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To ask DP to cancel 9.45pm restaurant booking

130 replies

Thewindkeptmeawake · 03/01/2018 09:44

DP & I were reading the Sunday papers which featured a restaurant close to us. I mentioned it may be nice to go for my birthday which is coming up.
He immediately emailed & called them & eventually got a booking for a Saturday evening but at 9.45pm.

I feel ungrateful but it is too late for me - I’m thinking starters won’t be served until 10.30 !

Am I being ungrateful?

OP posts:
HermioneAndMsJones · 03/01/2018 10:49

That would be too late for me.
First of all I would be starving and would already have eaten by then!
Second I’m in bed by 10.00pm and wouldn’t enjoy it at all......

Rebeccaslicker · 03/01/2018 10:50

Hahaha there's even an article posted right that there that refers to "the many of us" who like to eat late and lists some decent restaurants. Why pay a writer for something for which there's no demand?!

If you'd ever worked in a city job you'd know that often you can't even leave the office before 9, never mind sit down to eat. You're coming across as seriously daft and naive. Covent Garden, Leicester Square, soho, Mayfair - these places are full of late night diners. Just because YOU didn't do it doesn't mean you can deny it happens 7 nights a week.

BoucleJacket · 03/01/2018 10:50

I expect you do a lot of "challenging people's views" froginapond.

Probably in a strident voice.

Zatsuma · 03/01/2018 10:50

Most people do not START a 3 course meal at 10pm.

Fact.

Most people do not have to follow the same rigid schedule and are happy to eat at different times on different occasions, hun Smile

thebumblebearbee · 03/01/2018 10:51

froginapond

Please don't talk with such certainty on a subject you clearly know nothing about. I work in the restaurant industry. I have done for over a decade. MANY people dine after 9pm. MANY people dine after the theatre (hence why we have post-theatre menus).

I have also worked with and served many Europeans (most notably Spanish and Italian people) who wouldn't dream of going out for dinner at your 'normal' time.

I worked in a Michelin star restaurant in Rome, we didn't open for dinner service until 7.30pm. By contrast you will find restaurants of a similar calibre in London will all be open at 5pm. If you open 2.5hrs later you will also still be serving food 2.5hrs later than the average UK cut off time of about 10.30pm.

Also what restaurants stop serving alcohol at 11pm as a standard?! Only those who have strict licensing restrictions due to being in a residential area or some such. Stop being so silly.

lynmilne65 · 03/01/2018 10:51

Where all the clarion calls of ltb !!

Rebeccaslicker · 03/01/2018 10:52

Froggy is hilarious. "I like to be in bed by 10, therefore nobody else is allowed to do anything differently to me. And I know what everybody does, everywhere, despite being in bed by 10."

Brilliant comedy gold!

MargaretCavendish · 03/01/2018 10:53

Gosh, frog, this REALLY MATTERS to you, doesn't it? Why on earth do you think there is some sort of conspiracy to normalise eating at 10pm, rather than accepting the rather more rational explanation that for some people it is normal?

Pebbles574 · 03/01/2018 10:54

(Anyone who has to end their 'argument' with 'hun' knows they have already lost the debate )
#justsaying

JaneEyre70 · 03/01/2018 10:57

I used to meet with a group of old schoolfriends, but one worked in a theatre and never finished work until 8pm so we used to have to book tables for 9.30pm. Inevitably she'd be running a bit late, so we'd forego the starters and eat our mains at around 10.30pm. I would get home and end up sitting up until 2am as I didn't feel I'd digested my food, and soon came to the conclusion that it just wasn't an enjoyable experience to eat that late. We eat at 6.30pm/7pm most nights and I don't eat after that.

4forksake · 03/01/2018 11:00

Definite no from me. Not only too late to eat & I'm normally in bed not long after, but more importantly, if it was a special restaurant I'd feel like I'd be too rushed to enjoy the experience. Tell your husband you'd really love to go but at a sensible time when you can fully appreciate it.

AtrociousCircumstance · 03/01/2018 11:00

It is late. Hope you can get an earlier slot.

Grin at PP saying your DH ‘made a lot of effort’. Made enquiries and booked a restaurant. Round of applause to go with his medal...

Hope you have a nice eve Smile

Zatsuma · 03/01/2018 11:01

This is a great summary of MN

Where people like frog can start an offended argument about the most random subjects

This is better than the DM

notafish · 03/01/2018 11:02

I'd find that late to eat too but if my DH amazed me by proactively booking a restaurant I'd mentioned I'd like to go to - he's typically not a planner - I'd go along with it. If it's a weekend, I'd shift all my meals back in the day so I'd eat a late breakfast and late lunch, or have cheese and crackers around 6pm and skip dessert after the meal.

MrsExpo · 03/01/2018 11:04

My DH hasn't taken me to a nice restaurant for years, so i'd be thrilled regardless of the time. It's my birthday next week, can I go instead .... Smile

MsHarry · 03/01/2018 11:05

You don't have to have a big blow out 3 course meal. I only ever have a main anyway so not really a big deal. You're not going straight to bed are you?

Snowman41 · 03/01/2018 11:05

frog said fact after their post. So therefore it must be Wink

thebumblebearbee · 03/01/2018 11:05

Good grief I can't believe how much people fret about the possibility of eating their dinner what - one hour, maybe two hours later than there usual routine.

What regimented lifestyles people lead, it's truly bizarre to me. I guess these people don't do anything on the spur of the moment.

Rebeccaslicker · 03/01/2018 11:11

Bumble - precisely. I don't think I ever ate at the same time on consecutive days until I had DD! Even now I'm often working late and can eat at my desk or out any time between 7-11 depending on circumstances.

Whatabanana · 03/01/2018 11:22

It's not necessarily regimentation. If I eat that late I feel physically unwell-doesnt make for a nice dining experience!

blueskyinmarch · 03/01/2018 11:28

I think we all understand that what is a late time to eat for one person might be a reasonable hour to eat for another. I personally would hate to eat so late. Any later than 8.30 pm and i just lose my appetite. It isn't about being regimented in any way. It is about eating at a time that suits. It isn't really hard to understand.

My DP's usually eat at 5pm on the dot but will wait until 7/7.30 if we are going out. We eat any time from 6.30-8.30 but any later means we are tired and have lost out appetite. My DD's like to go out after 8.30/9.00 and eat late.

None of us are wrong. We just have different routines and needs. That is why restaurants have a variety of times to suit all!

WizardOfToss · 03/01/2018 11:29

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NotBadConsidering · 03/01/2018 11:30

What regimented lifestyles people lead, it's truly bizarre to me.

Alternatively, the children get up at 5am so when one has the chance to plan, one tends not to deliberately fuck oneself over.

notangelinajolie · 03/01/2018 11:39

I wouldn't have a problem with that time but I think if you are going to struggle to stay awake because it's after your bedtime or if eating that late is going to mess up with your digestion then I would change it for another night.

But if it's just a case of you not being sure because you've never been out for a meal at that time then please don't worry. Plenty of people eat at that time. Get glammed up - have nice cocktail or two and go!
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