/2018 09:45

But I hate eating get late too!

Rebeccaslicker · 03/01/2018 09:47

I think so - he went to a lot of effort to book somewhere you want to go. As a one off, make the most of it - have some birthday champagne first Smile

letsdolunch321 · 03/01/2018 09:48

Ask him to cancel, you don’t want to feel rushed as the restaurant is bound to close at a reasonable time

Alternatively you could book it for the Sunday

Indigo911 · 03/01/2018 09:50

I wouldn’t be able to eat that late as I normally have dinner around 6:30pm and I’m in my bed by 10 even on weekends. You could go at that time as a one off and just have an evening snack beforehand, or just tell him you’d rather wait for an early time next month

thebumblebearbee · 03/01/2018 09:51

Turn up an hour early drinks in the bar, at that time in the evening it is likely there will have been cancellations and no shows so are likely to get sat before your 9.30pm booking.

Alternatively ring up without your DP knowing and ask to be put on a wait list for earlier tables, without cancelling the one you have. If you get an earlier table hurrah!, if not DP never needs to know.

Please don't tell your DP you aren't happy with what he's done, it sounds like he's tried hard to please you! Make the best of it, it's only one night.

Indigo911 · 03/01/2018 09:53

There is also a horror film called “Would you rather?” On Netflix where a group of people are forced to choose their death/torture method. One of them is “would you rather cut your eye ball with a razor blade or stab yourself in the stomach” and then he has to do one or he gets killed. I don’t know how people come up with these hideous story lines!

Viviennemary · 03/01/2018 09:53

It is a bit on the late side. I don't mind eating a bit later but 945 is pushing it. I think around 9 would be fine. Tell him to change it for another day.

Taffeta · 03/01/2018 09:54

Been in so many European cities to supper at 9pm thinking I’m dangerously late - leave around 11pm when others are just arriving!

Just adjust your other meals that day accordingly. eg have brunch and then a light meal at 4ish.

Enjoy!

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 03/01/2018 09:55

I suppose I would go with it if you can’t get in any earlier. I’d skip starters/look at menu online/choose quickly if you can.

Branleuse · 03/01/2018 09:55

i wouldnt go and eat that late through choice, unless i had nothing to get up for the next day

Rebeccaslicker · 03/01/2018 09:56

Wow indigo, you really hate late bookings don't you?! WinkGrin

WonderLime · 03/01/2018 09:56

There is also a horror film called “Would you rather?” On Netflix where a group of people are forced to choose their death/torture method. One of them is “would you rather cut your eye ball with a razor blade or stab yourself in the stomach” and then he has to do one or he gets killed.

Well that puts your late in eating in perspective Wink

SpecialAgentDaleCooper · 03/01/2018 09:57

It would be too late for me as I tend to head off to bed at 10pm!!

However if the restaurant is special enough that you really want to go then either go for your birthday or make an earlier booking for sometime when they have a slot, even if it is months down the line

C8H10N4O2 · 03/01/2018 09:57

For a special occasion late eating wouldn't bother me but I'd check what time the restaurant closes and that you are not getting the "end of service".

PoisonousSmurf · 03/01/2018 10:00

LOL Indigo! Think you're on the wrong thread Wink

WhatALoadOfOldBollocks · 03/01/2018 10:00

LOL @ indigo. I thought you were going to say "would you rather [insert some torture technique] or accept a late restaurant booking?" Grin

OP, it was lovely of your DH, but I'd rearrange the booking for a time that suits you better so you can appreciate the restaurant more.

SpecialAgentDaleCooper · 03/01/2018 10:01

Turn up an hour early drinks in the bar, at that time in the evening it is likely there will have been cancellations and no shows so are likely to get sat before your 9.30pm booking

Could be a dangerous move on an empty stomach when you're tired and there aren't any cancellations (unless you stick to soft drinks)!!

Sarahh2014 · 03/01/2018 10:05

Indigo have you meant to post on the disturbing film thread? I've just seen it

pictish · 03/01/2018 10:05

It wouldn't bother me.

Zatsuma · 03/01/2018 10:09

It would only bother me if I had to get up at dawn for children. Otherwise, I would just have a late lunch and enjoy the evening.

If it's really too late for you, of course ask him to change booking for a better time another day. It sounds better than cancelling entirely.

There was a thread from someone inviting guests for diner at 6:30pm! the other day. I am still shocked by that one, even in hospitals you don't get fed that early.

Zatsuma · 03/01/2018 10:11

to be fair to indigo the would you rather game was "played" in a diner party setting Grin

If it's that kind of restaurant, I would cancel regardless of the time.

SendintheArdwolves · 03/01/2018 10:11

I think it sounds fine - why don't you and DP have a late afternoon nap and something light to eat about fourish so you aren't totally ravenous, then enjoy your sophisticated late supper together?

And by "nap" I mean to give you Dan Savage's advice as regards valentine's day, wedding, day, birthday - any event with an expectation of romance - "fuck first". Don't leave it till the end of the night when you're drunk/tired/full of rich food Grin

carbuncleonapigsposterior · 03/01/2018 10:14

9.45 definitely too late, unless you are from southern Europe, I used to have Spanish neighbours who would dine al fresco in the summer late into the night Grin It's really down to the individual and their digestion as to whether a late booking is acceptable, it wouldn't be for me 8.30 is late enough.